Jagger341 Posted July 16, 2011 Share Posted July 16, 2011 (edited) If you saw my last thread I posted, you'd know about this damaged, 28 year old woman I'm very attracted to. I don't even know if I'm in love with her because I've never been in a real relationship, but everyday since I've started to talk to her (which was last weekend), not a day goes by without me fantasizing about her. I'm also not sure what I'll do if she's actually not interested in me. I'm pretty sure she is because she seems to actually care about my problems (maybe it's because I was empathetic with her problems). I've never really felt this way about anyone before, and I really want to be with her so badly, but I'm not sure if it's really love I'm feeling. Edited July 16, 2011 by Jagger341 Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Not to totally be Buzzkillington, but you are not in love with her (at least not yet), you can't be in love with someone (romantically) after knowing them for only 2 days...it is lust, longing and liking. Not to say it couldnt turn into to love, but at the moment it is really you just liking her a lot. Take things slow, no need to rush, especially if you havent been in love before. It is one of those things that is hard to know exactly what the feeling is, but this early I can assure you it is not love. Here is a little tip someone gave me about being in love and saying I love you for the first time...after you have been fighting the urge to say it for 2 months for fear of saying it too soon, then that is the time to finally say it...I kind of like that You dont want to rush this, it could ruin it and possibly scare her off if you move too quickly...just see where it goes and take it slow... Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 Not to totally be Buzzkillington, but you are not in love with her (at least not yet), you can't be in love with someone (romantically) after knowing them for only 2 days...it is lust, longing and liking. Not to say it couldnt turn into to love, but at the moment it is really you just liking her a lot. Take things slow, no need to rush, especially if you havent been in love before. It is one of those things that is hard to know exactly what the feeling is, but this early I can assure you it is not love. Here is a little tip someone gave me about being in love and saying I love you for the first time...after you have been fighting the urge to say it for 2 months for fear of saying it too soon, then that is the time to finally say it...I kind of like that You dont want to rush this, it could ruin it and possibly scare her off if you move too quickly...just see where it goes and take it slow... I had a friend argue with me that he was in love with a girl he had never met in person before. I tried explaining this to him and he just ignored me and said "love is a true feeling". I just thought, "maybe you should actually meet her before deciding you 'love' her?" I also had a guy who barely knows me say he "loves" me. He'd never spent any time with me (outside of time with me and my parents) and my mom had to tell him "you don't know anything about her, you've never spent any time with her, you don't 'love' her". Real, true love, will be reciprocated, number one...and second, it doesn't happen within 2 days. It seems more like infatuation at this point. Maybe try and take some time to get to know her and then decide if you love her. How can you know if you love someone when you don't know anything about them? Best of luck OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 I had a friend argue with me that he was in love with a girl he had never met in person before. I tried explaining this to him and he just ignored me and said "love is a true feeling". I just thought, "maybe you should actually meet her before deciding you 'love' her?" I also had a guy who barely knows me say he "loves" me. He'd never spent any time with me (outside of time with me and my parents) and my mom had to tell him "you don't know anything about her, you've never spent any time with her, you don't 'love' her". Real, true love, will be reciprocated, number one...and second, it doesn't happen within 2 days. It seems more like infatuation at this point. Maybe try and take some time to get to know her and then decide if you love her. How can you know if you love someone when you don't know anything about them? Best of luck OP. People don't decide to love someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 People don't decide to love someone. In so many ways they do and in so many ways they dont...but that isnt the point of what you responded too; it was the whole, you have never met this person and barley know them...you really need to meet them and spend time with them to SEE if you actually love them...doubt the poster was saying it is a choice like what beer to drink with dinner Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 In so many ways they do and in so many ways they dont...but that isnt the point of what you responded too; it was the whole, you have never met this person and barley know them...you really need to meet them and spend time with them to SEE if you actually love them...doubt the poster was saying it is a choice like what beer to drink with dinner I know what you're saying, but I wouldn't put it past her, as she thinks people choose their sexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
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