lamp65 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 We've talked a little via e-mail in the past year. He gave me false hopes. Valentines Day he put a card through the door and left a teddy bear on the doorstep. The card read on the front "I loved you yesterday, I love you today and I will love you all the tomorrows". He wrote inside "For all the days I've missed and all the nights I will miss". Then in April a birthday card "You will always have a place in my heart". Then email contact - he said about 2 months ago that we could try again, slowly as just friends. And now nothing. Haven't heard from him in 4 weeks and not expecting to. Why did he give me false hopes? I still hurt like hell and it isn't getting any easier. I keep hoping to get a call or an email from him, but I know it won't happen. I want him out of my head, but he's in there constantly. Every minute of every day. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Hey Lamp, I've got the anniversary of my breakup coming up August 14th, and her B-Day is the 2nd. I know I'll have it on my mind too. Fortunately though my ex hasn't tried to contact me in all this time. I read a book called "He's Scared, She's Scared" by Steven Carter abut commitment-phobic people, and the way your ex has behaved sounds pretty commitment-phobic to me. He can't commit to being with you but he also wants to keep you hanging on just in case he decides he wants to give it a go again someday. The book made a lot of sense when it said that a relationship like this never really ends until the dumpee decides to let it go. Clearly what he;s doing is hurting you, and you won't be able to heal until he's out of your life. When he contacts you again (and he probably will) I think you need to pull the plug. You need to take a stand and tell him that you're no longer an option and that he needs to move on. So you'll always have a place in his heart? He made his choice and he needs to deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lamp65 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I just need to get over him and it's easier said than done. Hope you deal with your "anniversary" OK. Link to post Share on other sites
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