yawn_interrupted Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 (edited) Hello, (English is not my mother language so please understand if it is awkward...) I have passed the breaking point with my EXTREMELY dysfunctional family. Extreme level of psychological manipulation and emotional abuse within my family towards each other (Parents, 3 siblings and me) terrified my therapist. (My therapy didn't seem to help at that time when I was on it as the focus was on something else than my family issue) But finally the breaking point (awakening..?) came a couple of years ago and I was just done with it. My life was going down so bizarre cause by my ridiculous decisions and my self esteem was just at the bottom. There was no where to run anymore other than facing the real issue. I began to see clearly what was going on with my family and of course me as one of them. I realized everything I thought was right was wrong and I had absolutely no reason to be ashamed of myself. It was a shocking revelation to me. I do not see myself as a victim of any situation. I don't blame for any of my life choices on my family. But I knew I had to see extremely unhealthy family dynamic under the true light. I decided to choose me and my needs over their emotional needs to control me. I put a great distance between them and myself in a very clear way. I know they were terrified, furious, sad and felt betrayed. Of course knowing what i did was hurting them broke my heart so bad. I spent two years since, constantly suffering guilt and doubt and suicidal thoughts. My guilt and resentment were so overwhelming sometime I literally felt like I was being possessed by demon or something. But I knew I will never ever go back to where I was. I am not a shy person anymore. I am lonely sometime just as anybody else but I don't fear of it. There seem to be a lot of changes that have been happening in me. Mostly positive changes except one... Now I don't need to fake my feelings anymore, I can see what is there or not in my heart. I don't see that much of attachment towards people any more. It is like my heart became cold. Calm, peaceful but cold. Simply I don't care much anymore. I would never feel it is okay to hurt somebody. But I don't have desire to be connected with anybody emotionally anymore. Anybody in the similar experience or current situation? (I am sorry that I didn't get into detail about whole story. It is just too much to even start...) Anybody cut themselves out of dysfunctional family to save themselves? If so, how do you cope with it or hang on to it while still keep your heart warm..? Edited July 11, 2011 by yawn_interrupted Link to post Share on other sites
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wsupflakes Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 im going through the same thing. sadly, im not strong enough to break free. im 19 and i cant finacially support myself. :/ i have suicidal thoughts and id rather live in a closet for years than face my family. idk whether my family really loves me or is more for their controlling fetish going on. im so broken and torn with their words. im sorry you have to go through that. just focus on making your life positve from then on. you have no other option then to move forward and make yourself happy. im glad you were strong enough to leave. its probably healithier in the long run. goodluck mate. Link to post Share on other sites
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