Tech_E Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 That is simply AWFUL! It's amazing how much the emotional stress can impact our entire lives. My wife and I nearly lost our jobs as a direct result of all this. MM4, you did not let your son down, things like this happen. You will be OK, although I am sure it doesn't seem like it at the moment. I wish you the best during this incredibly hard time in your life. I wish I could offer some assistance besides words. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: I am sorry to hear that. You didn't let your son down, you are trying the best you can. Life is hard when we are dealing with this much stress, it just plains sucks. You will find another gig soon. How about unemployment in the mean time to get you through? Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: I am sorry to hear that. You didn't let your son down, you are trying the best you can. Life is hard when we are dealing with this much stress, it just plains sucks. You will find another gig soon. How about unemployment in the mean time to get you through? thanks everyone for the kind words.. yea I have a lot of good friends in the industry, so hopefully I can find something fast. i just picked up my son and told the ex that I was no longer working at my job. she got upset and said his healthcare is YOUR responsibility. I told her he was my main concern, and I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure he is taken care of. she was like "why did you lose your job".. I told her my performance had gone downhill ever since the separation and the damage had been done. she was like "well I'm sorry" as insincerely as possible. I should've said thats none of your business. when I was buckling in my son I said oh btw you might want to tell your coworker friend xxxx to be more careful who he tells things to... all of it got back to me. of course she denied it, as all cheaters do. in the wtf category, today is exactly 1yr after the big event that turned our separation from fairly civil to WWIII. I can't help but think there is something to that. what a day. I get to see my son.. I love him so much. Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4 - so sorry for your troubles... now you have another main focus other than your son, that is finding a job... you will be fine... now it is really important to not think about the ex so much, there are many things much more important than her... you are a good guy, the best is yet to come, you can't see it yet but trust me there's an incredible life ahead of you and your boy! Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 Guys, before you go down that road I am going to share a link with you. Nothing wrong with being a "nice guy" but this can turn into being a victim if your not too carefull. For me I am going to stop being the "nice guy" and instead be the "kind guy", grow some balls and say no to things. What is wrong with nice guys? that was a great link - I think many of the guys posting here should be honest and see that we may have some of those traits... once the pain subsides we need to look very clearly at ourselves in the mirror... nothing wrong with being genuinly nice but we need to stop being "The Nice Guy" - for those of you who haven't read this yet it's worth a look! Link to post Share on other sites
Lexygirl Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Sorry to hear about your job, MM4. Just remember that when one door closes another one opens and as hard as it sounds now, I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Sometimes it doesn't become apparent right away but eventually it will. TC Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Share Posted July 29, 2011 (edited) i'm in so much trouble. none of this would have happened if my "wife" had stood by me like she vowed to. none of it. ive struggled with the "everything happens for a reason" thing forever... it really seems like something people say when terrible things happen to them to make themselves feel better. Edited July 29, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
Lexygirl Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 i'm in so much trouble. none of this would have happened if my "wife" had stood by me like she vowed to. none of it. ive struggled with the "everything happens for a reason" thing forever... it really seems like something people say when terrible things happen to them to make themselves feel better. Aw. I'm sorry you feel that way. I say it because I've been in situations that if ****ty things hadn't happened the way they did, I wouldn't have learned a certain thing or my life wouldn't have taken a certain positive necessary turn or I wouldn't have had a certain wake up call that was needed. I have also seen others who this has happened to as well. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 MM4 these damned women just don't get it! They don't. I know things seem bleak right now, but a new door will open. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Share Posted July 29, 2011 MM4 these damned women just don't get it! They don't. I know things seem bleak right now, but a new door will open. i have faith. thanks dude. i saved my ex wife when she had nothing. i never asked for ANYTHING from her in 8 YEARS, just to love me and be there for me. she couldnt even do that. i supported her 100% for 3yrs so she could be a stay at home mom which was HUGE. did she ever appreciate it? f*ck no. do i have some woman to leech off of like she has the OM? nope. ive been independent and supported myself since '94.. everything i have I've earned on MY OWN. no one has handed me anything. i went through SO MUCH to get where i was in May 10 and she BLEW UP THE WHOLE THING. it was like a twin tower coming down. does she feel any regret? not at all. its all about HER and has always has been. she was phenomenal at hiding that. what, cause she is semi decent looking and has a p**sy she gets taken care of the rest of her life? makes perfect sense. Link to post Share on other sites
