koopa132 Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 I'm so depressed...... I really like this girl I work with, but I dont seem to have the nerve to ask her out. I dont know why, I try to build up the nerve to do so, but cannot, which is making me really depressed. I know she likes me too because we spend out of time together and we get along really well. We always have lunch together and we walk home together. She seems to only like to talk to me and no other guys, except having fun chats when among friends. We talk more about serious things like family and how we are feeling, stuff like that. BUT I JUST SOMEHOW GET THE NERVE TO ASK HER OUT (sobbing) I think its because I dont know what to do after I ask her. I feel like things have to be perfect when I ask her and I just keep waiting for the right time to come, but nothing happens... I know I can ask her, but what makes me really nerves is what do to afterwards. I keep over thinking things and it hurts me and makes me depressed because I dont know what to do. I really need ppl's advise. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 I'm so depressed...... I really like this girl I work with, but I dont seem to have the nerve to ask her out. I dont know why, I try to build up the nerve to do so, but cannot, which is making me really depressed. I know she likes me too because we spend out of time together and we get along really well. We always have lunch together and we walk home together. She seems to only like to talk to me and no other guys, except having fun chats when among friends. We talk more about serious things like family and how we are feeling, stuff like that. BUT I JUST SOMEHOW GET THE NERVE TO ASK HER OUT (sobbing) I think its because I dont know what to do after I ask her. I feel like things have to be perfect when I ask her and I just keep waiting for the right time to come, but nothing happens... I know I can ask her, but what makes me really nerves is what do to afterwards. I keep over thinking things and it hurts me and makes me depressed because I dont know what to do. I really need ppl's advise. What should I do? I'm going to give you the easiest advice: after you walk her home, hug her and then slip a kiss on her cheek and then her lips. Her response is all you will need to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author koopa132 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 wouldn't that seem to forward? I was thinking about just asking her to dinner and a movie, or first to get some coffee then ask her for a dinner and a movie. Link to post Share on other sites
Author koopa132 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 We sometimes take walks after lunch. I was thinking about asking her then... "Would you like to get some coffee sometime? and maybe dinner?" Is that ok? Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 We sometimes take walks after lunch. I was thinking about asking her then... "Would you like to get some coffee sometime? and maybe dinner?" Is that ok? Do whatever you want. I'm just giving you advice from my perspective as I've been more successful with this approach, among others. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 Surely you know some of her interests by now. Does she like Starbucks coffee - offer to buy her one. Does she like a certain film - offer to take her. Just keep it friendly and polite. If she says no to any of them, be okay with it and suggest she let you know if she changes her mind. Just remember, you don't know what this girls thinking - she may be just as nervous as you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 If you say you know she likes you there's nothing to worry about. I'm quite a shy/anxious person but you don't have anything to lose mate. I wish I was in your situation, it's a very exciting time. I agree with what the other poster said about hugging her then going for a kiss. You could also hold her hand and squeeze it (not hard) and if she squeezes back she likes you. Just go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
kujaeast Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 I've never been one for giving advice. Though, this sounds similar to a situation I was in. You have to ask her. Personally, I don't think that "going for coffee or dinner" is the way to go. You are already past that friendship barrier. It's all too old fashioned. I think you need to just pluck up your courage and say it to her. Maybe write her a letter, somthing personal..not an email or a text. Just get your feelings out there, let her know how she makes you feel. Like the other guys here have said, only then will you know how she feels. Using my situation, as an example I will suggest that you do it, before its too late. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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