Feeling hopeless while I sit and wait for wife to snap out of it!...

[Joe0724]

Hey all! I haven't been on in awhile. Update;

 

I never did leave. I couldn't do it, especially after watching my 6 year old cry saying she didn't want me to leave. Talk about gut wrenching!

I think I cried more than her!

 

I have moved into our spare room which is my sports den type of deal.

I have not seen an attorney yet. I don't know how I'd afford one, nor do I want to even think about that yet.

 

There are times I just want to say, you know what? F.U.!

But for the most part, I play the shmuck and sit and wait to see if she snaps out of it.

 

I really feel her problem is a chemical imbalance or post partum type of thing. I could be wrong, but knowing her for 21 years, and her being so opposite of the person I knew the first 20+ makes me wonder.

 

I look at it as, you marry for better or for worse, in SICKNESS and in health. If she is indeed sick mentally, and I don't mean crazy. Shes not crazy. I just think shes searching and wondering. To me it would be the same as leaving your spouse if they should God- forbid get cancer.

 

Anyway, like I said, I could be wrong, but I just want to make sure I have no regrets if this doesn't work out. I can at least sleep at night knowing I surely gave it everything I had.

 

I know of a few couples who this happened to and less than a year later, the one that wanted to leave is the one that has the regrets. I don't want my kids to have to go through all that for no reason.

 

I guess you could say in the effort of being a good dad, I have become a pussy of a husband.

Ahh, sacrifice.

 

[marqueemoon4]

I'm sorry man.. you feel like you are doing the honorable and right thing, and unfortunately she's only going to take advantage of that. I did the same things.. got played like an old accordion. You have to let go of her. I know why you're holding on, its noble but will only damage you down the road. I'm convinced there is no harder situation than the one you and countless other husbands/fathers on this board are in. Be strong for you kids.