iris219 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 I think most guys aren’t. I know average to below guys who want very attractive women. And I’m not asking if hot guys are OK dating ugly girls. I just mean less attractive. It could be a scenario where the guy is VERY attractive (basically a 10) and the girl is pretty (let’s say an 8). Would this work? Are you genuinely OK dating a girl less attractive than yourself, or would you always wish she was the same or above you in attractiveness? Be honest please. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Since I consider myself to be a 6. I would have to say that I can't date a girl who is less attractive than me. Seriously any girl who is less attractive than me is either ugly and/or fat. Of which I am neither. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 I believe most guys are Ok with it. Actually in my experience it make the relationship fantastic. I believe Bob Marley once sang "Ugly wife, happy life". When I was younger and in fantastic shape I dated a girl who was chubby. Awesome relationship! She moved away to attend a different school, and for years after I wished I'd quit my job to follow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Share Posted July 12, 2011 Actually in my experience it make the relationship fantastic. When I was younger and in fantastic shape I dated a girl who was chubby. Awesome relationship! She moved away to attend a different school, and for years after I wished I'd quit my job to follow. What made the relationship fantastic (in terms of the looks discrepancy)? Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 I have before and pretty much ended up losing interest. I'd say it was 50% lack of attraction, 50% compatibility issues. I did get the feeling that I was "settling". I'm not really keen on doing that again, so I'm being a little more picky this time around... I really have no idea how I rate, other than the ridiculousness of HotorNot garbage, which says 9.9 with a refreshed pic (I'd guess 7-8 realistically)... Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 What made the relationship fantastic (in terms of the looks discrepancy)? a) peace of mind. you know she isn't out being hit on by every man walking the street, and with less attention comes less opportunity to cheat. she's more likely to be content with what she has. b) she will have other qualities that are better. lets be honest, people use what positive traits they have that work and put in minimal effort. someone naturally beautiful, more often than not, is gonna be stupid. simply because they can, they don't have to educate themselves to get the approval of others, they simply have to stand there and look nice. Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Im not attractive at all myself if the women was even less attratcive then me i wouldnt be mildly attracted.. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 No because men have a disease called 'the penis can't see the face'. Ie their attraction to women isn't related to how good looking they are themselves Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 I would have no problem doing this. I don't just seek out women better looking than me. In fact, a good amount of women I've been really attracted to weren't generally looked at as "pretty", tho I thought otherwise. I honestly don't know where I rank in the attractiveness department, due to the various amount of feedback I've received all throughout my life from women. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 There is no one agreed upon rating of attractiveness for any individual, so IMO it's kinda meaningless question. Link to post Share on other sites
EasyHeart Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Looks are subjective, so all that matters is whether one particular guy is attracted to one particular woman. There is no such thing as a 1-10 scale. Also, how do you compare the attractiveness of men with the attractiveness of women? It can't be done. I definitely don't want to date a woman who looks ANYTHING like me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 No because men have a disease called 'the penis can't see the face'. Ie their attraction to women isn't related to how good looking they are themselves And the vagina can?... Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Share Posted July 12, 2011 And the vagina can?... Women routinely date men less attractive than themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 What made the relationship fantastic (in terms of the looks discrepancy)? I don't think it was the discrepancy that made it great. For whatever reason she really appreciated me and did super nice things for me all the time. She was good with all my friends, when we went out I didn't have to fend off a gang of guys constantly hitting on her. Also, her self esteem wasn't 100% built around how pretty she looks like most girls who are constantly praised for it growing up. She instead built her self esteem around her personality and accomplishments. She was super smart, athletically talented, and had a good work ethic. The thing is that it isn't about how attractive you are in relation to your mate. I don't think that really plays much of a role. It's how attractive your mate see's himself or herself to be, combined with how they respond to that. Do you think I would be a different person just because I'm dating a victoria secret model? Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Share Posted July 12, 2011 Looks are subjective, so all that matters is whether one particular guy is attracted to one particular woman. I agree, but you can be attracted to someone and still realize that you're more attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Rando Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Call me narcissistic, I'm hot, I try very hard to be attractive.. Maybe people are just nice but im constantly told that I'm gorgeous (take with a grain of salt). That being said, I was recently dating a very average looking. Her mannerisms were what made me attracted to her. I don't really concentrate on looks, in fact I've only dated one girl I was immediately attracted to, usually I get to know her. (I have a thing for slightly awkward girls) Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Women routinely date men less attractive than themselves. Only if the guy is high in money and status Most couples are pretty evenly matched Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 I think most guys aren’t. I know average to below guys who want very attractive women. And I’m not asking if hot guys are OK dating ugly girls. I just mean less attractive. It could be a scenario where the guy is VERY attractive (basically a 10) and the girl is pretty (let’s say an 8). Would this work? Are you genuinely OK dating a girl less attractive than yourself, or would you always wish she was the same or above you in attractiveness? Be honest please. This question actually doesn't make sense, really. There's no precise exchange rate between male and female attractiveness far as I know. Guys find different women attractive. I have a friend who has completely different tastes from what I have. His "10" would be my "6", and my "10" would be his "6". I want a girl that I find attractive, period. This "10" guy might be an "8" by the rest of society, and to many guys, you might be a "10" instead of an "8". As I said before, no precise exchange rate. So don't sweat it. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 This question actually doesn't make sense, really. Guys find different women attractive. I have a friend who has completely different tastes from what I have. His "10" would be my "6", and my "10" would be his "6". I want a girl that I find attractive, period. This "10" guy might be an "8" by the rest of society, and to many guys, you might be a "10" instead of an "8". So don't sweat it. Oh... This is SO true! I had a friend in school that thought Chelsea Clinton was the hottest girl ever. Also a friend that thinks Helen Hunt is gorgeous. Still never met a guy that thinks Sarah Jessica Parker is hot though.... Even her husband is suspect on that one. Lot's of chubby chaser guys out there too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Share Posted July 12, 2011 Ladies, are you comfortable dating a man better looking, or do you prefer to be the more attractive one? This question actually doesn't make sense, really. Guys find different women attractive. I have a friend who has completely different tastes from what I have. His "10" would be my "6", and my "10" would be his "6". I want a girl that I find attractive, period. This "10" guy might be an "8" by the rest of society, and to many guys, you might be a "10" instead of an "8". So don't sweat it. Let's say you're attracted to girl, but you know you're more attractive than she is. Would this bother you? Link to post Share on other sites
amethyste Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Allow me to ask you something: don't you think it's pretty offensive to say that your partner isn't really "attractive"? Something like: "Oh, (s)he's kinda ugly, but I adore his/ her personality so soooo much!". I find this to be very insulting (both for you & your partner). I agree with Imajerk17. People have different tastes, so... Personally, I wanna have a relationship with someone I find attractive; he doesn't have to be an "Adonis" for everybody. As long as I'm gonna like him, he's gonna be the most attractive man ever (for me) Link to post Share on other sites
powerplay Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 this post is hilarious, you cannot watch what's on the surface learn to dig deep some of the less attractive ladies have the nicest personalities I think most guys aren’t. I know average to below guys who want very attractive women. And I’m not asking if hot guys are OK dating ugly girls. I just mean less attractive. It could be a scenario where the guy is VERY attractive (basically a 10) and the girl is pretty (let’s say an 8). Would this work? Are you genuinely OK dating a girl less attractive than yourself, or would you always wish she was the same or above you in attractiveness? Be honest please. Link to post Share on other sites
Engadget Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Not to sound cocky, but I've always dated girls I was better looking than. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 From a females point, I wouldn't date a man who believed he was better looking than me. It just wouldn't work. Link to post Share on other sites
Stockalone Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 Are you genuinely OK dating a girl less attractive than yourself, or would you always wish she was the same or above you in attractiveness? Be honest please. I agree, but you can be attracted to someone and still realize that you're more attractive. That would require that people can actually accurately tell where they, and everyone else, ranks on the attractiveness scale. Maybe you can do that, I can't. Let's say you're attracted to girl, but you know you're more attractive than she is. Would this bother you? I could never tell which women were my equal as far as looks are concerned. I also had no idea where I ranked among other men when it comes to what women find attractive. What I do know, is whether or not I am attracted to a woman. And that's all I need to know. Link to post Share on other sites
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