SICK of playing the hard to get game!!

[BoomBoomGirl]

I guess it is common knowledge that we all want what we can't have. For all of my dating life I have been chased by guys I couldn't care less about, and dismissed by the guys that I like. It seems that unless I am ignoring them they are just not interested!

 

The current guy i was/am seeing is exactly the same. I played it cool for a few months but realised I was falling in love. I didn't let him know this but even the subtle changes in my behaviour (answering his calls, inviting him out) seem to have pushed him in the other direction. One night I accidently blurted out that I "cared about him a lot" (after 6 months this wouldn't seem to me to be so full on) and he couldn't wait to scatter. You can't stay on the same level forever - things have to develop. I'm not asking for marriage but how about some assurance that the feeling is mutual??

 

I am not a clinger by any means, but I am just sick of having to suppress my feelings to get guys' attention! It is infuriating and frustrating and I don't know if I can handle it anymore! Anyone feel the same? Or differently??

[greenlantern]

it sucks, i agree. and this is unreasonable ---> after six months you should at least be certain the guy likes you!

 

this seems to me a very clear indication that the guy is not into you as a long-term possibility; his actions and his reticence speak volumes. why would you want to invest in someone who can not provide any return? imagine how fun and easy it would be to be with a guy who could just tell you that he likes you, calmly and maturely, as you did for him.

 

also, maybe you would want to look carefully at the kind of guys you are selecting - does their distance attract you? this might be indicative of some reservations about intimacy, etc. the common denominator in your pattern is you - maybe emotionally available guys subconsciously repel you for some reason?