TI-84 Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 I have been friends with this girl for around ~6 months. I first met her in college and everything between us has been platonic until last month. All of a sudden, I'm getting a lot of buying signals such as - Touching my arm a lot - REALLY big smiles, excessive laughter - Dressing better - More compliments from her - Wants to hang out specifically with me alone without our other friends - Looks sad when I mention my ex girlfriend This is odd because she has a boyfriend and she is generally a very reserved person. I don't know if she is now attracted to me or is just very comfortable What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
susanfollows Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 Girls play this game, it's called emotional leeching. She'll use you for the emotional interest her boyfriend doesn't give to her and try to fill in the missing pieces. That's why you feel so strange about it like she's flirting, because the boyfriend should be doing all the stuff you are, etc. My advice is tell her you are only interested in non-serious dating (FWB) and tell her to lay off everything she's been doing up till now. She'll pretend to be shocked but don't let that change your mind you're a MAN with a sex drive not a doll. I've seen my girlfriends play this game with so many guys and one happened to be my good FWB so I told her if she ever messes with his mind again I'd come over and beat the **** out of her. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author TI-84 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 Thanks for the advice! In the end, I imagine she just thought that she was harmlessly flirting. I'd be shocked to find out that she wanted to emotionally use me. She's a rather good girl. What are the signs of "emotional leeching"? I'm rather curious now Link to post Share on other sites
SarahBerry Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 It sounds like she is definitely attracted to you and probably likes you too but she has a boyfriend.. so what can you do.. just be friends. Link to post Share on other sites
BeyondtheClouds Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 It sounds like she is definitely attracted to you and probably likes you too but she has a boyfriend.. so what can you do.. just be friends. But don't let her get in the way of your meeting and dating other women. Link to post Share on other sites
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