pink24 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 So after five years together, he has walked away like I have never known him. He has turned into some sort of 'player'. Drinking, partying and hooking up with other girls. I feel so stupid! I feel like he has totally disrespected me and our relationship! I new he would move on but 4 weeks? after everything we went through together.... Any advice guys?? Link to post Share on other sites
shortee143 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 So after five years together, he has walked away like I have never known him. He has turned into some sort of 'player'. Drinking, partying and hooking up with other girls. I feel so stupid! I feel like he has totally disrespected me and our relationship! I new he would move on but 4 weeks? after everything we went through together.... Any advice guys?? My ex did something similar. Wanted to be single and have fun etc...hence he had a "blank stare" and could give no real reason to leave me besides that. 2 months later, he is seeing someone else....as well as hooked up with a few others in there. I have witnessed him with other girls, and boy it stings. There is just something about seeing a girl who is in "your (old) shoes", so to say. You def take an ego hit, and ask the whys..why her and not me, etc. I still get ill when I think of him having sex with others, but I just try not to think of that. At the end of the day...your ex and mine, they are not worthy of us. If they can walk away from someone that loves them just to party and get laid....then so be it. It hurts like HELL, but you do wise up in due time. This quote caught my eye the other day "Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them." Rings true---they gave up on the one person who wouldnt have given up on them...our exes gave up to party and hook up, are they entitled to it, sure...but nonetheless, they quit on us. It is now our job to be as strong as we can, and if this all wears off..and they come back....to say NO! Link to post Share on other sites
69ways Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 you girls need to do this:find the best good looking guy and start kissing in the vicinity of ur ex.....fight fire with fire , oh and dont forget to leave together, even if you dont go home with them...dumper or dumpee will get hurt.... might reduce chances of getting back together but hei who wants a person back that moves on so fast? Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 My advise is to remember he is now your ex and what he does isn't about you anymore. I also advise you realize the cold person he is and that since this is what he is about, you just dropped a bunch of trash at the curb of life. His exiting stage left was a huge favor to you. Link to post Share on other sites
catchthedrift Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I know how it feels. My ex left me with the same ice cold stare. He partied a lot through our break up and was flirting with so many girls, but he never started seeing anyone else, hasn't to this day (8 months later). Apart from that, it took me a long time to realize that he is very very broken and has issues that I can not help him with which he needs to figure out himself. Give your ex some time, he will get back to you at some point with an explanation or apology, if he is a decent human being. It's a phase. You might not get back together but I am 80% sure he will come to his senses at some point in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 NC - - ignorance really is bliss at times like this. the less i know what he's up to, the better of i am Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 So after five years together, he has walked away like I have never known him. He has turned into some sort of 'player'. Drinking, partying and hooking up with other girls. I feel so stupid! I feel like he has totally disrespected me and our relationship! I new he would move on but 4 weeks? after everything we went through together.... Any advice guys?? Time to move on. He has shown his true colors. He's a player, not a man who can commit to one person. If he realizes his mistake later on and comes groveling back, don't take him back. Please. Guys like this can never be trusted. He doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone better, and I would suggest next time don't go so long in a relationship without a ring (marriage). You ladies make it too easy for a guy to just give up on a relationship after you've invested so much time in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pink24 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 Time to move on. He has shown his true colors. He's a player, not a man who can commit to one person. If he realizes his mistake later on and comes groveling back, don't take him back. Please. Guys like this can never be trusted. He doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone better, and I would suggest next time don't go so long in a relationship without a ring (marriage). You ladies make it too easy for a guy to just give up on a relationship after you've invested so much time in it. Suggesting I dont go so long in a relationship next time without a ring doesnt really make sense. Sorry! Im 22 years of age, I'm still young as was he, commitment in a relationship via a ring or marriage will come naturally. We were committed to each other fully during the relationship and as soon as that changed so did my Ex... Thanks all the same I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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