AZNNTYCE Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 hey guyz, i really need your help here. heres the story: i found out that my ex was talking s#%t about me the other day. and well, she admitted saying it and said it was a joke cause she was sad and depressed. i havnt forgiven her yet, but is it smart to tell her to come over and talk about it? or should i just leave it forever? please help me, need advice Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Originally posted by AZNNTYCE hey guyz, i really need your help here. heres the story: i found out that my ex was talking s#%t about me the other day. and well, she admitted saying it and said it was a joke cause she was sad and depressed. i havnt forgiven her yet, but is it smart to tell her to come over and talk about it? or should i just leave it forever? please help me, need advice Firstly, it might be a good idea to just stop talking to your ex entirely. I recall a few posts of your in the past about this ex, and they all seemed to involve you being bothered by her somehow. Sometimes ex girlfriends, and ex boyfriends, can say an awful lot of mean things about you. I don't seen see a difference in who ended the relationship... Things still get said. Most of the time these things are not meant, but people will say them out of frustration and anger. Just consider yourself lucky if you weren't accused of rape, stalking, or harrassment. I had one ex accuse me of rape, but fortunately no police got involved. Had she gone to the police I'd have been locked up for two weeks just based on such a serious accusation. Another ex claimed I was stalking her, and police became involved. Again, if it isn't anything that serious, I wouldn't worry. Just forget about it... Yes, even if she made a wise crack about your penis or performance in bed. If you were intimate with the woman you should know she's just making that stuff up. So far as forgiving, that is up to you alone. I believe that forgiving is the right thing to do, and have openly forgiven people for doing some particularly nasty things to me. I haven't forgotten, and I might trust them less now, but I don't hold a grudge. It's also okay to forgive your ex, but explain to her that you are not going to at all forget what she said, and that it really hurt you. I would not go out of your way to talk to your ex about anything, especially this situation. If you run into her you can forgive her if you wish to, but I recommend perhaps being quick about it. Further involvement with this woman might cause you even more aggravation. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Yes forgive her. Don't tell her about it, give yourself peace without talking to her. Let it go, don't talk to your ex, she's not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted April 23, 2004 Author Share Posted April 23, 2004 Originally posted by faux I would not go out of your way to talk to your ex about anything, especially this situation. If you run into her you can forgive her if you wish to, but I recommend perhaps being quick about it. Further involvement with this woman might cause you even more aggravation. i doubt ill run into her at the shops or something. is it okto call her up and tell her about it, or to organise a quick meeting? Link to post Share on other sites
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