zne01 Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 Hi all... So its been 6 months since he broke up with me, and ive gone thru the (and probably still) rollercoaster and after throwing myself into pain again by trying to be his friend and trust again, arguments thereafter led me to delete his fb again (i did before then readded ughh). So now i texted him a few weeks later to say id appreciate if he deleted my mutual friends he has on fb, for the sake of my sanity and not having my friends notice things on his posts abt going out, girls, dating etc. I felt really compelled to do this for the sake of me really pushing NC!! I dont want myself or anyone in my circle having any info on him. Id probably only accept his updates if we see each other at a mutual friend party and he tells me himself. Am i being petty abt this? I still have some of his family on fb, but im not posting stuff where random guys ike my pics, or comment etc.. And my profile is super limited. He has yet to respond.. I kno he'll honor my request but he'll prob think im being immature. But i jus want to cut alll ties! What do u think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author zne01 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 Sorry for the writing but im posting from iPhone!! Link to post Share on other sites
amethyste Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 If they're mutual friends it means they are HIS friends too. I don't see why he has to delete them (though I can understand why you don't wanna know anything about him). Link to post Share on other sites
Stupid Girl Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 Yes, this does seem a little immature. If they're your friends, why don't you ask THEM to delete HIM? And if they're mutual friends, you really have no right to ask at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zne01 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 Yea I kinda felt stupid asking him that, but I felt uncomfortable with the amount of information my old friends could see of him and I thought I might feel embarrassed later. I just don't want them to know anything more about him that I don't know. I know one of my friends would be like "oh so did you see what he posted?" and I just didn't want them to gossip. These are my oldest friends and we don't always talk to each other, so I didn't want to ask them by getting them involved in my breakup. My ex met them through me so technically they are not real mutual friends in person, but only "mutual friends" on facebook. They don't hang out, talk, etc. I figured he broke up with me so he doesn't have the right to have any more connections with me. We have other real mutual friends we met together, and I would never ask them to delete him for me. This is different with MY circle because they're not really friends. He replied today saying "I will do that later today or this weekend" ... should I respond? because I kind of feel bad .. since he wanted to still be friends. He probably thinks I'm being petty, but I want him to understand why I asked him. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 how about YOU just delete YOUR facebook page instead? thats what i had to do for a while for the exact reasons you've said. fb is not conducive to your healing. or, block him. simple as that, amd for god's sake quit talking to him. Link to post Share on other sites
onlyafool Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 how about YOU just delete YOUR facebook page instead? thats what i had to do for a while for the exact reasons you've said. fb is not conducive to your healing. or, block him. simple as that, amd for god's sake quit talking to him. Ditto what flitz says. I haven't been on FB in over a month and it feels great! I've spent too much of my time on it and I feel so much better LIVING my life. I don't need to broadcast my doings and I could give 2 ****s what anyone is doing. If they're close friends, I'll know. Link to post Share on other sites
James_H Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 For some, facebook is almost like a way of life, or an addiction almost. I agree with what others have said. Maybe deleting your own account might help in the long run. I personally still have my account, but am hardly ever on it posting. If nothing else, change your privacy settings and block him completely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zne01 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 For some, facebook is almost like a way of life, or an addiction almost. I agree with what others have said. Maybe deleting your own account might help in the long run. I personally still have my account, but am hardly ever on it posting. If nothing else, change your privacy settings and block him completely. Hey all thanks for your thoughts .. He did end up deleting my friends that I asked him to AND I definitely dont have HIM on my fb. Everyone is right .. I am really determined to just start living life without this stupid addiction in front of the computer! I mean I did go through withdrawals before but now I'm doing much better by glancing at it for like a few minutes on my phone. I'm kinda relieved tho that I cut those ties between him and my friends so now I can finally continue with NC. It pissed me off when he ended his txt with "talk soon" .. umm NO WE WON'T Link to post Share on other sites
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