skater360 Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Hey people i'm new here OK this is how it went...... me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years now last summer we were having rough times so got a job that was about an hour away from where we lived (her parents house) we started getting distant after about a week then she tell me she wants time apart i agreed 4 days later i come over to get my stuff and she's talking to another guy she tells me that they just kissed i flipped out and she tells me she wants me back and i told her the same well the next month we get an apartment together and we're doing great! then two days before Christmas she slips up and i find out she had sex with him 3 time once before we broke up and a couple after! this kills me!!! i feel crushed and empty!there's not a day that goes by that i don't think about them doing this!! i've been trying to deal with this for 4 months know and its just eating at me i want to forget it and i do love her i have some OK little trust in but i want things to work for us I need to know how to get over this! i was 15 when when we started going out i was a virgin she had 3 guys before me i have never cheated on her like that (i've only kissed another girl 3 months into our relationship) she is the only girl i have ever been with. I have so oooo much anger and emotions in side from this do i need so see a shrink or something? Any advice? Anybody Please it would help a ton! thanks skater360 Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 First, slow down and take a deep breath! You've gotta realize that she's hurt you -- maybe even intentionally. There are other girls out there that WILL treat you better. Get your life back on track and get moving onward. It will take time, sure, but you've got to start somewhere and where you are at now isn't exactly the place. Time heals all wounds. Link to post Share on other sites
kgal Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Wow...yes...take a deep breath. Find some time to yourself...sounds like you need some solitude to regain perspective. Now...you love this girl...and thats okay because love can't just be forgotten in a split second. I know you're hurting...so you need to really allow yourself to get through this grieving and give yourself space from her. She cheated..and in a way..so did you..but she had sex and you just kissed another. Trust is a key factor in any relationship...and the both of you might just need time to grow and realize what happened was a mishap...but now its in the past. Forgiveness is the next step...forgiving her, as hard as that sounds right now...will help you to regain some sanity and feel better about moving forward. Do what you feel is best...talk to someone if you need to...it sure does help and I'm sure that's what you need to do. Stay strong...this too shall pass. Link to post Share on other sites
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