Stuck in a rut

[bigdgsr]

Let me give a little background info:

 

Before we started dated we worked together for 8 years. She went to work for another company and we always stayed in contact as friends. Never anything between us when we worked together because we were always with other people. She is 33 and I am 29. We started talking in October and really hit it off. Saw each other about 3-4 times a week and everything was great. She has a 3 1/2 year old and I get along with him great. She has 50/50 custody.

 

We both decided to have an emotional relationship before a physical relationship. Talked about what issues were in past relationships and what we were both looking for. There was physical intimacy and we did sleep together a few times in December. She was definitely scared. She hadn't been with anyone in over a year and a half. That caused her to pull a way a little, but everything went back to normal.

 

Now here is the issue, for the last month or so, she has been distant and pulling away. We were stills spending time together and spending the night with each other, but her affection started lacking. Finally about 3 weeks ago I brought it up and it turned into our real first big argument. In the heat of the argument I made it sound like, show affection or get out. That made her put up a wall and pull away more. Basically she wanted less affection from me, almost like I was smothering her. Our communication is definitely lacking. There is a major disconnect between us. The past 3 weeks have been terrible between us. She's been stressed at work and she had family visiting this past week which added more stress. Haven't really had time to discuss our relationship and that has caused arguments this past week. I still spent time visiting family with her, but she felt stressed because she didn't want to have to worry about what was going on with me. I know the relationship she had with her son's father was definitely not healthy and he was physical at times. Today was our final argument. I have no idea where we stand. She doesn't want to break up, but I know she needs her space. I'm not sure where to go from here.