Consolidated Discussion - Older/younger woman/man and age gap dating

[Weezy1973]

Let me wrap my head around this.

And who would want to date an older guy who is trying to be a college boy?

 

Why would an older guy want to be a college boy?

 

You know how you keep wondering how to be more attractive to women. Being an older man trying to be a college boy is pretty much the opposite of how to be attractive.

 

Can you figure out why?

[somedude81]

 

 

And who would want to date an older guy who is trying to be a college boy?

 

If the answer isn't, "Women your age" then don't even bother trying to make that point.

 

Just to make things clear, the answer is "Nobody."

 

If younger women don't want to date me, and older women don't want to as well, then I'll just go after whatever age group I want. It's not like it will actually make a difference right?

 

I never know if I'll get lucky. But if it happens again, I want it to be with a younger woman.

[sillyanswer]

I never know if I'll get lucky. But if it happens again, I want it to be with a younger woman.

 

 

Go for it! When does school start again?

[Els]

 

Its not just young women's looks, it their fun loving nature, their sense of adventure, their happy go lucky attitude to life & sex, their lack of relationship baggage, and list of deal breakers and just wanting a sweet devoted bf to hang out with and not some ideal husband type. For someone like SD and his lack of relationship & career experience its going to be bigger deal for women in their mid 30s than some woman in her early 20s, and that's a factor that is going to affect his options..

 

Everyone (including SD) has the right to pursue whomever they want to pursue, but this is untrue. All reasonably healthy women with decent self esteem have dealbreakers - they're actually a good thing to have. The only difference is that with a bit of experience and maturity, the dealbreakers typically change a little bit as they learn about themselves and what they want out of a partner. But there are always dealbreakers, the only question is what the dealbreakers are.

 

I don't think 20-yo women are likely to view lack of career in a 32-yo man any differently than a 30-yo woman will, although they would give more leeway to a 20-yo man. But that's just my own hypothesis. At any rate this will hopefully be a moot point if he graduates this semester and gets a job.

[Els]

I showed him a lot of compassion. He had me crying, three years ago, after I popped into a thread to commiserate - three guys, actually. TBF saw, and told me not to bother with them, and I should have listened; instead, I responded here and there - and was just told I wasn't trying hard enough, and was a whiner, because hey: vagina. I was born with the golden ticket, apparently.

 

Tonight, after I said to my father that I wished that real magic existed, he told me that it does: my smile. That was a much sweeter response than any that have come my way, regarding female genitalia, and how we have it so easy.

 

Oh, Anela. {{hugs}}

 

IMO this is really not a good place for a single woman who needs empathy. There IS a significant 'women have it sooooooo much easier' crowd here, and while there are people who genuinely sympathize with these women, they tend to be drowned out by the crowd.

 

Your dad's response was sweet.

[serial muse]

If I run into a woman who is my age and interested in me, I'll date her.

 

What I'm not going to do is go out looking for women older than 25. But if I happen to meet one, that's fine.

 

Is it a little clearer?

 

 

 

 

I'm saying that right now I want to focus on early 20's girls while I'm still in college. Once I'm out of school, my age range will shift up but I really want a girlfriend who is still in her 20's.

 

 

 

Seriously? A trophy?

 

I've written at least a thousand times on this forum why I prefer a younger woman.

 

Of course I want somebody who'll love me. How the hell did you come to the conclusion did I didn't? Why the heck do you think I've been so devastated when my ex left me? Hell, I even said on here that I wish I could have married her, or been on that path. So how's that for the thought that I just want a casual thing?

 

Really?

 

From this, which you just posted!!! :confused:

 

If I only date women who are my age, a huge part of me feels that I've missed out on the younger women, who were age appropriate for me at one point in time. The problem was that when I was a teenager and still at my 20's women simply did not like me.

 

My first and only GF so far was 21 when we broke up and I'm very happy I got to date somebody so young. Though we were only together for six months, it just wasn't enough. Ideally I wanted to stay with her for as long as possible, and basically just watch her grow up.

