Fantasy - Silutaneous intellectual and sexual compatibility?

[DiorAddict]

I'm soooo sexually attracted to Vin Diesel. Am I limiting my potential boyfriends by only going after guys that look like him? I met a nice guy, but he was just TOO skinny... I dunno. I'm petite myself, but I love huge men! I hate being shallow, but sexual attraction is so important to me. My father always tells me, when the attraction fades, cause it will, what are you going to talk about? (Meaning you need to find a mate that is intellectually as well as sexually stimulating). Any advice for me??

[Tony T]

Find a partner who you are turned on to the max sexually, screw his brains out until you get sick of him, and then find somebody you can talk to for a while. Repeat as necessary.

[moimeme]

The outside shell is rarely an indication of what it contains. Or, to use an old saying; 'you can't tell a book by its cover'. People don't pick their appearance; they're stuck with what they look like, but they do choose how to conduct their lives. Me, I'll take inner beauty every time.

 

A dear friend of mine, who always went for the tall, blonde, football-hero type married one - who drank and treated her like dirt. She, too, was after men with a certain 'look'. However she befriended a short, balding, pudgy fellow and eventually fell for him. They've been together very happily for ten years. It's a relatively simple thing to learn to love the looks of the person you love; quite another to try to manage a relationship with someone that you can't talk to.

 

Or, you can try Tony's solution LOL.

[befuddled11]

So how's the searching going? Finding many guys who are Vin Diesel lookalikes? Not many? Not any? Well there you go. Doesnt sound very logical or realistic to me, to be purposely looking for guys who look like some actor. But hey..if you must, if you're really attracted to the bald, not much for words type, try your local Old Folks Home.

[DiorAddict]

Tony, you are soooo crazy!!! That's not a bad idea, but I couldn't pull that off, lol

 

Moimeme, I agree with you on the inner beauty....But I MUST confess... I have a fear of dating someone that's not "my type" and finding out he is the greatest guy ever. I guess I just think about if I have children, but I don't want children that are beautiful yet have no substance!

 

I will just have to face my fears and date someone the opposite, just for kicks and see how it goes, maybe I will fall in love, who knows!!

[moimeme]

You can't guarantee what your kids will look like. Sometimes they will turn out looking like your siblings or parents. Marry a person for himself, not for his breeding potential.

[befuddled11]

Originally posted by DiorAddict

I have a fear of dating someone that's not "my type" and finding out he is the greatest guy ever. I guess I just think about if I have children, but I don't want children that are beautiful yet have no substance!

 

If I'm interpreting this correctly, are you saying above that you sort of base who you're going to date on their looks and what kind of children (how beautiful those children would be) you and he would produce? Sorta similar to a woman who would only date a supermodel-type guy....because she wants to be assured that she'll end up producing beautiful looking children.

 

Is that what you're saying here? That "this" factor enters into your decision of who to date?

[DiorAddict]

You can say that again! You never know how your child will come out these days. My dad's AWESOME at math and I'm the worst!

[faux]

Originally posted by DiorAddict

I'm soooo sexually attracted to Vin Diesel. Am I limiting my potential boyfriends by only going after guys that look like him?

 

YES.

 

I met a nice guy, but he was just TOO skinny... I dunno. I'm petite myself, but I love huge men! I hate being shallow, but sexual attraction is so important to me.

 

If you hate being shallow, then stop being shallow. If this guy was so nice, why did you let something like his weight upset you to the point where you called everything quits, or just never tried to make anything happen? Better thin than fat, eh?

 

My father always tells me, when the attraction fades, cause it will, what are you going to talk about? (Meaning you need to find a mate that is intellectually as well as sexually stimulating). Any advice for me??

 

If you found a nice guy, but you were too focused on looks and left him because of this, that is quite shallow of you. If you keep looking for these huge, muscular men, your chances of getting into a decent relationship are rather slim.

 

Find someone that you are attracted to, but don't be so picky that you have to date those look-alikes. We all want someone we're attracted to, but just be sure the guy is going to have more than just looks to offer you.

 

As for your children, for all you know you could have a child with the most gorgeous man alive, and it will just turn out that you were carrying a recessive gene for a huge nose. Voila! You married Mr. Supermodel, but your kid needs a nose job! It COULD, and does, happen. Don't be so picky about looks!

[DiorAddict]

I know this is a serious issue, but some of the responses I'm getting are just so funny. They're totally true and I feel really superficial. And faux, you're right about genes, they're something else!

 

The funny thing is, I might actually get to meet Vin myself. A peer of mine knows him and his family, not that anything would happen...

 

About muscular men, I can't help if. Hey, a lot of men go after Pam Anderson types. Look at Hugh Hefner! All of his "girlfriends" are tiny blonde chicks. That's a bad comparison...

 

That guy I cut off for being skinny should teach me a lesson. He could have been the one and I let him slip by....

[DiorAddict]

Also, when I was in college I took a class that talked about what attracts women to men. What they said is that women like a man with resources that can protect her and keep her safe. Also, each generation gets more good looking and has a stronger and better immune systems. Ideally, people want someone symmetrical, not asymmetrical.

 

My mother says the craziest thing. That all these BIG men I like could end up being punks and cowards that just have oversized muslces. Isn't mama cruel, lol?

[UCFKevin]

If you like the ones who look like him, do you go after the ones that sound like him at the same time?

 

The guys that sound like Darth Vader if he had a frog in his throat?

[yes]

Hm, the looks don't determine the attraction, really. But I agree that it's a problem to find someone sexually attractive AND someone you can really talk to and be best friends with.

 

good luck,

-yes

[DiorAddict]

Kevin, I'm not really one for a REALLY deep voice. That actually turns me off a bit, lol. And wanna hear something out there? I won't watch Vin in an interview because he's not a good conversationalist. He's not that bright at all, but I want to keep that sexual attraction to him for some reason.

 

The guy I dated was also an actor, so I was wary I would never get to know the real him. What if he was acting?!!

[befuddled11]

Originally posted by UCFKevin

If you like the ones who look like him, do you go after the ones that sound like him at the same time?

 

The guys that sound like Darth Vader if he had a frog in his throat?

 

I can't for the life of me figure out why so many women are attracted to him. I just don't get it. To me, he comes across as a big dumb lug, and not the least bit attractive.

[magda]

I found a Vin Diesel look-alike in Mexico a couple years ago... *sigh* I still have the rose he gave me, haha! ('Course, I even have part of my high school graduation lei - mostly because moving them is going to make a big mess of dried petals and the like..) You're certainly entitled to get a guy with mojo. But you should expect to fill in the blanks in your imagination between where his mojo stops and your expectations do, ya know.

 

On the topic of skinny guys, however, a woman shouldn't have to compromise. I like a big guy myself - not necessarily muscle. I've tried dating really skinny guys... it felt like I was hugging a toothpick or something. There is NO WAY I'm going to survive in a relationship where I'm the 'fat one', no sir, never, no way.

 

No.

 

I've tried, honest!

 

No.

[DiorAddict]

Don't you get it? HE IS a big, dumb log! That's why I can't watch him in an interview! He's only eye candy.

 

My wish is to find someone who looks like him, is as mysterious and sexy as Chris Klein (he's such a hottie), sounds like my ex (j/k!!) and is as intelligent as....hmmm there are a lot of intelligent men out there, thank God!

[DiorAddict]

Magda thank you!!! You understand!!!

 

I want a big teddy bear!!! After all, how can I get rough in the bedroom with someone that looks like he can't handle it? LOL