smudge21 Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Okay, so nearly exactly a year ago I met my addiction, my ex, my 'the one'... as I thought she was. She never stood out for me, but over the course of getting to know her I just simply got hooked to everything about her. No two ways about it, I fell in love with this girl. I can easily recall not being attracted to her but slowly feeling that way until the day I realised I wanted her more than anything. Sadly things didn't work out. A year later, here I am. I meet another girl today. A mutual friend of a friend. Her attitude, her character, personality, everything about her just draws me in. I don't find her attractive at first, but now, after spending a day with her, I could so very easily date this girl. She is great. Sadly she is already taken, so I know that nothing will happen, but here's the good point to this story. I always thought the girl I met last year was so unique and special. Like so many of you out there, I thought she was the one. Never to be replaced or equalled. Yet, here comes a new girl and I can feel that (how do you explain it) gut feeling that makes you feel connected to someone, that you want to be with someone. I guess even though nothing will happen with this new girl, I feel now that my ex isn't the most incredible girl I thought she was, and yes, she can be replaced. There are people out there just as good as her. I guess it's like a weight has been lifted and I can finally move on. It's really hard to explain, but hopefully I've made an effort. In closing I guess there isn't really a 'the one', more just a 'the one right now'. We connect with people and it's very hard to break that connection. I know I still have feelings for the ex, but at least now I know I can move on and still have everything I had before... if not more. Link to post Share on other sites
brokendreamz Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Wow Smudge. I've read a few of your threads and this makes perfect sense. There's hope for us all ! Thank you for posting that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smudge21 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Glad you like it. It does feel all different today. I know I still love the ex, but I'm sort of okay with the fact it hasn't worked out, whereas before those feelings would hurt. I guess when we love someone so much, often the only cure is to realise that that person isn't as special as we believe. We have to take them off the pedestal we put them on, but we do need help in doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Trappedinyou Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Good stuff. I'd like to get to the place where I'm not thinking of her anymore but your post gives us hope. Link to post Share on other sites
FinOuch Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Thanks for that Smudge. Link to post Share on other sites
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