Ex girlfriend getting married?

[billy m100]

My ex has been with her boyfriend for about 5 months now, theyre getting married in August of this year. This guy is a character let me tell you. She jokingly said he "sucked at sex" COMPLETELY joking. (she did this to me many times joking around) he yelled at her got out of his car and hit his trunk as hard as he could with his fist repeatedly (I would simply joke right back with some sarcastic comment) He is extremely bipolar and does not and will not take his meds.

 

At first I talked to her for about a week after I found out about her bf. She insisted he was a great guy, and wanted all of us to be friends. (of course I explained that even if I wanted to it would never work since we lost our virginity to eachother) And I told her he would not let her talk to me. She denied that and wouldnt you know it he forces her to stop talking to me and made her delete me on facebook. (AFTER he said "if you dont stop talking to her I'll beat your ass and slit your throat" sorry for the language) Now she is getting married to him..

 

Its been over 3 months since I'v talked to her. She didnt block me. So a few things I want your opinions on are: Do you think she didnt block me so I could be sad and watch her get with another guy? Do you think He'll hit her? (He's moving her out to where he lives which is 3 hours away from me and her family) and How do I stop thinking about her? Will she ever be with me again possibly?

 

Sorry for this long story I'm just very sad and confused..

[smudge21]

Did she dump you or vice versa? If she dumped you for this guy then I'd question her motives here. She's keeping you close by and telling you things about her new relationship, that may or may not be true, to keep you hanging on and caring for her. She likes attention clearly.

 

That said, if you left her, she may be telling you all this to rub it in your face that she's moved on, but clearly not 100% happy with the new guy and hoping you'll come running back for her.

 

It's hard to say what is really going on even with all the facts. I am always concerned about any form of abuse and have seen it so many times when girls just stay with these bad boys. It's funny how many girls go for bad boys too, and then complain when they get treated like dirt by them.

 

There's really nothing much you can do other than tell her that if she's not 100% or there is abuse going on then she needs to really think about what she's about to get into. No amount of advice or friendly sholders to cry on will change her mind - it's upto her to realise what she's getting into. Sadly, sometimes people never do. Sometimes all you can do is walk away.

 

It's never easy hearing about an ex when they seem to be moving on with their lives, especially getting married (yep, I'm there right now), but often we need that final nail in the coffin in order for us to move on aswell. I bet, just like me, you have hope that she'd come back. That hope has kept her in your head and heart all this time. Once she's married, reality will kick in and maybe finally you'll be able to move on yourself. That's what I'm thinking with my situation anyway.