without Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 (edited) about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me.We have dated for about 9 months.he always told me he has never loved any one like me.we used to talk everyday and even after 4 or 5 h we would miss eachother. he was kindda too sensitive ..there were times that he was sad for no apparent reason but maybe a breaking up of his friends (he would be so sad for these things but he left me ?!)or he would say life is hard..etc.. We live in different cities but they are really close ,actually it's like one city.I used to nag him about not coming here enough...he gave me different reasons like it's hard or I have to study.. the last one was i don't like your city..but he would go out with his male friends or to their house..anyways i love him so much.my parents that saw he was not coming enough put pressure on me..and about 3 weeks ago i cried and told him why don't you come more and you say you're always sad...at that time i was under lots of pressure of exams and my parents..I really didn't want to lose him..he said it will be okay ,i promise i'll come..he came that week and my parents were going away and i said let's go to our house but on the way my parents saw us and i told them he just wanted to walk me by to our house..(I have strict parents.) and about a month ago i told him that my parents have gone to a trip so you can come here and he said i love you so much and i can't risk losing you if i go there and your parents caught us having sex or sth.. anyways 2 weeks ago we had fight over sth silly. Before that on that night he told me what would happen if we were in an open relationship or far from eachother and after some time we understood we can't live without eachother esp you(and he is more exprienced than me he had some other gfs but he is my first..when we fisrt were dating he said we look alike and we r a great couple..we do think like eachother but after he did this im soo confused)...and the day after he said it's over and i was really shocked..he said he wanted to this for a couple of months....he gave me different reasons but all of them don't seem a reason to do that...fisrt he said we don't love eachother like we should and i said but i love you and he said i do too but you're a happy kind person and im not .. you'll forget in a few weeks and if you wanted after some time ask how i am doing..if i deserved you i would have stayed..or he said you'll find someone better...or that right now im not in a good condition to be in a relationship..but he was like this about other times in our relationship too...I can't stand this..i tell myself maybe he wants to see if i love him enough or not..but i asked one of his friends and he said that he got a feeling there's no comeback..btw i send him an email last week told him im sorry and i love him but he didn't answer,he has also blocked me on facebook...but then again i don't think he is the type that comes back ..i think after some time i should contact him again...but if he never answers i'm gonna be in so much pain...what do you think?will he come back?why did he did this?he is sagittarius if that may help.I so want to write to him right now to still be friends at least but i guess he won't answer. Edited July 19, 2011 by without Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 what do you think?will he come back?why did he did this?he is sagittarius if that may help.I so want to write to him right now to still be friends at least but i guess he won't answer. Go No Contact with him (NC). Don't initiate any contact at all with him (this includes: email, texting, calling, looking at online profiles, driving by his house, or 'accidentally' bumping into him while he's out with friends). We can't tell you whether or not he will come back. I'd advise you to think he will never come back and get into healing. The purpose of NC is to help you heal and become a better person, others see it as a technique to make your ex miss you and come back (which is very rare). He could be suffering from gigs (grass is greener syndrome), or he felt that you two weren't a good match and tried to let you down easy. you can read homebrew's post about gigs here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251986/ Don't write to him to be friends, you may be able to become friends in the future but it's not a good idea directly after the breakup when the wounds are still fresh. writing to him will also break your NC and keep setting you back in healing so don't even consider being friends until you have healed completely. During NC focus on yourself. focus on your studies, job, hobbies, go out with friends, meet new people, just stay busy. You may not feel like doing any of that right now which is fine, grieve over what happened, it's ok to cry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author without Posted July 19, 2011 Author Share Posted July 19, 2011 Thanks for answering.I read the thread Grass is Greener.I think I may have exprienced that. Link to post Share on other sites
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