Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 16, 2011 Author Share Posted August 16, 2011 my friend I wish there was something interesting to report.. basically I'm just trying to find a new job and pay all the bills I have piling up. there has been no communication with exW since last week, and it was brief and polite on both sides. her new thing is saying "thank you" and "i appreciate that" alot. i would guess she learned this in the mandatory parenting class. its obviously not genuine and is just to keep things peaceful which is fine. i've accepted everything.. I'm alone and have a lot of things to deal with. I miss my son terribly but I know he will always be there for me. nothing is going to change with exW, she has been gone forever. i wish she missed me but she doesn't and won't. i'm just trying to take the high road and better myself and make sound decisions like I used to. i still think about her but i'm getting very good at pushing those thoughts out of my head because they are counter productive. this is the worst time of my existence but its up to me whether I come out of it or not, and I will. I like myself and respect myself. i know I'm a good person and my son does too, thats all that matters (thanks AndyG). everything is going to be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 16, 2011 Share Posted August 16, 2011 Gotcha, sounds like you are moving forward, awesome. You have your priorities in check and you are going to do great in life, that's for sure. Keep it going. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 16, 2011 Author Share Posted August 16, 2011 yep I am. had a job interview this afternoon that went really good and I got to see my son at his swim lessons. I feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 Awesome! Good luck with the job hunt, hope you nail that one! Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 Awesome! Good luck with the job hunt, hope you nail that one! we'll see.. what worries me is no one sees things the way I do, so maybe I didn't do as good as I thought I did. I've never had such a stretch of bad luck, it has to end soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 Nah, you are second guessing yourself now. Your time is here man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 ugh, the dark feelings are back. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 F'ing rollercoaster man. It seems never to end but you will get through those feelings. Get a punching bag and destroy that thing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 Just notified I didn't get the job I interviewed for yesterday...... makes no sense I think I did awesome but apparently they didn't agree. Oh well.. Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 Just notified I didn't get the job I interviewed for yesterday...... makes no sense I think I did awesome but apparently they didn't agree. Oh well.. sorry to hear that - there may be many more rejections coming up... learn from each one - you will eventually find a job, just keep moving forward..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 I'm not really too worried about it. I just picked up my son from his trifling, bitch ass mother. She is going out of town tomorrow and asked me if I wanted him a day early last week and I said I'd love to take him. I made a point to tell her I'd give her the check today, and did. She said it was $735 last month so thats what i wrote the check for. Today I wrote it for the same amount, and keep in mind I can't even pay my mortgage and a bunch of other bills due to the fact I'm between jobs, but I wanted to do right by my son and pay his support first and foremost. I also asked her if she had changed her last name yet, and she said no. I asked why and she said because its our sons last name. I said calmly the LEAST you could do after everything is change your last name, I know no one in my family wants you having our name. So, she looks at the check while walking to her car and shes like the amount is $755. I'm like ok getting in my car. She says well are you going to pay me the difference? I'm like only you would sweat $20. I AM UNEMPLOYED and I paid the amount we had talked about. She said "well thats not my concern". I said you are without a doubt the greediest person I've ever met. She said "oh yea I'm greedy for trying to take care of MY SON". I ****IN HATE THAT BITCH. Get you POS boyfriend to chip in. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 Wow, MM4, buddy. You are so out of line here dude..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 (edited) Oh really? Please feel free to expound. I also like how greedy cunt waits until I'm done writing the check to tell me this. Why exactly would she wait weeks to bring this up? Edited August 17, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 I'm not really too worried about it. I just picked up my son from his trifling, bitch ass mother. She is going out of town tomorrow and asked me if I wanted him a day early last week and I said I'd love to take him. I made a point to tell her I'd give her the check today, and did. She said it was $735 last month so thats what i wrote the check for. Today I wrote it for the same amount, and keep in mind I can't even pay my mortgage and a bunch of other bills due to the fact I'm between jobs, but I wanted to do right by my son and pay his support first and foremost. I also asked her if she had changed her last name yet, and she said no. I asked why and she said because its our sons last name. I said calmly the LEAST you could do after everything is change your last name, I know no one in my family wants you having our name. So, she looks at the check while walking to her car and shes like the amount is $755. I'm like ok getting in my car. She says well are you going to pay me the difference? I'm like only you would sweat $20. I AM UNEMPLOYED and I paid the amount we had talked about. She said "well thats not my concern". I said you are without a doubt the greediest person I've ever met. She said "oh yea I'm greedy for trying to take care of MY SON". I ****IN HATE THAT BITCH. Get you POS boyfriend to chip in. See the bolded. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 (edited) Um, I'm sorry you believe whatever you want but no, everyone in family despises this person, and I know I sure as hell don't want her carrying my name. Sorry if you think that is OUT OF LINE. Secondly, she IS a greedy POS. Tell you what cunt.. how about you take the difference out of the MONTHS OF SPOUSAL SUPPORT YOU WERE PAID WHILE YOU WERE COMMITTING ADULTERY. Not to mention I had to spend $3000 hiring a PI to find out WHERE MY ****IN SON WAS LIVING BECAUSE THIS "PERSON" LIED OVER AND OVER ABOUT WHERE HE WAS STAYING. Out of line, what the **** ever. So much for your credibility. Edited August 17, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 17, 2011 Share Posted August 17, 2011 Wow, later MM4. She may be a bitch, but you don't have to throw your hat into the ring. Nobody took her side. Cya Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Share Posted August 17, 2011 (edited) Wow, later MM4. She may be a bitch, but you don't have to throw your hat into the ring. Nobody took her side. Cya i don't feel a bit bad about what I said or did under the circumstances. thanks for your feedback. and please, explain to me why this person would want to have my last name? because our son has the same last name? are you ****ing kidding me? Edited August 17, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 18, 2011 Author Share Posted August 18, 2011 please someone answer since dot has thrown out judgement and conveniently left. is it abnormal for me to want this person who has caused me more pain and agony than anything or anyone else in my existence to change her name back? From my perspective thats the LEAST she could do. