Cantcope Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 I'm going to crack, seriously crack. Right here, right now. Trying so hard to hold it together because the bastard is only in the other room at work and I need my job. 7 weeks post break up and he knows I'm dating. I don't want him to hurt, I really, truly don't. I love him. I go 6 days NC and he pops up last night. Texting me to "get out of my f*cking dreams", then proceeds to make me feel like a monster becasue I'm dating. 4 freaking hours of text fighting last night!! Then it has to continue into today. He looks me in the eyes and tells me that I'm a f*cking liar and I never loved him. Says that all I want to do is hurt him deeply. Keep in mind that until last week, I was basically begging him to take me back. I didn't cheat, or lie, or steal....we argued. That's why we broke up. He sent me some sappy poem last week about how his life is nothing but misery and pain without me. So, being me.....I ask him if this means he wants to reconcile. Nope. He said that until I get serious help, we can't even THINK about being together. So, I go NC. I'm not changing my core being to be with ANYONE!!!! Yes, I have things that need work, but if you don't love me for me then guess what??? You don't love ME!! I've lost it. I'm hiding in the bathroom at work for half of the day in hysterics. What am I doing wrong by dating? Is there some sort of mourning period here that I don't know about? I've even posted about not quite being ready to move on yet, but I do want to get out of the house. I couldn't fall in love with anyone right now, he OWNS me! What does he want from me?!?!?!?! He doesn't want me, doesn't want anyone to have me, doesn't want me to hurt, but doesn't want me happy. It's like he's just so confused and tormented that he wants me right there in all of that with him. And there goes the phone again. I don't even want to look. No doubt, some crap about howe all I do is hurt him, and I'm the evil liar that's moving on. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
amethyste Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 If I were you, I'd keep ignoring him. He seems so... unstable. If he keeps insisting, I'd tell him this - that he's unstable and that I don't wanna be with someone who changes so much from one day to another. He's coo coo in the cabeza. Link to post Share on other sites
ameriveaux Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 Hmm, if you feel that he is seriously threatening, you can consider getting a restraining order. That might be extreme, but if you feel your person is in physical peril you can protect yourself. That being said, it could be that he is going through the same mental chaos that you are. There is nothing wrong with you dating, however it seems that he feels threatened and scared of the finality to this situation, and he is acting out. (by lashing out) At this point, with all of these problems you have been having, i do not believe dating is a good idea. I personally think based off what i read; that you would be a serious risk for using the new man as a rebound relationship. Until you are completely over the old man and your head is clear can you move on with confidence and certainity to the new relationship. You dont deserve to sabotage a new relationship, and both you and the new man shouldnt have to go through that head ache. If you are seriously suffering, perhaps i could suggest looking into finding a support group or therapist to speak with? Link to post Share on other sites
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