cifrin Posted September 5, 2000 Share Posted September 5, 2000 OKay Id been seeing a guy I met through a friend for a month or so... I tried my best not to fall for him because Id been hurt in the past and because I was moving to stay with my Nain in England too soon I didn't want to be half way across the world and wishing I hadn't left him....I told him all this before we got serious and we planned on not getting serious but I fell for him and HARD hes one of the sweetest guys I could ever imagine... he was like one of those fake movie boyfriends that always seem to good to be true... but he always had this silly thought that I liked one of his friends... so one night at the bar when I was the dessie driver he got really drunk and I guess I was openly avoiding him and talking to his friend he thinks I have a thing for which is way off hes not even really a friend of mine because I don't know him too well so he was upset and ignored me I ended up walking (3hrs) home from the bar and I haven't seen him since ... we talked a bit (on icq I know its cheesy but I can't talk to him in person) so basically we both appologised and sorted out the disagreement but following the advice of a mutual friend I decided its best to break it off then I didn't like the idea of getting back together just to leave him in a month or so... its only been a week that we haven't been talking he phones but I can't bring myself to answer it Im almost scared of the phone rining I still talk to him on icq though... but Its hard to tell whats going on with him and his friends are saying he never goes out anymore and hes all depressed and I guess Im a little out of sorts too...he says he just wants to see me one more time because he doesn't want his last memory of me to be a bad one I think its better off if we just stay apart...since we already have gone through the heart achey stuff ..... but I REALLY miss him which is weird for me I usually don't let myself like guys... I can barely trust them.... IM SO AT A LOSS AS TO WHAT I SHOULD DO??!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 5, 2000 Share Posted September 5, 2000 You should STOP paying more attention to guys at bars you don't care about and a bit more attention to those you do. You have told this guy the full truth about what happened, you have explained it fully, It seems you are falling hard for him so you have two choices. Call your nain in England and tell her you have some important business and you can't come for a while. If you absolutely have to go to England, why torture yourself with falling more deeply in love only to have to leave. You sound like to fall really hard and may go through some serious head stuff when you leave. For God's sake, you met this guy only a month ago and he is driving you nuts. So there are your choices, plain and clear...and they are not easy. If I was so madly in love with a girl as you are with this guy, there is no way in hell I would move for any reason. Go see your Nain for a couple of weeks...and take your guy with you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
cifrin Posted September 5, 2000 Share Posted September 5, 2000 well that option isn't happening Im only 18 and he isn't going to fly around the world with me he doesn't have the money or the time hes going to university and Ive had the plan of moving to wales for awhile now because my home life is harsh and I don't want to put up with it for any more time than I have to right now Im miserable and working for peanuts at BURGER KING trying to save up to leave this awful place hes the only thing that makes me happy but I don't think Id call it love.... so you think my only option is to just stop talking to him?? take a deep breath and leave? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 5, 2000 Share Posted September 5, 2000 From all that you, yourself, have described...yes, I think you should take a deep breath and move on with your life. You seem to have been giving a lot of thought to this and have arrived at no suitable alternatives. Also, at 18 you're likely to fall in love a number of times over the coming years. Luckily, this love wasn't able to mature so the hurt won't be nearly as bad as it could be. Try to fall for guys who are likely to be in your proximity for a good period of time. Link to post Share on other sites
betrayed Posted September 6, 2000 Share Posted September 6, 2000 From all that you, yourself, have described...yes, I think you should take a deep breath and move on with your life. You seem to have been giving a lot of thought to this and have arrived at no suitable alternatives. Also, at 18 you're likely to fall in love a number of times over the coming years. Luckily, this love wasn't able to mature so the hurt won't be nearly as bad as it could be. Try to fall for guys who are likely to be in your proximity for a good period of time. Link to post Share on other sites
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