 

Ideally I'd want to get one more early 20's girlfriend. This semester at college will be last try. Once I'm done with college I really want to date a girl somewhere between 22-25. If for whatever reason that relationship doesn't work out. My next girlfriend would be upper 20's to my age.

 

None of that ish has anything to do with love or long-term feelings or whatever. I mean, come on, man. You put it out here, we can all read it, my only conclusion is that you forget what you said from one minute to the next -- possibly because what you think you want changes from one minute to the next - but the Internet has a long memory.

 

I have the feeling that you are not listening to yourself. This is probably related to how you don't realize how you come across in general. Seriously, reread what you wrote, pretending you're somebody else. Pretend you're a woman talking about guys, for example. How does it sound then??

Edited August 27, 2014 by serial muse

[somedude81]

What is so unclear about my post? Am I writing in Spanish?

 

This semester is my last try to get an early 20's girlfriend. I'd like to date her for as long as possible. If she's my last girlfriend I'll ever have and I marry her, perfect. But most likely I'll get dumped for whatever reason.

 

If I'm not able to get a girlfriend this year, I'll shift my focus to a little older. Hopefully I'll get a girlfriend somewhere between 22 and 25 and then I'll date her for as long as possible, until she dumps me.

 

If that relationship didn't work out then I'll try to date women closer to my age and hopefully that will have a better chance at lasting.

 

Since my posts seem to be pretty difficult to understand, I am looking for a serious long term relationship. I was hoping that my relationship with my ex would last at least two years. Like wise, I would prefer that the relationship with any of the girls I mentioned would also last a long time. While I prefer to date a younger women, I will raise the minimum age I'll date if it increases the chance of a relationship working.

 

Is there any part of my post that doesn't make any sense?

Edited August 27, 2014 by somedude81

[RedRobin]

I'd say he wants what a lot of other guys had that's all, but given he is behind in the dating game, he has a bit of a flip flop approach. I'm sure he would have loved a gf early 20s for a while, then a fling or ons or two, then a gf for a few yrs mid 20s, then a fling or ons or two, then a gf late 20s who he goes on to marry. Lots of guys enjoyed that sort of life experience. He wants it too I'm sure but is stuck between having some good memories with a few younger women and finding someone to love that turns him on and vice versa, in a condensed time frame now.

You probably don't care about enjoying some experiences with different men and just want someone to love and never be single again, so you don't see it quite the same as he does...I'm assuming

 

 

Except, for some of those men (maybe most), those experiences just HAPPENED as an outcome of living their life and learning how to be the best man they can be... Not necessarily a goal in and of itself.

 

 

SD comes across as a guy trying to 'even up'... more for his self esteem and bragging rights more than a learning experience... ... The learning experience, when done authentically, respects the humanity of the person he prefers to sti*ck his d*ck into.

 

 

The rest, not so much. Neither does this idea that somehow women in their 20's had anything against him or any other man. Most of them are just doing the best they can with what they were born with too. Just like the guys.

 

 

... but the getting even and keeping score gives men with that mindset an excuse to use and fetishize women... and yea, get some 'cred' with other men they think they are competing with. So it keeps going. The men who aren't competing... who are just living their life... for some reason, seem to get what they want eventually. A happy life with someone they are compatible with. AND, most of the time, it is with a woman close to their own age. Go figure.

[somedude81]

 

... but the getting even and keeping score gives men with that mindset an excuse to use and fetishize women... and yea, get some 'cred' with other men they think they are competing with. So it keeps going. The men who aren't competing... who are just living their life... for some reason, seem to get what they want eventually. A happy life with someone they are compatible with. AND, most of the time, it is with a woman close to their own age. Go figure.

 

I honestly don't care what other men think of me. I don't want a young girlfriend because other men will think she's hot.

 

I simply want a girlfriend that I'm very attracted to. Everybody else be damned.

 

SD comes across as a guy trying to 'even up'... more for his self esteem and bragging rights more than a learning experience... ... The learning experience, when done authentically, respects the humanity of the person he prefers to sti*ck his d*ck into.

 

So are you saying that my relationship and learning experience, wasn't authentic?

 

Huh?

[serial muse]

What is so unclear about my post? Am I writing in Spanish?

