Jaidee Posted April 24, 2004 Share Posted April 24, 2004 Hey all, It's been six months now since my ex left me, we'd been together for two years and no i feel i'm ready to moev on and find myself a nice girlfriend. Thing is, I know that once i've started to talk to a girl i'd have no problem holding a conversatio with her, but when I'm out, in a club or whatever, I don't know the very first word to say to someone. That first thing, just to get it going, I have no idea what to say! Please can someone help me out with this problem. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
mont13 Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 What works best for me is if at a busy bar or club while waiting for a drink at the bar if there is a good looking girl waiting for a drink next to me i will say something like hey "lets work as a team here" especially if there are both a female and male bartender behind the bar i'll say soemthing like your a beautifull girl so you get the guy bartenders attenion and ill get the female bartnenders attenion and whichever gets the attenion first we will make sure they get both our drinks.(the key is dont make it sound like a line just make it sound like fun!) If she laughs and is cool with it then just run with it and then when you finnaly get your drinks say ok next time you are ready for a drink find me we make a good team! and then go your seperate ways. Now if you have want to talk to her later in the night you'll always have a ice breaker. Might not work for everyone but it what i have to offer!! Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Mont, THAT'S SO CLEVER!! I'm a chick, so I don't have to come up with lines. A kinda lame one that was used on me (and as lame as it was I let him buy me a drink) was a guy came over and leaned REAL close and said, "my buddies over there don't think you'll give me the time of day, mind if I buy you a drink to prove them wrong?" Now granted I figured it was a setup but he was pretty cute, and played it off like it was true, so I said ok. We ended up having a very nice conversation actually and his buddies looked at each other like they were shocked, kept glancing over at us, etc. while we were talking. Kinda fun. Just a suggestion, after saying hi and introducing yourself with your great smile, ask her what she does for a living. It gets the pressure off you to think of things to say. Just ask questions and let her babble on. Mars and Venus on dating is a good book since you are getting into the dating scene again. (by John Gray) Has tons of tips on how to communicate so you can sweep her off her feet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jaidee Posted April 25, 2004 Author Share Posted April 25, 2004 Thanks for all your advice, I think I've had some bad luck in the past, where girls have just either walked straight off or told me where I stand. I hope there are girls out there who'll give me a chance! Link to post Share on other sites
mont13 Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 The smoothest and best looking guys strike out 7 out of 10 times..dont let them fool you!! all you can do is keep swinging and youll hit that homerun trust me!!!!! dont strike out lookin! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 the best ice breaker i've ever used is "hey, how's it going?" then cont from there. dunno how success ful this is in bars/clubs, but ive used this in general in many places and it seems to be a good ice breaker any time....then have a nice chat or etc. there may be other times where i dont need that and will say something else. Link to post Share on other sites
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