porn again

[beelady]

Hello ,this is my first post on here and I don't know where to start! A bit of back ground firstly,I have known my partner for 8 years,married 18 months,pregnant with our first baby . When my partner and i first moved in together I was naive i suppose, I did my best to have a nice home,cook nice meals, my partner knew i was his anytime and I never refused sex or was never afraid to try new things. I noticed early on in our intimate life that he didn't seem as up for sex as much as i thought a man would be. I would often wonder if it was something i was doing wrong , i made a huge effort dressing nicely, smell nicely,and yet it was like sex was the last thing on his mind at times, the times it did happen it was like he wouldn't enjoy it much,as he never orgasmed,id spend ages on oral but still no orgasm. I felt a failure and I felt I was at fault. I discovered one day totally by accident that he watched porn, now it started to make sense. I would work shifts and he would spend hours watching porn, my confidence dropped a lot. he lied about watching porn but time and time again I would find more. he is a useless liar and I always knew he was back viewing it without having to see it. He would just become distant. This happened 8 or 9 times ,the latest time i found stuff was a few weeks ago , I was 6 months pregnant and honestly didn't have the energy to deal with it. I don't have a problem with the porn,its the lies and the way he changes when his been watching it that hurts me. I even offered to watch some with him,but he said that'd be weird. I would appreciate any advice on this ,can i stay in a marriage where i feel second best sometimes. please be kind I am now 7 months pregnant and emotional . thank you

[Bummer20]

Hey... Congrats on urnpregnancy... Well im no pro but the first thing u should kno is that most guys are peogramed to have sex... Alot of sex. Not all guys r the same but for the most part thatw how they r progeamed. Guys have that natural programed side nd the unprogramed side, so to speak. Now he could b watchin porn for two reasons... One he stickin to the natral programed side nd insteqd of actually havin sex wit women nd bein unfaithful he is watchin porn to feed his programed side. Two, he wants you but doesnt want to have sex wit u cause u are with child nd it might b weird for him. Most importantly u need to understand that just becauae he warches porn doesn not make u second best. U should ask y he watches porn nd if he opens up to u bout it address the answer accoedingly..