 

This semester is my last try to get an early 20's girlfriend. I'd like to date her for as long as possible. If she's my last girlfriend I'll ever have and I marry her, perfect. But most likely I'll get dumped for whatever reason.

 

If I'm not able to get a girlfriend this year, I'll shift my focus to a little older. Hopefully I'll get a girlfriend somewhere between 22 and 25 and then I'll date her for as long as possible, until she dumps me.

 

If that relationship didn't work out then I'll try to date women closer to my age and hopefully that will have a better chance at lasting.

 

Since my posts seem to be pretty difficult to understand, I am looking for a serious long term relationship. I was hoping that my relationship with my ex would last at least two years. Like wise, I would prefer that the relationship with any of the girls I mentioned would also last a long time. While I prefer to date a younger women, I will raise the minimum age I'll date if it increases the chance of a relationship working.

 

Is there any part of my post that doesn't make any sense?

 

Sigh.

 

OK, you are saying that you want to date the youngest women you can, but that you'll keep raising your minimum age until you find someone you like who'll date you. That about sum it up?

 

That you insist that you're looking for love, and yet don't see why the above doesn't sound a bit like prioritizing love or even compatibility is strange to me.

 

(And I at least am not suggesting that you raise your minimum age, by the way! Sheesh. What I have said over and over again is that you are contradicting yourself by saying that a) you'll date any age, but at the same time b) you're specifically targeting women 20-22. That is a flat-out contradiction. Spanish would at least be self-consistent. )

 

But honestly, I know perfectly well that it doesn't matter a bit whether I, or anyone who is not you, thinks what you're saying is self-contradictory. Do as you will, if it's working for you. Fin.

[MidwestUSA]

 

This semester is my last try to pass calculus.

 

 

Fixed it for you. What on earth makes you think college is the only place to meet women, er, um girls?

 

You've been back at school three days, and it's obvious where your focus is.

 

There are women in the working/corporate world. They are out and about doing everyday things, like shopping. Why wasn't working, out in the public, an option over the summer? You could have made contacts with who knows how many people, women and men.

 

It's as if you view college as your only potential pool of females. But the door will really only open when you get that gorilla off your back.

[Imajerk17]

Fixed it for you. What on earth makes you think college is the only place to meet women, er, um girls?

 

You've been back at school three days, and it's obvious where your focus is.

 

There are women in the working/corporate world. They are out and about doing everyday things, like shopping. Why wasn't working, out in the public, an option over the summer? You could have made contacts with who knows how many people, women and men.

 

It's as if you view college as your only potential pool of females. But the door will really only open when you get that gorilla off your back.

 

I agree with MidwestUSA. So much for you is riding on this semester, and it's not girls.

 

Getting back on-topic, with every passing year it gets a little harder for a guy in your situation to date a coed. You are now one year older relative to the coeds than you were last spring, and *two years* older relative to the coeds than you were when you connected with your last girlfriend. And it shows. You might not notice it, but the girls will. You might have days and angles where you look 25 but you will definitely have days and angles when and where you look over 30.

 

THAT SAID though, whatever your age preferences are is really your own business. I do think you should be focusing on your maths/job search hard though.

[RedRobin]

I honestly don't care what other men think of me. I don't want a young girlfriend because other men will think she's hot.

 

I simply want a girlfriend that I'm very attracted to. Everybody else be damned.

 

 

So are you saying that my relationship and learning experience, wasn't authentic?

 

Huh?

 

You have spent more time here talking about her age and breast size than her qualities as a person. That, and the 'watching her grow up' thing.... Um, yea. Doesn't scream authentic care and compatibility to me. It screams a need for validation by others.

[StanMusial]

Maybe SD is not going about it the right way exactly, but at least he's doing something about his struggles.

 

Just based on what I have read here, he has more in common with girls he meets in school than someone his age who has a career and is more advanced in life.

[somedude81]

You have spent more time here talking about her age and breast size than her qualities as a person. That, and the 'watching her grow up' thing.... Um, yea. Doesn't scream authentic care and compatibility to me. It screams a need for validation by others.

