Becks84 Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 I realize this is very minor, but would just like some input. My boyfriend (of 2 years) will be going out of state for job training for 10 days, next month. While he's there he has the weekend for free time. My sister suggested we find some cheap flights and head down to hang out with him. We've never been to this state and it would just be fun. My brother-in-law would come too. The 4 of us are extremely close and do just about everything together. I asked my bf if he would be cool with us coming there, and of course he said yes. But should I just back off and let him have fun by himself, with his new co-workers? I dont want it to seem like we want to check up on him or anything weird like that...esp since we are having trust issues right now...you may have seen my other post. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 hmm, you just have to play it by ear, i guess - did he say 'yes' joyfully?? you know, even if the three of you head down there, you don't have to be all together ALL the time - if he wants to go out w/ the new co-workers, he still can, right? i'd say - go, but give him space while there, if he seems to want it. my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Becks84 Posted April 22, 2004 Author Share Posted April 22, 2004 That's exactly what I was thinking too. It could be a fun trip for myself too. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 I think you should have talked to your bf before talking to your sister about your idea. And you should have been able to tell if it was a good idea after the way he took the news. Since this is not the case, why don't you try and figure out the right answer... It's 10 days so he's got plenty of timeto "bond"with his new coworkers... he'd also appreciate your giving him his space... On the other hand, you could take this opportunity to have fun and be together. Your shot! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 Go and have fun. Maybe he can invite some of his new cohorts out with you and you can all go out as a big group. Natives might be able to point out some good spots for you to visit. he might feel a little less alone too if he has some of his regular friends around him Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 I haven't read the post(s) to which you refer but I would say that since you've asked him and he said OK, then you should go. If you're having second thoughts, which obviously you are, then why not call and say something like, "look I know you said it was cool for us to visit but I was just thinking that perhaps you may want to use the spare time to get to know your work colleagues a little better and it would be better if we all weren't there?". Or you never know, he may be being left high and dry on his own for the w/e and really wants the company. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Becks84 Posted April 22, 2004 Author Share Posted April 22, 2004 Thanks for the input everyone Link to post Share on other sites
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