nikki25 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 im with my boyfriend 3 years now we broke up a few months back i dumped him for lien to me then we got back toghter about two weeks ago he told his cousin on facebook that he dont love me hes only with me so he can see his daughter all the time even doh befor we got back togheter he ignorned me for a month and didn take all the offers i gave him to see his child when we were broken up i made it clear to him that he doesn have to be with me he can see our daughter when ever he wants and we can be friends but hes the one who chose that we get back toghter and now i dont now wat to do he told his cousin he dont love me and he should be out there finding the right girl for him when confronted he said he chose the wrong words he ment to say he was falling out of love either way he has embarresed me and hurt me i told him we could en it but yet again he said he wants to be with me i am also pregnant again with second kid for him really hard choice to make what to do can some one please give me some advice ?
whichwayisup Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 What did your boyfriend, father of your child, lie to you about? It could be the cousin is jealous or is shi.t disturbing.. Either way, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and find out what is going on. If it is true, he isn't in love with you enough to make it work, then you two need to figure out a custody schedule, and get along well enough for your child's sake. Maybe family counselling could help.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 (edited) Get out now, your bf said straight up he is falling out of love with you. Theres no way back from that. And for god sakes use a condom next time! Im sure youve been in a relationship before where you were with someone that did things that made you check out from the relationship emotionally. And opnce you check out, you dont want to check back in. You want out, and you want to start over with someone else. Edited July 17, 2011 by Eddie Edirol
turnera Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Go to your church and ask your pastor to sit down with you and discuss things. Or go to www.unitedway.org and find a local chapter, and find a good family counselor. There is a lot to learn about relationships, and you will both benefit from it.
Author nikki25 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 thanks for the advice im really confused he tells me he does love me and hes stupid for saying that to his cousin hes made it clear he dont want me to go but i just dont now hes always lien about stuid stuff hes lied for most of the relationship i want to get rid i really feel i dont deserve to be treated like that is he just taking mr for a fool or is he just prone to doing stupid stuff like out of the blue tell his cousin he doesnt love me i wouldnt mind the night he said that to his cousin he was texting me sayin am i ok he misses me an loves me ect i actully thought he fancied his cousin but she is far too young and thats just wrong but what my suppose to think he was also very drunk that night and i had come home from my dads birthday to find what he was sayin abou me it sounded like he was slating me but he said he just needed someone to talk to about it really tough one because im pregnant with second baby
carhill Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 You thought he fancied his cousin but she's far too young..... oh, and you're pregnant with the second baby. There's your sign.... Welcome to LS
turnera Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 How about instead of focusing on some guy who treats you like crap, you spend your time bettering yourself for your two kids? Ignore him. Go back to school and get a degree. Get a decent career so you can support your kids and learn to be ok by yourself. That way, if he continues to treat you like crap, you can just send him on his way, because you won't need him.
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