 

Considering how she suddenly dumped me and never talked about the relationship, I tend to hold off on talking about her qualities.

 

Yes she was a lot more to be than a pair of tits

[ascendotum]

Except, for some of those men (maybe most), those experiences just HAPPENED as an outcome of living their life and learning how to be the best man they can be... Not necessarily a goal in and of itself.

 

SD comes across as a guy trying to 'even up'... more for his self esteem and bragging rights more than a learning experience... ... The learning experience, when done authentically, respects the humanity of the person he prefers to sti*ck his d*ck into.

 

I agree for most guys it just happened as a consequence of living and not necessarily a goal in and of itself. At the same time I and numerous of my friends had gfs we knew we were never going to be forever after with as did some women with us. Again its part of just living life, and enjoying the company of a partner as you go along hoping to find your dream gf/bf. I don't see what SD wants as being too radically different. I guess because his wants are detailed in many posts its comes across as calculated. there are quite a few men & women I know (and there are a few here too) who are right know just doing FWBs & flings in the meantime while holding out for someone they are crazy about & good for a LTR. I don't see that as any higher in principal personally.

 

With SD (and other similar missed out on my 20s less confident dudes) its not for bragging as its not like he is hanging out with a bunch of bros. With self esteem yes that's a factor for sure but its not like its so he can prop up an over inflated ego, like some guys I know who need to feel 'da man' by clocking up big numbers, rather its more like building his self esteem up to healthy normal. That's a good thing for anyone who is low in SE. Its not like women are getting used as a prop for that. His ex broke his heart and good chance another 21-25 yr could do the same, but he'll enjoy the ride while it lasts and it will be more than just sex otherwise he would have hooked up with the overweight girls in the past who were friendlier.

(starting to get a bit of topic here)

[somedude81]

Just to quickly sum up everything I've said.

 

I'm very attracted to early 20's women.

 

What I really want is to have a serious long term relationship with a girl who is between 21 and 24.

 

Her personal qualities are also very important.

 

Intelligence, kindness, loyalty, compassionate, likes to dance or is willing to go out with me, having some common interests that I do. There's more that I can't think of.

 

If anybody has a problem with what my desires are, then that is their issue; not mine.

[clia]

Maybe SD is not going about it the right way exactly, but at least he's doing something about his struggles.

 

Just based on what I have read here, he has more in common with girls he meets in school than someone his age who has a career and is more advanced in life.

 

I get that he's on a college campus and surrounded by women who are primarily 18-22, but he also likely is not the only person on the entire campus who is older than 22. I'm sure there are a fair amount of women on the campus who are in a similar position to somedude, who are getting their degrees later than the normal four year 18-22 year old plan as well. He has a lot more in common with those women than he does with women who are 18-22 and on the standard four year plan to finish college.

 

But I don't care one way or the other who he wants to pursue -- I personally think he would have better luck going after the older women on his campus who are in a similar position to him, as opposed to the girls who are on the standard track. A guy who is almost 33 years old is old to most college aged girls. I know because I used to be a college aged girl back in the day...but I do wish him the best of luck in his pursuits.

[ktya]

Ill throw my two bits in

 

Im 37 soon to be 38.

 

In the past year I've dated a 19 year old, a 25 year old and some girls in the 30-38 range.

 

I found the 19 year old to be more socially mature than the 25 year old who was an awkward and aggressive girl. One 38 year old actually interrupted sex to go off on some tirade about how all men are the same and I couldnt get her to stop crying. A 31 year old that I've been seeing for quite some time is the sweetest thing but I can't for the life of me get her to actually be my girlfriend, she has a boyfriend she lives with now and I think because I'm not filipino I'll never permanently land her but she still comes around every month.

 

What I've seen is that the younger girls (under 26) arent as burned out or jaded. Their youth and the way that the rest of their life is ahead of them is often refreshing. They are more spontaneous and fun. Of course, given their youth they are also often quite a bit better looking but that 38 year old who broke down in the middle of sex was pretty incredibly hot too.

