Would this be considered alcohol abuse?

[Ginger Beer]

Two scenarios, the first involving my mother (she is 56).

 

She has always liked to drink in the house ever since I can remember (I am 22) but I don't recall it being much of a problem until around 3 years ago. Some days (especially in the evening) she would be really horrible for no reason, blame things on me and my Dad and generally be unpleasant to be around, I had no idea why until one day I realised it was because she had been drinking too much/was drunk.

 

Over the last 6 months I'd say it's progressively got worse still, some particular incidents stand out:

 

- Falling over at the bottom of the stairs and being unable to get up, calling for help as everyone was upstairs.

 

- Falling OFF the stairs as she was walking up them to go to bed (no banister on one side) and lying unconscious on the floor.

 

- Vomiting for no reason, mid-conversation on the phone.

 

- Falling over as she tried to get up from sleeping in the chair in the living room.

 

- Falling off her chair at the dinner table, dropping a plate.

 

- Dropping plates with food on.

 

There are a couple more incidents which I won't post but you get the basic gist of what's going on. It's making me very angry as it's the same thing happening again and again, the time she fell off the stairs and just lay there was horrible.

 

2nd scenario, involving my father.

 

Not as bad as my mother but he drinks, without fail, four cans of lager every night, sometimes more, sometimes starting from as early as 2pm (weekends). He also goes to the pub a fair bit so I don't know how much he drinks there. With my Dad, my concern isn't necessarily the amount but the frequency of his alcohol consumption. He has also visibly put weight on recently and isn't taking care of himself.

 

I absolutely hate alcohol.

 

Needed to vent to be honest because I don't really have anyone to speak to about stuff like this.

[Kendrick]

It would be helpful to check out your local Alanon groups. Google them in your area. They can be very helpful for you.

[Cee]

That must be frightening to see your Mom having accidents and your Dad drinking a lot too.

 

I second the idea of Al Anon. The point of the program is not to save them, but to help yourself. From what my mother says (she's a member), the focus is on detaching from the alcoholic and helping yourself.

[Feelin Frisky]

Yes, most definitely alcohol abuse. Sorry.

[Ginger Beer]

Thanks guys.

 

I really hate alcohol so much.