SportyChick7 Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 Ok, my boyfriend lately has been really tempermental. I feel like everytime he gets stressed out I get the short end of the stick. He never yells at me or anything, but at the same time he is short with me and kinda rude. I know this is not me. Im not ignorant, and would admit if i was wrong. He seems distant, but if i brought something up, then he would get frusterated with me that I brought this up again, "this" being something that is bugging me about him. What should I do? I am really confused right now. This may seem really trivial, but its so grrrrrr frusterating! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 Talk. to. him. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 Some people just aren't very good a channeling their emotions. It's understandable that he might be stressed out at times and not feel chatty or in the mood to pretend to be jovial. But it's quite another thing if he becomes downright "rude." As Dryer already suggested, it's time to sit him down for friendly talk. Tell him that while you can understand that at times he gets grumpy, that you would appreciate him letting you know in advance when he's *in a mood* so that you can give him the space he needs to chill or support him (whatever he prefers). But make it clear that you absolutely refuse to stick around and become his emotional punching bag, no matter how bad his day has gone. It simply isn't fair. Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 sporty tell him about how it makes you feel when he does this. when he says "your bring this up again" reply "yes, because it hasn't gone away, when it stops -I'll stop talking about it" then let him know that you are here for him and its ok to have bad days. ask him how he would like you to respond when he is in a mood. plain and simple, explain that you dont know how to be helpful during these times, and it would be nice if he told you what he needed. go from there Link to post Share on other sites
FreeMe Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 Originally posted by spencer tell him about how it makes you feel when he does this. when he says "your bring this up again" reply "yes, because it hasn't gone away, when it stops -I'll stop talking about it" Spencer, you are very wise. Sounds so simple, but I, myself, have never thought of that. Sporty - I agree with the others. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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