I wonder if my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years was just pretending to love me.

[DiorAddict]

[sizTwo months ago I found out my boyfriend was taking a trip to Cancun. He didn't tell me and I was wondering why he was going to hide it from me. When I confronted him he said that even if he didn't tell me, he wasn't going to cheat on me. I asked him if he wanted to hook up with other girls and he said no, that he was not looking for someone else and had no intentions of cheating on me. I was already upset that I only saw him once or twice a month, and heard from only 3-4 times a week, so I said that we should see other people. He said he didn't want to do that, and that he didn't want to loose me. A few months ago he asked me to marry him, but didn't have a ring...

 

Well, after we decided we would take a break and see other people, he told me he felt bad for me and that he doesn't love me as much as Ilove him, that maybe he doesn't appreciate me, ...yadah yadah, yadah.,...

 

Well, it's been two months and I have not heard one word from him, he even ignored me on my birthday. Everything's going through my mind, like he has a new girlfriend and forgot about me, or that he was faking being in love with me and proposed to me and asked me if we wanted to live together just to break my heart....What should I do? I don't think it's my place to call, plus the week after we broke up I called him and he didn't call me back and I e-mailed him and he didn't call me back. It's been two months and NOTHING! aghh!!!

 

It also doesn't help that I've been on some really bad dates!

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[hurtingandconfused]

Make it three months of nothing.

 

And then four.

 

And so on ...until you completely heal

 

He was trying to string you along. He was looking for someone else "better" and he did not want to lose you in the process.

 

It also doesn't help that I've been on some really bad dates!

Don't date just yet. Take it easy...learn how to live by yourself for a while. I mean it's been over 4 years since you've been single... Enjoy the single life.

[DiorAddict]

Thanks for getting back to me =)

 

It just sucks he ditched me so coldly.... =(

[Blah Toolz]

I feel the same way that you feel right now... I knew that she loved me quite a bit. She had even asked me for a promise ring at one point.

 

But it is almost as if I met her at the wrong point in time. I told her that I wasn't ready to give her a promise ring yet, that it was too early to decide something like that. I told her that I loved her, and loved being with her more than anything... and now we're not together anymore.

 

It's not as if we broke up over me throwing her down a flight of stairs, or one of us leaving each other for somebody else -- but because we're still young (21 and 20), and that we need to go our separate ways for a while and see how it's like.

 

The reason he might be acting so cold towards you now is because he needs to get you out of his mind for now, see what life is like completely without you -- so that he won't be tempted to come back.

[DiorAddict]

I think you're right Blah. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise....But i don't know how I can love someone who is not there. I mean, I don't see or hear from him and I love him...How is this possible. It's abnormal....

[moimeme]

Because as long as you think about him all day and dream about him at night, he's 'there' all right. You keep him right with you, so of course you love him.

[DiorAddict]

I don't wanna love him anymore...