Author sleepykitten Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 Hey dont worry-i intiated it at first then broke it....then saw him...(I know!!!!) then when he left the next day ( I KNOW!!!!!!) he said all the usual, this is so hard, i love you i'll see you soon, etc. I was thinking, no u wont for me its the last time...so am pretty irritated though with him as he was like this in our relationship-said all the "right" stuff then actions0r lack of them showed a different side! What I keep thinking is that, it just shows what a lack of integrity he has and he probably expects me to text and call because thats what i always did and i always said that one thing i couldnt do when we rowed etc was not to text or call, its his bday tues and i am very sentimental etc so he will be expecting a card, or text or something. God if i get through to wed without doing it i will be impressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Bit of a hazy weekend on the tiles fri and sat night. I walked right into her on friday but nothing was said. I broke NC myself which caused a text row at first until I admitted to seeing someone else then suddenly!!!! her attitude changed. full of questions about who what when and where. Did the new date know about her etc. I will get back on to NC now. Im not sure about why we are going through NC though. the last bout of text was almost like therapy. I don't know what to say about sending him a birthday wish, I'd have to think about that one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleepykitten Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Are you dating someone else?? Also-really-you think i maybe should text him a bday wish?? Last time i saw him was 2 weeks ago-he said he'd be in touch etc and hasnt, i broke the first nc and kind of didnt think i should say happy birthday.....or anything? I am confused now. Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 I don't know what to say on this one. I would think it churlish if she didn't wish me a happy birthday but then again, we are all trying to finish and move on here aren't we so I guess we should leave all congratulations out of it. I have seen someone yes! But only as a date , no sex or anything like that. The ex became quite friendly on the text while she wanted information and then she became concerned for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 I think we are all, or most of us anyway, holding on to a false hope.I believe my chance to reconcile will come after I,ve moved on. The cracks of her new long distance relationship are begining to show. New man only turns up in the evenings now 1 or 2 times a week and goes off at about midnight. Started to make excuses about staying for the weekends and excuses why she can't visit him at the weekends. Mum in-law informs me that daughter is complaining to her and him about this. Still! it's not my problem is it. this woman persistently abused me and her previous partners and I don't think the new boy will not be exempt from this kind of behaviour. There may be some kind of justice there, I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleepykitten Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 Theres definatly justice here!! So...I text happy birthday! I kind of felt the same as you, didnt want to appear churlish, anyway just said "happy birthday. It is today isnt it? I think so. Hope you have a wonderful day. He text back straight away saying Hi (then used nickname he had for me), yes it is, thanks, how are you? i said good thanks hope alls good with you. He replied saying- i have almost called you so many times this past week or so as have been struggling a bit with everything but thought it best not to." I replied " You've got to do whats best for you I compleatly understand that. Shame youre on a study course today (he mentioned this in other tect) of all days, am sure you'll get a few beers bought later. Ok so back to nc! I do feel ok and in a way glad i text as it was on my mind alot, and i its good to know he's struggling! Dont think i came across any particular way in the texts, no questions of what, why etc. Day 3 of no smoking btw!! And i have a date tonight with the young whipper snapper from friday! Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 Good for you on having another date and the no smoking. Today I have fully accepted that it is over forever and that has allowed me to focus on other thoughts and people. All I need now is a good nights sleep and I should be well on my way to recovery I think. I'm not going to dwell as it makes everything drag on and on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleepykitten Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 Well....heard on tues that my ex husband (not who i have been posting about), we split up 2 yrs ago, divorced last yr, all very very amicable, still good friends, etc, told me his gf is pregnant. I must say i knew it would happen one day but my god it totally triggered something, i managed to say all the right stuff look pleased, as i am happy for him, maybe if i was in a healthy functioning relationship that had a future it wouldnt have upset me so much. Suffice to say i didnt sleep at all tue night, was like a zombie at work had to go home after my morning session, e mailed my ex (one i have been posting about!)...just emotional not thinking straigh, also had a date tues night, went well all things considering, he is very keen, i am not sure as he is 11 yrs younger than me, and i am very concious of this being a rebound thing. Mess...and ex text today saying sorry he didnt repy to mail, am i in tonight...? now what? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleepykitten Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 Amazingly-still not smoked!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 If you are in tell him yr in if yr out tell him yr out. Simple. Well done on the no smoking too :-) . Link to post Share on other sites
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