Mothers emotional breakdown & problems. [long]

[LifeIssues]

Also posting this here, along with family section..

 

Before I get into it, I'll give some details on how my family life is.

 

I have an 'autistic' brother who also has ADHD he is 11 years old. My mother stays home to take care of him, as he is a very difficult child. My father is the only one in the family who works, he is the sole provider for our household.

 

My mother is taking to break down emotionally, she has a hard time with my brother. Although I mentioned he has autism, the only real part of it that he has is a speech problem, otherwise he looks and can function normally if he wishes.

 

The thing is he is spiteful, and purposely does things with malintent. He understands when he is doing something wrong, yet does things to purposely get a rise out of us.

 

Some of the things that we have to deal with with him

- Hurting our household animals, being rough

- Flooding the house with the sink/bath

- Purposely breaking dishes (we no longer buy glass cups..)

- Peeing in front of the bathroom door on purpose when someone is in there.

- Breaking any nice glass objects or ornamental in the house. (We don't buy anymore)

- Pinching, pushing us to get a rise out of us.

 

The list goes on, but I believe you see what we have to deal with everyday.

 

It has gotten to the point where my mother is having an emotional breakdown. She cries everyday, sometimes she'll cry at the smallest things. She will often shout about how she can't take this life anymore, that she wants her freedom back. If she knew he would be like this she wouldn't have had him, etc.

 

By the time my father gets back from work, my mother is over the top, she often picks fights with him over little things. He works long shifts and wants to come home to relax, my mother will insist that he takes my brother out every night for a drive.

 

Today my mother threw a tangent because she found out that there were maggots in our outdoor garbage bins. My father tried to explain how it will be cleaned tomorrow when they pick it up, and then he will water it down.

 

She got very angry, screamed yelled, slammed doors and went upstairs because she didn't get her way about the issue. She claimed that she's tired of living in garbage and cleaning up our house everyday because everyday something new is destroyed.

 

My father seems to think that she has some mental issues going on, whilst I try to explain to him that she is having an emotional crisis.

 

On-top of it all, she is having self esteem issues, she refuses to take pictures of herself as she is unhappy (believes shes getting old and wrinkled), and goes on everyday about how she is getting fat.

 

My mother had told me that she feels that she's losing herself, that she feels as if she gets nothing out of life, and that she lives so that she can give everything to the kids. She essentially called me a leech.

 

She also tends to use the computer as an escape. She also feels as if her spirituality has been compromised due to our living situation as well.

 

All this stress is taking a toll on her and my fathers appearance, my mother is getting frown lines, and my father is losing most his hair.

 

I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to get into their business as I'm normally shunned and used as a scapegoat if I were to try.

 

Anything that can be done, input, anything?