Ruby Slippers Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Women, would date a man who you thought was more attractive than yourself? Not anymore. Like I said, I think it's setting yourself up for failure. I would have sex with him, but not date him. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 A lot of guys in this thread are either lying or desperate. No man with options would consider dating a woman that is less attractive than himself. This is generally true for women as well, although women are more likely to overlook looks in favor in things like money and status. The happiest relationships are where both parties are on the same level of attractiveness. That way, neither feels like they are settling for less. When I first got a good job I dated some very attractive women... she was trying to be a professional model. Anyway... for one year I dated her and spent a lot of time with her friends. You have to be a special type of guy to enjoy women like that. The kind of guy that just can't take his foot from the gas pedal. Me I'm fairly laid back... and if I have to put more that 100% effort into more than one thing at a time it irritates me. Having a woman be that demanding and high maintenance is just not what I want. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 When I first got a good job I dated some very attractive women... she was trying to be a professional model. Anyway... for one year I dated her and spent a lot of time with her friends. You have to be a special type of guy to enjoy women like that. The kind of guy that just can't take his foot from the gas pedal. Me I'm fairly laid back... and if I have to put more that 100% effort into more than one thing at a time it irritates me. Having a woman be that demanding and high maintenance is just not what I want. I agree with this. While I have no idea how I stack up to women (other than attractive enough to actively date). I have dated very attractive women and more average women. I am currently dating a woman who is less attractive than I usually go for ( still cute...very pretty face and an average body), but I am blown away by the benefits. She has a great career, is really sweet, wants to cook for me, doesn't ask me to spend any money on her, and is happy with takeout and a movie at home. I am being treated like a king! Now, I still treat her like I do some of the higher maintenance pretty girls I dated and she is simply shocked at how nice I am. Honestly, I couldn't keep up with the pretty girls for more than 6 months. Too many, parties, hot spots, and head games. No, I really don't care that you went to the same club/restaurant/bar as the hottest celeb. I am a nerd even if I do not look like one. I prefer star trek and chinese takeout! Doesn't mean I can't party it up with the best when I want to, but that does not make a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Just to add to what I said above...I usually find high maintenance issues true for most of the 'pretty girls' I meet as the difference between a 6-7 and a 8-9 is often nothing more than good makeup and expensive clothes. Link to post Share on other sites
buster2209 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 My ex-wife is probably a 9 based on looks alone. After 5 years with her, she isn't a 9 anymore.... I'm currently dating a girl I would say is a 6/7 in the looks department. Now I'm getting to know her though, she's up to about a 9. For me, looks and personality are intertwined when it comes to hotness rating. I always remember two things; "No matter how hot a girl is, there's some guy, somewhere, who is sick of her sh*t""Beauty fades. Attitude lasts forever" Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 My ex-wife is probably a 9 based on looks alone. I'm currently dating a girl I would say is a 6/7 in the looks department. It would suck reading that, if your girlfriend saw it. However, I'm glad that she has a beautiful character to boost her up. But, ouch. Link to post Share on other sites
buster2209 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 I was using arbitrary numbers. I think the girl that I'm dating is stunning and was just trying to illustrate how beauty isn't skin deep. It wouldn't have quite the same impact if I said the girl I am dating is an 8 yet her personality takes her to a 9..... Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 It would suck reading that, if your girlfriend saw it. However, I'm glad that she has a beautiful character to boost her up. But, ouch. Rinas, How old are you? The reason I ask is that you look young in your avatar and believing that you are a '10' to your bf/gf is usually the fantasy world of younger people. I don' expect to be a '9 or 10' in looks to anyone as I just don't have the six pack and buff body I had at 20-21. I'm okay with that as I have a lot more than abs to offer a woman, especially as I get older. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Rinas, How old are you? The reason I ask is that you look young in your avatar and believing that you are a '10' to your bf/gf is usually the fantasy world of younger people. I don' expect to be a '9 or 10' in looks to anyone as I just don't have the six pack and buff body I had at 20-21. I'm okay with that as I have a lot more than abs to offer a woman, especially as I get older. Yes. All women want to believe they are a 10 to their man. But very few actually are. My world came crashing down when I first had to confront this truth. My boyfriend at the time told me that a friend of mine was prettier than me. I knew he was right, but it was still like a knife in my heart. She was cheating on her fiance with a different hot guy every weekend. But she was pretty, so men loved her. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Rinas, How old are you? The reason I ask is that you look young in your avatar and believing that you are a '10' to your bf/gf is usually the fantasy world of younger people. I don' expect to be a '9 or 10' in looks to anyone as I just don't have the six pack and buff body I had at 20-21. I'm okay with that as I have a lot more than abs to offer a woman, especially as I get older. I don't expect to be flawless to my mate, I do however want to be respected enough to not be rated in general. Ideally, my match would think I'm stunning, and wouldn't want me to change a thing, accept my physical flaws. I just believe that it was almost insulting to compare by numeral value on looks. And yes, I am young, 20. However, this doesn't mean that I don't hold any knowledge of the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 My world came crashing down when I first had to confront this truth. My boyfriend at the time told me that a friend of mine was prettier than me. I knew he was right, but it was still like a knife in my heart. Why would he even tell you this to begin with? It may have been so in your eyes, but other people may have seen it different. I believe that's just rude. These thing's don't need to be mentioned and bring more harm than good. Did you leave him soon after? Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 I don't expect to be flawless to my mate, I do however want to be respected enough to not be rated in general. Ideally, my match would think I'm stunning, and wouldn't want me to change a thing, accept my physical flaws. I just believe that it was almost insulting to compare by numeral value on looks. And yes, I am young, 20. However, this doesn't mean that I don't hold any knowledge of the world. I never said you didn't. It is simply easier to value your looks when you still have them! In my late 20's, I am happy to not have a beer gut or be losing my hair like many of my friends. I don't expect to ever look as good again as I did when I was your age. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinas Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 (edited) I never said you didn't. It is simply easier to value your looks when you still have them! In my late 20's, I am happy to not have a beer gut or be losing my hair like many of my friends. I don't expect to ever look as good again as I did when I was your age. Ah, well the way I see it is that, I will age with grace. I will not allow myself to let my looks go. Just because one ages, it's not an excuse to not make the best of what you've got. I figure I may grow into my looks nicer as I hit a certain age. Also, full head of hair and no gut is win. Edited July 13, 2011 by Rinas Link to post Share on other sites
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