The girl at work

[jayp]

Recently a new girl came to work in the department right next to mine. She has long red hair, an athletic body, and a heart that will melt the coldest of dispositions. Shes a beautiful girl.

 

Now when she came to work i noticed her immediately started thinking about how i was gonna strike up a conversation with her. When I did i got very nervous because for some reason i struggle talking with sweethearts (girls without a mean bone in their body), and we really didn't hit it off.

 

The next day another guy in my department (who by the way is an ******* with yellow teeth and bad BO but still manages to get girls or so he claims) was leaving for lunch and started chatting her up at the door. You could tell by her body language that she liked him and she lit up like a ****ing Christmas tree. When i say hello, even though I'm trying to be the nice guy, she doesn't even look up but is still very sweet about it.

 

Needless to say this girl has been on my mind a lot and to see that scumbag have success with her really got me down. Having trouble with my work and I get distracted easily.

 

Any advice on how to handle my situation or how to deal these emotions?

[Shaun-Dro]

Recently a new girl came to work in the department right next to mine. She has long red hair, an athletic body, and a heart that will melt the coldest of dispositions. Shes a beautiful girl.

 

Now when she came to work i noticed her immediately started thinking about how i was gonna strike up a conversation with her. When I did i got very nervous because for some reason i struggle talking with sweethearts (girls without a mean bone in their body), and we really didn't hit it off.

 

The next day another guy in my department (who by the way is an ******* with yellow teeth and bad BO but still manages to get girls or so he claims) was leaving for lunch and started chatting her up at the door. You could tell by her body language that she liked him and she lit up like a ****ing Christmas tree. When i say hello, even though I'm trying to be the nice guy, she doesn't even look up but is still very sweet about it.

 

Needless to say this girl has been on my mind a lot and to see that scumbag have success with her really got me down. Having trouble with my work and I get distracted easily.

 

Any advice on how to handle my situation or how to deal these emotions?

 

Since you're all at work, don't assume this "scumbag" has got "her" in the bag. She may just enjoy being nice to everyone. Just step up your game and talk to her casually about things outside of work. Don't worry about the other guys.

 

Don't make it complicated because it isn't. And stop acting nervous. Girls hate nervous guys. It makes them nervous because they don't understand why you're nervous . Your goal is to be confident and to reassure her.

 

It's Monday tomorrow, remember? Get in there and start talking about your weekend to gauge her interest. If she reciprocates, suggest a thing you guys could do next weekend together. Either she'll bite or she won't. It's that simple.

[smudge21]

Don't focus on the other guy, but do remember how often you've seen people dating others that are so different to them. People get attracted to each other for more than just looks, so this girl may just like his personality. Who knows, try not to think about it. As far as you know she's still available.

 

However, that said, do remember this is work. No matter how things work out you will have to see her 5 days a week. This place is full of stories of people who fall for people at work and it doesn't work out. Nothing worse than having to see an ex everyday knowing you can't have them. So keep that in mind and tread carefully.

 

In regards to the nerves - yep, know exactly what you mean. If the girl is an instant attraction it can be so hard to act confident as you're so focused on what to say and whether or not you'll mess it all up. Nightmare. There's no easy fix, you just need to try and see her as anyone else in work and chat normally. Have a work reason to strike up the conversation. Be funny, friendly but not flirty (unless she is). Keep it cool and don't over do it - know when to end the conversation and walk away. Keep her wanting more. Don't tell her everything about yourself either - everyone likes a bit of mystery.

 

Good luck.

[Badenov]

First off, think of "scumbag" as a test of her character. If this is the kind of guy she'd go for, then obviously she's not worth your affection.

 

You may be projecting a bit. How well do you know this girl? Has she proven that she's a good person, or are you just inserting what you want to believe about her? I once had a friend at work who was very beautiful on the outside. After awhile, I started seeing just how ugly she was on the inside.

 

My advice is be a little aloof with her until you learn more.