DayumQuitPlayin Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 Me and my bro dont have much of a relationship. We are constantly fightn.. i mean constantly.. theres times wen we get along .. but it dont last very long. He's like my rival.. its really krazy.. i guess growin up.. me and him would always compete to get wut we want. He's always bin tha destructive..the one to take things apart.. etc.. and me.. im tha responsible.. tha one to b greatful for wut i have.. n helpful one. Still to dis day.. its still like that. But its only gotten worst. One thing he does which i hate is when he's mad.. he like ta take it out on physical objects. He punches tha walls.. he breaks my moms stuff.. he tear holes in things.. etc.. Another thing he does is STEAL ..which I cannot Stand.. He's a complete clepto. He seriously has to steal .. its like impulse. You cannot believe tha things he's gotten away wit..wen he steals from stores.. even I wuz shocc'd. Well... its jus that i cannot stand it anymore. His constant raving.. him stealn my stuff.. takn things outta tha house n selln.. accusin ppl of takn his things..etc.. etc.. etc.. Sumtymes i jus wanna knocc his azz out fa real.. but i cant. He's jus really bad.. and he's doing bad. He pop pills.. steals.. lies.. cheats.. sells.. bla bla bla.. he gives off tha image dat he can do nething he want.. n he tries ta b sum1 he's not. I'm jus fed up wit it.. My mom wont do nething about it. She wont kicc him out.. altho she's kicc'd me out b4. She always givin him chances.. and i think its really not fair. She feels im worst than he is. I get into arguments wit her all tha tyme.. but thats it.......arguments.. he gets into physical confrontations.. he takes her things n sells it.. etc... yet I'm tha one who gets punish'd. Wen he mess's tha house up.. since he comes homes.. eat everything.. leaves a mess.. makes a mess in tha bathroom etc.. etc.. ..she makes it seems as if its my duty to clean up afta him.. o else i get punish'd.. Its really jus Krazy.. and i kno she's psychotic herself too. Newayz.. as alwayz.. im jus open to any feedbacc i get.. so any comments or suggestions r welcomed For tha record.. im 19 and he's 18 Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 how about moving out once you're done with highschool? it's unlikely that you can fix your family, so if it's not working for you, you may just have to live separately and communicate with them now&then. my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted April 23, 2004 Share Posted April 23, 2004 I feel for you. To be honest it's kinda hard to bring this up because even after all these years it's like opening an old wound. I have a brother who sounds very much like yours - he was constantly in trouble with the law over and over, violent, on drugs, drinking below age, never went to school, left school & never got or kept a job, etc..... He tore our family apart because he made everyones life a living hell - fighting with me, fighting with my parents, my parents fighting about him CONSTANTLY. After one particularily bad afternoon where once again the police had to get involved I gave my parents an ultimatum - him or me. A week later I moved out. It took me years to understand that parents cannot choose like that between their children and there's a part of me that still hasn't forgiven them or him ( interestingly enough this brother and I are slightly less than a year apart - sounds like you two). For me the best thing was getting out of that house and away from him. It was obvious he wasn't going to change and obvious that my parents weren't going to throw him out of the house. Now I realise my parents could let me go because they knew I could make it on my own whereas he didn't have a snow balls chance in hell. Could it be that your mother is harder on you because she knows/feels that you can do better? We are nearly double your ages and I take no pleasure in this, but to this day he has remained unemployed ( or unemployable ) and living off welfare and though he no longer lives with them he is still very dependent upon my parents. Because I know what it's like living with someone like that I know that saying things like, "don't let him get to you" and "don't get into fights with him", although sensible statements, just can't work all the time. I don't know what your situation is re: work, school, etc. but it's at all possible I would say that getting out of there would be a wise thing to do. When I left home I lived hand-to-mouth, bar jobs, waitering jobs, etc. Then I found an industry I enjoyed working in and starting putting myself through courses after work and steadily got better and better jobs. Can you do stuff that will keep you away from the house and therefore away from him? It's very difficult to come up with some decent advice to give you but what I do know is that I wouldn't be where I am today if I had stayed at home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DayumQuitPlayin Posted April 24, 2004 Author Share Posted April 24, 2004 Really, wow, seems like we've had some things in common, well I'm glad ur doin ya thing.. n iz doin better. Ima jus try to do me right now. It's really hard tho, specially without no family support. Thank you for ur words Link to post Share on other sites
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