luvbug89 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 So my ex and I broke up, again (got back together, after he was txting me sweet nothings and then decided it wasn't going to work, BOO!) on Sunday. Awesome. No, not really. I'm a very passionate person and do my best at keeping a relationship alive, so yes, even though, he wasn't treating me as I deserved and really hurt me I still wish it hadn't ended :/ To make a long story short, our last phone convo (on Sunday) was us trying to figure out where we stand. He txt me earlier that week "Idk, babe" so, me not wanting to be confused, I wanted to know everything. How he felt, what's going on with him (he's had a few financial issues and his family wants him to go back to his hometown out of state) I never intended on being 'nosey' I just seriously wanted to be there for him, support him, pray for him. Anything. After him confirming that he would not want to live with me, doesn't like telling me his "personal problems" and will be moving back home because there's nothing in this city for him anymore, I knew that we were done and I ended with "delete my number and email. I never ever never want to hear from you ever againd" He groaned and said things under his breath and hung up the phone. Later, he txt "I did not mean to end things like that. You have always been a great person and friend to me. I leave at the end of August." I'm really great at NC. Too good, actually. So, me not budging is fine. But, when I don't receive anything from him.. I feel so unappreciated. I feel as if the other person doesn't care anymore. I hate the NC rule because my theory usually is -- if I don't contact him and not hear nothing from me, he'll eventually get the hint and not even bother to communicate anymore. I know, breakups usually end like that. But I want to feel the satisfaction of him missing out on me realize what we had was great. I'd hate for him to move on, although, I know he might once he moves back home. It's literally just day 4 of NC and I'm bugging. I really don't like my job at the moment, just received some not-so-great news from a university and I could really just vent or relieve my stress by talking to him. He was my best friend, he would be the best person to calm me down and had the best advice at moving forward. I just miss him. A lot. And, I do know he feels the same. As macho and hard shell he puts on, he is really sensitive on the inside and cares deeply about the path we took. (I know because he's admitted this to me before) Basically, NC sucks! I want to call him. See him. Something but I can't. Link to post Share on other sites
emby Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 I'm on Day 4 of NC as well and I know how much it sucks. I miss my best friend too I don't really know what to suggest. I also feel like because he hasn't tried to contact me, he must not care at all but chances are he's just being stubborn trying not to break first. But I've made it clear to my ex that I'm giving him the space he asked from me, whereas you told your ex never to speak to you again, so I doubt he will try and make contact with you if he respects you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvbug89 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 That's true. What I said was really out of anger because he was clearly being insensitive to my feelings during the phone conversation. I can't take back what I said though, so I'm just leaving it at that. But-- the last time we broke up and went NC for almost 2 weeks and he ended up txting me "I want to be your husband." "I know you hate me and I deserve that but just know that I still love you with all my heart." and "I'm having withdrawals from you, your on my mind constantly." He's easy to cave in and contact me once he starts missing me. I don't know if he'll start that again after things officially ended and is going back home at the end of August, but if it happens.. I will do my best this time to not respond. Link to post Share on other sites
emby Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 So...do you want him back or not?? Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 That's true. What I said was really out of anger because he was clearly being insensitive to my feelings during the phone conversation. I can't take back what I said though, so I'm just leaving it at that. But-- the last time we broke up and went NC for almost 2 weeks and he ended up txting me "I want to be your husband." "I know you hate me and I deserve that but just know that I still love you with all my heart." and "I'm having withdrawals from you, your on my mind constantly." He's easy to cave in and contact me once he starts missing me. I don't know if he'll start that again after things officially ended and is going back home at the end of August, but if it happens.. I will do my best this time to not respond. Ok hold the phone!! This guy texts you while your on N/C and says "I want to be your husband!! HELLO that would have gotten my attention. I dont know if I would have went all the way and got back with the guy but I definitely would respond to that text. I guess what am saying is I understand. But do you see the games this guy is playing with you? Only you can stop this from going on any longer and stop being hes doormat. Yes it hurts to break away from smone you care about. But it needs to be done. And once your throught it youll be fine. Stay strong on the N/C cause this time your on to his games. Soo call Game Over!! And move on.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvbug89 Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 But do you see the games this guy is playing with you? Only you can stop this from going on any longer and stop being hes doormat. Yes it hurts to break away from smone you care about. But it needs to be done. And once your throught it youll be fine. Stay strong on the N/C cause this time your on to his games. Soo call Game Over!! And move on.... I see your point. I never saw it in that perspective. Thanks a lot though. That read made me change my whole way of thinking about the breakup completely. GAME OVER! Link to post Share on other sites
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