with insecurity - First Post

[BrandonHoward]

Hello everyone. As stated in my thread title, this is my first post. I came across this website a few days ago, and read through some of the threads and thought instantly this would be a board I would like to join.

 

If possible, I'd like advice on some issues, or just any feedback in general.

 

Wow, where do I begin? Forgive this, as it will be a long post, so those who read it and respond, thanks in advance.

 

- First thing I'd like to address is the insecurity I feel towards some of my male male friends and other men in general.

 

It seems like every guy I know has gotten lucky with women. They all sit around and talk about their relationships, or talk about how much sex they've had, etc. Sucks being the only virgin in the group. Then, they offer advice and make it sound like it so easy and none of them can ever really understand where I'm coming from.

 

I guess it sucks for me being a really handsome and attractive guy, but somehow still manage to have horrible luck with women. I've had two girlfriends my whole life. I'm 22. Didn't have sex with either, though I came 1 inch away from it with both of them. Got dumped by both for another guy, which I found out the hard way. So there is some bitterness on my behalf, especially toward 1 of them.

 

I realize a lot of the mistakes I made with those two girls, and a lot of the mistakes I continue to make when pursuing new ones, and failing. I'm quiet, mostly withdrawn in groups, a little too nice, or maybe just not cocky enough to say some of the bold things some of my friends say to women. I notice the difference in the way the girls respond to my friends and the way they respond when talking to me. They hang on every word they say, and with me its like your just like the nice little brother, or something.

 

I know deep down I need to get more confident and get a change in attitude. Its hard though. I guess its an ego thing. I dont want to admit what I've been trying for years hasn't worked, and don't want to give in to what may actually work for me.

 

I don't know. Just sucks having girls initially interested because of my looks, then once they talk to me a bit get disinterested, or so it seems. I'm just venting I guess, no one likes a complainer. I just want things to change and start having a bit of luck with women like I deserve. I'm not perfect, but I try to be a pretty decent guy.

 

Don't even know where I'm really going with this, but any feedback would be great, though I have probably heard most of it before.