stopthemadness Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 (edited) Today is my one year breakup anniversary. Although its been a very intence year, I lived through it (big smile)!! I want to say thank you to everyone on the chat line (you know who you are) who talked to me when I just needed to talk. At any time of the day you guys were there..Thank you soo much. I really feel like when no one else understood me you guys did. So where am I now? Well lets see, I saw a therapist for seven months. I guess it depends on the person, but my therapist really helped me. She definitely helped me with the no contact thing. Because every time Id feel weak, it was her voice I heard. No I havent found my next relationship person yet. But thats ok!! Because for now I am Good!! I guess Ive been through soo much, that Iam not in a big rush to get into another relationship. I go to the gym now 3 times a week. And let me tell you. Its ture what youve heard. Going to to gym really helps you to feel better. I go to church when ever I can. And Ive made a few new friends who I now hang out with, so thats fun. My ex has tryed to make contact many many times. In between girlfriends I guess. But Iam not responding to anything. One time he did come to my door. Then and only then did I talk to him. But it was on the phone after he left. He said he was sorry for how he treated me. (he looked bad) I told him that i forgive you for everything.(Was 2gether for 8+ yrs) Seemed like he needed to hear that. Although I really dont think I do forgive him yet. It seemed like the right thing to say at the time. I told him that after that we wont be talking anymore. And NO i cant be your friend. Sence then my daughter had a baby 2 weeks ago (a girl!!) and yep, he used it as reason to try to make contact. But again all he got from me was " radio silence". I heard that once here and I loved it so now I say that (smile). The way he treated me!! Thats all he deserves from me. My advice to any dumpee, become invisible to them. It helps you heal if dont have to see them. Do I think of him smtimes? Well that would be yes. But it comes and goes and it nothing I obsess about. When I first came on here I picked the user name "stopthemadness" because thats how i felt. Like I needed to make this crazy relationship I was in stop. Well one year later...The madness has stopped!! Because I took charge of my life and made it happen. Ill still come on here to keep contact with ya all. So to all the newbes hang in there..This can be done..Keep posting it helps and check out the chat line too those guys are great. Edited July 7, 2011 by stopthemadness Link to post Share on other sites
chloe56 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Yay for you!! July 13th would have been my wedding anniversary and august will be my one year anniversary too, I took out my annual leave from work just incase I had a meltdown. Honestly, the apart from feeling kinda down the first two days(probably because I was thinking about it), I am just ok, only thing melting is my ice-cream and my bank account!! Looking forward to the future, and love LS!! Link to post Share on other sites
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