 

But there are drawbacks. I had the 25 year old interrupt me just as I was about to put my member into her so she could Shazam a song which totally killed the mood for me. The constant wanting to blare pop music on their phone was somewhat annoying; silence was a virtue with those girls. The one 25 year old couldn't hold her liquor for the life of her and was always on about how she could drink me under the table - dealing with her blackout drunkenness wasnt much fun.

 

In contrast, the 30-somethings usually seem to want the relationship to "go somewhere" which can be grating. Not all of them of course. One 36 year old that I am seeing right now, after the experience with the 25 year old, was quite refreshing with how she was just straightforward about what she wanted and what was going on.

 

I dont really care either way. I find that the people who have the most judgements on older men being with younger women are usually overweight women in their 30s and 40s who are having a hard time finding someone in their own age bracket who are noticing all the men their age are hunting younger action, which makes sense.

 

It makes sense. I'm in my late 30s, I have had 17 years of back to back serious relationships. Not by choice, because I would love to maintain a friendship with my exes, I have zero contact with any of them. I was stepfather to a kid for four years with whom I'd love to maintain contact with and I dont get to communicate with her either. So I have done the whole serious relationship thing, met girls of the "right" ages, committed, even was engaged and now I'm left wondering WTF I even bothered for. So I fall quite squarely into the "hunting young hot T&A" camp right along with those guys.

 

I cant speak for all men in my age range, but from my perspective it's like why the hell not. After spending thousands of dollars, thousands of days, and countless amounts of emotional energy and compromise on "serious" relationships I may as well jump in the pants of some hot young fun girl even if she is young enough to be my daughter. Trying to do things the "right" way didn't really net me any results so why not be "bad"... at least if I'm going to shell out the money and deal with the drama the girl may as well be smoking hot. I'm not getting any younger - and my chances with a 25 year old at 37 are going to fade pretty quick as I head into my 40s.

 

Plus theres the whole marriage/committment/kids thing. A girl in her early 20s doesnt want me putting a ring on her finger, it would scare her and she would just run and not stop. A girl in her 30s might talk marriage within the first few dates. I do not really want to be an old dad, so getting married, having kids I wouldnt be able to acheive that until I'm 40 if I met the right girl like tomorrow. Getting married at this age seems like a waste, given the experiences I've had over the past 17 years I would be very wary of a woman's staying power.

 

I dont know much about the older woman/ younger man dynamic but given what I know about women and how they find experience attractive I dont think it would last very long. The younger guy could easily link up with cuter younger chicks and this would always be a threat to the cougar involved.

[thefooloftheyear]

Ill throw my two bits in

 

Im 37 soon to be 38.

 

In the past year I've dated a 19 year old, a 25 year old and some girls in the 30-38 range.

 

I found the 19 year old to be more socially mature than the 25 year old who was an awkward and aggressive girl. One 38 year old actually interrupted sex to go off on some tirade about how all men are the same and I couldnt get her to stop crying. A 31 year old that I've been seeing for quite some time is the sweetest thing but I can't for the life of me get her to actually be my girlfriend, she has a boyfriend she lives with now and I think because I'm not filipino I'll never permanently land her but she still comes around every month.

 

What I've seen is that the younger girls (under 26) arent as burned out or jaded. Their youth and the way that the rest of their life is ahead of them is often refreshing. They are more spontaneous and fun. Of course, given their youth they are also often quite a bit better looking but that 38 year old who broke down in the middle of sex was pretty incredibly hot too.

 

But there are drawbacks. I had the 25 year old interrupt me just as I was about to put my member into her so she could Shazam a song which totally killed the mood for me. The constant wanting to blare pop music on their phone was somewhat annoying; silence was a virtue with those girls. The one 25 year old couldn't hold her liquor for the life of her and was always on about how she could drink me under the table - dealing with her blackout drunkenness wasnt much fun.

 

In contrast, the 30-somethings usually seem to want the relationship to "go somewhere" which can be grating. Not all of them of course. One 36 year old that I am seeing right now, after the experience with the 25 year old, was quite refreshing with how she was just straightforward about what she wanted and what was going on.