starting2wakeup Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 MM4, I am VERY sorry to hear about you losing your job. now it is really important to not think about the ex so much, there are many things much more important than her andy hit the nail on the head with this one. You have every right in the world to take the next day or two and curse the skies for the sh*t it it has rained down on you in the last year. But only a day or two. Then you re-focus 100% of your energy on finding a new job and taking care of your boy. From now on your ex should get nothing from you, not even your disdain. It's easier said than done, trust me I know, but now maybe more than ever is the time to prove to yourself, not to her or anyone else, but to yourself just how fu*king badass you can be! I have 100% faith that you will make it through this mm4 because I know you love your boy as much as I love my daughters. You are going to find a new job. A better job. And when your son is older he is going to look back with tremendous respect for you, because he will have seen that despite what the world threw at him, his dad made it through it all like a boss! And it will inspire him to be a better man. A man like his father. Good luck to you mm4. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Share Posted July 29, 2011 s2w- you are so right i know my value in this world, and its pretty damn high. all these constant rejections and people unfairly judging me is making me stronger. my boy loves me very much (he's sitting over my shoulder as i type this) and I will always be there for him. f his mom. i'd like to think the truth will come out one day, but it won't change anything because she has no conscience and can always justify her actions, no matter how horrible. i've never seen someone so capable of lying to themselves to avoid guilt and responsibility. thats a product of pure immaturity and just being raised wrong. again, f her. its about me, my boy, and my immediate family. i will overcome all this. Link to post Share on other sites
updown Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 oh geez! i am so sorry to hear about the job:-( that sucks royally! in this area there are so many opportunities! i hope you find one BETTER!! maybe this is all about starting a new life, a better life? enjoy this time with your son!!! as for the insurance. in our agreement it states as long as his job provides insurance he'll cover the kids....... read your agreement. see what it says word for word. her attitude is completely uncalled for and well, she's just WRONG! HUGS!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Share Posted July 29, 2011 yea she is just wrong in general. but **** it, she's not my problem anymore also saw she had a really tacky tattoo of our sons name on her foot in some nasty cursive. SUPER tacky. you can take the girl out of Sterling but you can't take the Sterling out of the girl (for all you NoVA peeps) Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 MM4: You're going to make it through this rough patch (unemployment), because simply you're a tougher sonuvabitch than you were a year ago. You weathered your ex-wife's insanity and emerged clearer of mind, and everything you've indicated about your history shows that you've got the focus, the determination, and grit to get what YOU want out of life. Link to post Share on other sites
TroyNJ Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 yea she is just wrong in general. but **** it, she's not my problem anymore also saw she had a really tacky tattoo of our sons name on her foot in some nasty cursive. SUPER tacky. you can take the girl out of Sterling but you can't take the Sterling out of the girl (for all you NoVA peeps) Your wife must be related to mine.........At 39 she dedcided she needed several tattoos...What a ignoramous! Link to post Share on other sites
updown Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 don't hate on the tattoos now!!! not cool! some of us grew up in snooty richie rich areas, and still got tattoos. doesn't mean we're trashy or slummy!! some of us, have deep meaning behind ours........... Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 I'm pretty sure MSWS got the boot. As I recall he at one point talked about sticking a body part in a Big Mac (or maybe it was a Whopper) and then offered to "bang" DOT. She laughed it off but I'm pretty sure that's enough to get you banned. Well now I least I can be sure whatever burgers I eat are safe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 31, 2011 Author Share Posted July 31, 2011 don't hate on the tattoos now!!! not cool! some of us grew up in snooty richie rich areas, and still got tattoos. doesn't mean we're trashy or slummy!! some of us, have deep meaning behind ours........... Tattoos are fine.. my exes are trashy and tacky as hell.. just like her. I have ink from like 98.. I absolutely hate it and want it lasered off. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 31, 2011 Author Share Posted July 31, 2011 I think I'm finally figuring out feeling sorry for myself is really detrimental to making things better for. I'm not doing it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
updown Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 GOOD!!! it is not helpful in the least bit to feel sorry for yourself!!!! we saw the rodeo last night. watched a couple guys get their heads busted by the bulls. one guy, fell to the ground and took several minutes to get back up. if he can do it, YOU can too!!!! hugs!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 1, 2011 Author Share Posted August 1, 2011 well.. i have a lot on my plate right now and i have to start making good decisions. im a bit overwhelmed and nervous, but what else can I do but try and fix things. this bad luck has to end soon.. Link to post Share on other sites
kilahchris Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 Yeah apparently he went back to relapsing and chat because he was worried about having a "depressing marriage that was heavy scarred." Well thanks Honey for putting it out of it's misery. Yeah I am so pleasant at the age of 29 after missing one calendar year of sex. Whoopie. I fuvking hate him do much right now. I wish he would just win the lottery and die in a fireball car wreck. After reading your rantings about your Husband who watches porn I believe your personality drove him to it. Why woud you waste your hard earn money paying for his treatment... now your mad that you are stuck with the bill and he is still wacking off... Men who look at porn fantasize about something they wish but they do not have. Maybe your part of the problem as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 1, 2011 Author Share Posted August 1, 2011 After reading your rantings about your Husband who watches porn I believe your personality drove him to it. Why woud you waste your hard earn money paying for his treatment... now your mad that you are stuck with the bill and he is still wacking off... Men who look at porn fantasize about something they wish but they do not have. Maybe your part of the problem as well. i would suggest putting on a helmet right about now. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 well.. i have a lot on my plate right now and i have to start making good decisions. im a bit overwhelmed and nervous, but what else can I do but try and fix things. this bad luck has to end soon.. Your "bad luck" ended when she left you. You don't see that now, but you will, in time. Link to post Share on other sites
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