nathan18 Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Ok so there is this guy that works with me and we were teamed up all day today. We're insurance agents (dont hate me lol) and so three days out of the week we work out of our cars. Today we got paired together and when we stopped for lunch we had what I thought was a nice conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 If you want a serious answer, you'd probably need to provide more information. Unless "nice conversations" count as flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nathan18 Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 Sorry Im new to the site and it somehow posted that little bit and logged me out. My co-worker is a guy married and has one child. Today we got paired together for the first time and when we stopped for lunch we had what I thought was a nice conversation. He asked me if I had children? What I wanted in a man? Questions I thought to be conversational. He also asked me if he invited me out on the weekend would I go with him? Im slow to catch on so I didn't read anything into the question and I answered Yea I'll go out with you and your wife. My thought process is that maybe he or his wife know of friends who they want to set me up with. He then asked me if I would date a man who was in a relationship? I replied, "Why? There wouldn't be a reason I would be looking at or pursuing anything with a man in a relationship" He then asks, What if the guy wasn't happy? I reply then why not get just get out of the relationship first then date. Then he asked If I would date a man with kids? I said it would depend on the relationship he has/had with the mother of the child. I attend the University of Alabama and I had to drop him off at his car so that I could go to class. Because we work out of our cars with one another he has my phone number as does everyone else in our company. He had some additional appointments and asked me to call him after I got out of class. I replied ok, my thinking was that he wanted to inform me of how the appointments went. After I dropped him off he texts me, "i enjoyed your company had a lot of fun with you". I think awe that was nice of him to say but I don't reply back but I do call him after I got out of class to see how the rest of the appointments went. He asks me what I was doing tonight and I told him that I was going home. He asks if I had eaten dinner? I say no, my mom is bringing me something. We hang up and he texts me again asking if I could have company over to my house. When he does that I'm thrown for a loop and in shock because I think that's inappropriate for him to ask. I reply No I have a lot of homework to do. I was trying to be nice because he is a really cool guy and I don't want it to be weird if we are paired up again. He texts back maybe later huh? and I don't reply at all. I don't realize until he texts me after my class that the conversation and questions he asked at lunch could be about him. I say very clearly that I won't date a man who is in a relationship AT ALL. I know Im a little naive when it comes to the opposite sex and oftentimes don't realize things until after the fact. Is he flirting with me or am I reading too much into the situation? If he is flirting with me how can I nip this in the bud that one I don't date co-workers and don't date any men who are married or in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 He asked me if I had children? What I wanted in a man? He also asked me if he invited me out on the weekend would I go with him? He then asked me if I would date a man who was in a relationship? Then he asked If I would date a man with kids? I said it would depend on the relationship he has/had with the mother of the child. He asks me what I was doing tonight and I told him that I was going home. He asks if I had eaten dinner? I say no, my mom is bringing me something. We hang up and he texts me again asking if I could have company over to my house. Most likely. Very unsubtle about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nathan18 Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 Well damn... now I feel really stupid. I really thought that he was just trying to be nice. I think that because he's a co-worker and married he would never try anything with me and I've never been put into a situation like this before. I know I'm naive and like I said before Im very slow to catch on where the opposite sex is concerned. Most of the time I really just need it spelt out for me, which you did. So a big THANK YOU!!! I will be sure to nip this in the bud when I see him. Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Well damn... now I feel really stupid. I really thought that he was just trying to be nice. I think that because he's a co-worker and married he would never try anything with me and I've never been put into a situation like this before. I know I'm naive and like I said before Im very slow to catch on where the opposite sex is concerned. Most of the time I really just need it spelt out for me, which you did. So a big THANK YOU!!! I will be sure to nip this in the bud when I see him. When I saw your name and read some of the contents, I swore you were a man yourself lol, but then it dawned on me. Is Nathan your name? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 I certainly wouldn't call it flirting. I'd call it FISHING for an affair partner. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 That co-worker is a sleeze. Don't lead him on, please. For your own sake as well as his family. Tell him "I don't date married men." Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Yes tell him that. If it continues, you might have to report him for sexual harassment. Link to post Share on other sites
Magictoasty Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Yes tell him that. If it continues, you might have to report him for sexual harassment. You should probably avoid that if you want to retain any kind of respect from the people you work with, tell him no and leave it at that, if he still continues then tell him you really don't like him, if you say it's because he's married, has kids etc he might actually think he has a chance if he didn't have those. Tell him he's not your type but good luck finding somebody to cheat on his wife with. Link to post Share on other sites
Memphis Raines Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Ok so there is this guy that works with me and we were teamed up all day today. We're insurance agents (dont hate me lol) and so three days out of the week we work out of our cars. Today we got paired together and when we stopped for lunch we had what I thought was a nice conversation. are you a gay man nathan? Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 You should probably avoid that if you want to retain any kind of respect from the people you work with, tell him no and leave it at that, if he still continues then tell him you really don't like him, if you say it's because he's married, has kids etc he might actually think he has a chance if he didn't have those. Tell him he's not your type but good luck finding somebody to cheat on his wife with. On the contrary, if she just says no, he's not her type, or words to that effect, he may think he could change her mind if he persists, but if she states her standards, that she would never date a married man, people in the office will respect her for her standards. He's not going to leave his wife for the chance of possibly dating someone. He's just looking for some action on the side. She should never give the impression that she would ever consider having an affair with a married man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nathan18 Posted July 9, 2011 Author Share Posted July 9, 2011 are you a gay man nathan? No Im a woman my real name is Shawn but that username has been taken 6 ways from sunday. So i just used a random name sorry for the confusion lol Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted July 10, 2011 Share Posted July 10, 2011 This guy is trying to cheat on his wife---what you need to tell him, is---If he ever bothers you again---You will tell his wife, that he tried to get you to not only go out with him, but he tried to get into your bedroom----do not be nice to him---he is messing around on his wife, and kids----and more than likely they should be told You happen to have morals, and smarts, and didn't fall for his try at bedding you---but others will----a good name for the guy would be SCUM Link to post Share on other sites
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