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 Dude, I wasn't referring to you wanting her name changed back. I was referring to the way you were addressing the issues. I hope that your son wasn't present. If my ex-h talked to me at all like that I would boot him in the ass. If my credibility isn't what you think, better not to worry about what judgment I may or may not have thrown out. Tried to say it nicely. She's going to bait you until at least your son's 18th birthday. She might be an idiot. But it is up to you whether or not you take the bait. Don't drink the Kool-Aid MM4. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 Um, I'm sorry you believe whatever you want but no, everyone in family despises this person, and I know I sure as hell don't want her carrying my name. Sorry if you think that is OUT OF LINE. Secondly, she IS a greedy POS. Tell you what cunt.. how about you take the difference out of the MONTHS OF SPOUSAL SUPPORT YOU WERE PAID WHILE YOU WERE COMMITTING ADULTERY. Not to mention I had to spend $3000 hiring a PI to find out WHERE MY ****IN SON WAS LIVING BECAUSE THIS "PERSON" LIED OVER AND OVER ABOUT WHERE HE WAS STAYING. Out of line, what the **** ever. So much for your credibility. Whatever she says to you... you don't have to agree just smile, nod your head and walk away. Then come to this forum and call her what you like. Get a punchbag, hit the living daylights out of it or go for an aggressive 20 mile bike ride, whatever!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 18, 2011 Author Share Posted August 18, 2011 Dude, I wasn't referring to you wanting her name changed back. I was referring to the way you were addressing the issues. I hope that your son wasn't present. If my ex-h talked to me at all like that I would boot him in the ass. If my credibility isn't what you think, better not to worry about what judgment I may or may not have thrown out. Tried to say it nicely. She's going to bait you until at least your son's 18th birthday. She might be an idiot. But it is up to you whether or not you take the bait. Don't drink the Kool-Aid MM4. addressing the issues, eh. i don't think there is anything wrong with asking if she had changed her name back yet. We're not married. I hate her. My family hates her. My friends hate her. She is living with some POS. Why the f*ck would she want to keep my name? she never was and never will be part of our family. and yes, making a big deal out of $21 is trifling. if you can't see that then we'll agree to disagree. and of course, she twisted everything around later saying I said that I shouldn't have to pay anything since I wasn't working. WHAT I SAID is basically I can't believe you're making a big deal out of $21 under the circumstances. And I can't. So, call it out of line if you want, I really don't give a f*ck. Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 MM4, I get how you are feeling, you hate her and all that has happened. Its truly understandable. But, believe me when I say you will get to the point that all you feel is indifference towards her. In the meantime, if you can, I would suggest keeping all conversations/interactions to the very minimum. That way she has minimal opportunity to bait you. Bite your tongue MM4 and walk away with a smile on your face Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 You can't make her change her name back. It's her name now, you gave it to her when you married her. It's a gift that you can't take back. I'm afraid you'll just have to accept that. Anyone is free to change their name to whatever they like, anyway. If you want her name to be different to yours then you can change yours. If the courts/CSA/whoever dictates CM in your jurisdiction says you need to pay $755, then you need to pay $755. Whether she's petty or a b!tch or trifling is irrelevant. If you owe it then you owe it. If you're paying voluntarily then you're free to tell her to go swivel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted August 18, 2011 Author Share Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) Look, I'm not arguing that I shouldn't pay what I owe. I paid her what WE thought was the correct amount last month. Since she didn't say anything I wrote a check IN FRONT OF HER for the same amount. Then this "person" decides to tell me oh its 755 not 735 as we're leaving. I can't pay my mortgage or a bunch of other bills and I made a point to honor my responsibility to support my son. Lets also keep in mind I paid her $400 more a month for SPOUSAL SUPPORT for like 8 months while she lived with the OM piece of ****. Even after she was exposed for that, she still collected the 400 for another month. Further lets keep in mind this sponge piece of trash is being supported by this OM, I'm sure she isn't responsible for anything house wise. This is the greedy POS I'm dealing with. This person has no morals, no integrity, and lies about everything. She'll get her $20. My last name was a gift? Really? Well considering this "person" claims she wants nothing to do with me, why exactly would she want it? No, by law I can't make her change her name back, just ooanother thing I get screwed over on in this whole debacle. And rest assured, she knew exactly how much leverage she would have after I got her pregnant and made the grievous error of marrying her. Calculating bitch. Edited August 18, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 Dude... 1. Of course she should change her name, why would she want to keep it?! With all that comes with having her ex-husbands last name. So stupid, she is an idiot. 2. If by law you owe her that money then so be it. You can square up with her next time. She should cut you some slack though due to your circumstances and not be such a c*** by being demanding and rude about it. I can really sense how much animosity you have towards her. Hopefully that will fade because it's not healthy for you and your son. Let your ex F around and do whatever she wants. She will have to live with herself and you are rid of her, you are the winner here. PS - Sorry about the job interview not working out, on to the next one. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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