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Why can't I just get over it?


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For more on my situation:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t282070/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t285250/

 

My ex and I are officially not speaking, and haven't been for 3 weeks now. The last time I talked to him, the day the second thread was posted, I lost it. I had been stewing on our conversation from the night prior and I just called him and went off on him. I told him that we weren't going to work this out, he agreed and I cut him off. I knew he would be cool with it, because the truth is he was never going to think about it. He doesn't care. So I told him off. Told him that I was disgusted by him, his hypocrisy, and his lies. He said he didn't care and told me to "Stop torturing him." So that's it, we haven't spoken since.

 

So why can't I stop thinking about him? Why can't I stop feeling bad that we're really not going to speak anymore? I know he's no good for me, but yet, I would give anything to hear from him. I don't understand why I can't just be happy that it's over and move on. I've gone on dates, I've bought books, I go out with my friends, I have an awesome job, I'm even in therapy.

 

Even if he did come back, there's no way I could be with him. He lied about that girl, which leads me to believe that he was probably cheating on me with her too. I don't trust him AT ALL. And to make things worse, I might be seeing them both at a convention this week.

 

What's wrong? I just want to move on and not care anymore...

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Just sent him an IM. Told him sorry for the way our last conversation went and that I hoped everything is well. No response, but oh well. I really need to just move forward.

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Trappedinyou

It takes time. You invested in a love and now it's gone.

It would not be right to feel nothing.

My dumper was not very nice to me for the whole 2 and a half years but I saw it through until she left me for a childhood sweetheart she had not seen for 26 years.

I gave her everything she wanted and everything I had.

I know how you are feeling.

It's a greiving like a death and we have to go through a process.

 

One step at a time.

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