pacific1 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Just got a couple lines: I'm on her mind a lot, etc. How should I respond? I already told her when we broke up that I wanted NC. I cannot tell you enough how much I just want to text/call back and talk to her. Like fuelling a drug addiction! I'm very far from being over her. What's keeping me from getting in touch is the knowledge that I will probably end up getting hurt again. This is tough so any wise words would be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 16, 2011 Share Posted July 16, 2011 she dumped you for a reason. Maybe not a good reason, but dumped you nonetheless. Now she wants to make nice? Oh honey, I don't think so. Ignore her texts, block her calls and emails, go cold turkey. It's the hardest thing you'll ever have to do, but possibly the smartest for your sanity. unless you WANT to draw out the heartache by playing her reindeer games??? Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted July 16, 2011 Share Posted July 16, 2011 Yeah I made that mistake to contact her and talk. It's better to do NC. Otherwise she'll tear you apart in half or try to use you for things you don't know your doing for her. Like in my case a dumpster she wants me to pay for. She's nuts it's not going to happen. You pay for it you deal with it. They're always nice when they want to get something from you. Stay strong and put up a wall to block her our and don't break down around her. That's shows weakness, which you don't want to do. It's time for you to be the one that's pulling the strings not her! Again be strong and stand tall! Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Dont reply!!!!! She is probably surprised you havent been in touch and is missing you, but also wants to know you are there, still having feelings for her, etc and once she knows this she will disapear for a while again and leave you more hurt than in the first place. If you get the urge to send/reply just think....what are you looking for in replying, are you going to get what you want. How will you feel if she doesnt reply back, what if she does reply back then waht...it will only lead right back to heartache be it later today or in a week. You have come a long way, i am 2 weeks nc and its tough. Stay strong. You can do it. Link to post Share on other sites
stopthemadness Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Just got a couple lines: I'm on her mind a lot, etc. How should I respond? I already told her when we broke up that I wanted NC. I cannot tell you enough how much I just want to text/call back and talk to her. Like fuelling a drug addiction! I'm very far from being over her. What's keeping me from getting in touch is the knowledge that I will probably end up getting hurt again. This is tough so any wise words would be appreciated. Hi, am over a year out of my breakup. Let me tell you, No contact is the only way to heal. Been there done that! I let my ex play games for a few months before I went total N/C. I really think the longer you are no contact the easier it gets to keep the N/C. These days its him that every month or so trys to reach out to me!! Oh my how the tables have turned! But I stay strong, I dont respond to anything. Become invisible to them. Do it for you. Ya, you'll still think of them from time to time. But as time gos by it will pass. Hang in there, stay strong..Ignore all contact....it works for me...... Link to post Share on other sites
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