How to move on....

[plz]

Long story short:

 

Met girl in college, fell madly in love with her. She had a boyfriends. I told her how I felt while we were both super drunk, I can't remember how she responded, but she told me (after a week of not talking--which wasn't *that* abnormal) that she got mad at me but wouldn't repeat what I said. My friend who was there told me that he thought I could get with her, but not to, because her boyfriend was cool and their relationship had already lasted 3 years--they would probably get married.

 

I kinda moved on, kinda not. Dated a few other people. A lot of the times I would compare them to her... Some of the times I thought I had moved on, others, I figured I didn't have a choice.

 

Eventually (read: last winter) I decided my friendship with her couldn't go on the way that it was. So, I started to try really hard to see her as only a friend, and acted differently around her. The sexual tension that--at the very least I always thought was there--was gone.

 

Her bf dumped her recently. She's still kinda pining for him, kinda moving on. In any case, all of my friends told me to go for her. Her friends, I felt like were very positive towards it too. She introduced me to one friend as "this is ____ my friend from college" and her friend turned to me and said "I know all about you; she talks about you all the time." In any case, I don't really feel the sexual tension anymore. She also offered to hook me up with her friends (I should add here that I am not great at meeting people and have never had sex--but done everything else. I'm 23. They probably know but I'm not sure.)

 

Then she was complaining to a group of us about what happened to her and how she was having trouble moving on/finding new people. At that, my friend (the one who told me to move on earlier) snapped at her (he also had told me that he was pretty sure I have a shot with her now). He said, (--me--) has been in love with you for years. *I* am in love with you. Everyone loves you. And went on and on. We were all really drunk, but she and her best friend went elsewhere for a while. She looked stunned. After awhile they came back but she didn't really talk much to me after. that was saturday.

 

Now I'm worried. I want her as a friend, as much as I want to go out with her. Hell, a LOT of the reason that I want to go out with her is that she could be my best friend. I can't even really tell if she's hot or not, because I'm so biased off of who she is as a person. And I can see her flaws just fine.

 

I need to move on. Would you all agree that I have no chance? How do people move on from stuff like this? I see her frequently because she knows most of my friends...

 

Thanks! I truly appreciate *any* advice...