Could random excuses for breakup signify cheating?

[electricvanilla]

I feel like my boyfriend cheated on me but I have no proof. The reason I suspect this is because he has given me 4 different reasons for the breakup this past week-gets teary eyed when talking to me-unecessary insults-standoffish

 

Initially he said he was disappointed in himself because he promised me he would learn French and has 'failed' to do so. He told me to forget about him and that I deserve someone better because I am an amazing person, who sticks to my goals. He was crying during this time.

 

2 days later I went to see him- because I felt that he was overreacting and possibly just stressed from school. He then says it's because I am fat and that with all the exercise I do, he is not seeing change as fast as he would like which means I have a thyroid disorder and he doesn't want to be with someone with 'diseased disorders'. FTW? He also said he is tired of me. *I am not fat- I am currently exercising to tone up*

 

#3- Haven't made a sex tape with him yet

#4- Im too innocent and lost in this 'game'

 

He always had this thing where he wanted me to nag/remind him we are getting married one day. I had thought that was interesting someone would want to be constantly questioned- 'When are we getting married?!'

I had sent him a text asking him why he wanted me to do that if he knew he no longer liked me and he said I should have done it more. I said I feel like I said it enough and all he said was to GIVE HIM TIME.

 

TIME FOR WHAT?!

 

The more I look into the days leading up to the break up, it makes no sense. I saw him Mon and he was fine. He said he was going to the bar with his cousin. Next day he is all depressed and kept staring at me and wouldn't let me close to him.

 

With all of his random excuses I feel like he is trying to justify what he did -__-

 

He also deleted me off of facebook...but still has pics of us? Why?

 

I feel like something happened that night...but given that he wants me to forget about him...why not just admit he cheated?

 

Is there any way I can make him admit it? Perhaps he didn't? But now I am just obsessed for some reason. I need to know if he did or not. I have been NC and I don't want to break it by demanding answers >___<

[keepsmilin74]

He sounds like an idiot and that's reason enough to let him go, but I understand you want to know, closure and all that. I think your gut feel here that he cheated is probably right. Goodluck, stay strong with NC, you'll find better

[thatone]

I feel like my boyfriend cheated on me but I have no proof. The reason I suspect this is because he has given me 4 different reasons for the breakup this past week-gets teary eyed when talking to me-unecessary insults-standoffish

 

Initially he said he was disappointed in himself because he promised me he would learn French and has 'failed' to do so. He told me to forget about him and that I deserve someone better because I am an amazing person, who sticks to my goals. He was crying during this time.

 

2 days later I went to see him- because I felt that he was overreacting and possibly just stressed from school. He then says it's because I am fat and that with all the exercise I do, he is not seeing change as fast as he would like which means I have a thyroid disorder and he doesn't want to be with someone with 'diseased disorders'. FTW? He also said he is tired of me. *I am not fat- I am currently exercising to tone up*

 

#3- Haven't made a sex tape with him yet

#4- Im too innocent and lost in this 'game'

 

He always had this thing where he wanted me to nag/remind him we are getting married one day. I had thought that was interesting someone would want to be constantly questioned- 'When are we getting married?!'

I had sent him a text asking him why he wanted me to do that if he knew he no longer liked me and he said I should have done it more. I said I feel like I said it enough and all he said was to GIVE HIM TIME.

 

TIME FOR WHAT?!

 

The more I look into the days leading up to the break up, it makes no sense. I saw him Mon and he was fine. He said he was going to the bar with his cousin. Next day he is all depressed and kept staring at me and wouldn't let me close to him.

 

With all of his random excuses I feel like he is trying to justify what he did -__-

 

He also deleted me off of facebook...but still has pics of us? Why?

 

I feel like something happened that night...but given that he wants me to forget about him...why not just admit he cheated?

 

Is there any way I can make him admit it? Perhaps he didn't? But now I am just obsessed for some reason. I need to know if he did or not. I have been NC and I don't want to break it by demanding answers >___<

 

i'm the same way you are, i don't do well at just turning something loose without trying to coax the truth out, but sometimes you just gotta let it go.

 

not worth the effort.

[PegNosePete]

He told me to forget about him and that I deserve someone better

Whenever someone says this, they are usually right. In fact it sounds like the only true thing he has said!

 

Is there any way I can make him admit it?

No. You just have to come to terms with the fact that it doesn't matter. You have split up. That's it. You need to just accept it and move on (in time obviously!).