 

I dont really care either way. I find that the people who have the most judgements on older men being with younger women are usually overweight women in their 30s and 40s who are having a hard time finding someone in their own age bracket who are noticing all the men their age are hunting younger action, which makes sense.

 

It makes sense. I'm in my late 30s, I have had 17 years of back to back serious relationships. Not by choice, because I would love to maintain a friendship with my exes, I have zero contact with any of them. I was stepfather to a kid for four years with whom I'd love to maintain contact with and I dont get to communicate with her either. So I have done the whole serious relationship thing, met girls of the "right" ages, committed, even was engaged and now I'm left wondering WTF I even bothered for. So I fall quite squarely into the "hunting young hot T&A" camp right along with those guys.

 

I cant speak for all men in my age range, but from my perspective it's like why the hell not. After spending thousands of dollars, thousands of days, and countless amounts of emotional energy and compromise on "serious" relationships I may as well jump in the pants of some hot young fun girl even if she is young enough to be my daughter. Trying to do things the "right" way didn't really net me any results so why not be "bad"... at least if I'm going to shell out the money and deal with the drama the girl may as well be smoking hot. I'm not getting any younger - and my chances with a 25 year old at 37 are going to fade pretty quick as I head into my 40s.

 

Plus theres the whole marriage/committment/kids thing. A girl in her early 20s doesnt want me putting a ring on her finger, it would scare her and she would just run and not stop. A girl in her 30s might talk marriage within the first few dates. I do not really want to be an old dad, so getting married, having kids I wouldnt be able to acheive that until I'm 40 if I met the right girl like tomorrow. Getting married at this age seems like a waste, given the experiences I've had over the past 17 years I would be very wary of a woman's staying power.

 

I dont know much about the older woman/ younger man dynamic but given what I know about women and how they find experience attractive I dont think it would last very long. The younger guy could easily link up with cuter younger chicks and this would always be a threat to the cougar involved.

 

 

Not for nuthin.....adult or not...if a 38 year old guy was hanging around my fresh out of high school, teenage daughter, Id get right in his face about it....

 

TFY

[RedRobin]

Ill throw my two bits in

 

Im 37 soon to be 38.

 

In the past year I've dated a 19 year old, a 25 year old and some girls in the 30-38 range.

 

I found the 19 year old to be more socially mature than the 25 year old who was an awkward and aggressive girl. One 38 year old actually interrupted sex to go off on some tirade about how all men are the same and I couldnt get her to stop crying. A 31 year old that I've been seeing for quite some time is the sweetest thing but I can't for the life of me get her to actually be my girlfriend, she has a boyfriend she lives with now and I think because I'm not filipino I'll never permanently land her but she still comes around every month.

 

What I've seen is that the younger girls (under 26) arent as burned out or jaded. Their youth and the way that the rest of their life is ahead of them is often refreshing. They are more spontaneous and fun. Of course, given their youth they are also often quite a bit better looking but that 38 year old who broke down in the middle of sex was pretty incredibly hot too.

 

But there are drawbacks. I had the 25 year old interrupt me just as I was about to put my member into her so she could Shazam a song which totally killed the mood for me. The constant wanting to blare pop music on their phone was somewhat annoying; silence was a virtue with those girls. The one 25 year old couldn't hold her liquor for the life of her and was always on about how she could drink me under the table - dealing with her blackout drunkenness wasnt much fun.

 

In contrast, the 30-somethings usually seem to want the relationship to "go somewhere" which can be grating. Not all of them of course. One 36 year old that I am seeing right now, after the experience with the 25 year old, was quite refreshing with how she was just straightforward about what she wanted and what was going on.

 

I dont really care either way. I find that the people who have the most judgements on older men being with younger women are usually overweight women in their 30s and 40s who are having a hard time finding someone in their own age bracket who are noticing all the men their age are hunting younger action, which makes sense.

 

It makes sense. I'm in my late 30s, I have had 17 years of back to back serious relationships. Not by choice, because I would love to maintain a friendship with my exes, I have zero contact with any of them. I was stepfather to a kid for four years with whom I'd love to maintain contact with and I dont get to communicate with her either. So I have done the whole serious relationship thing, met girls of the "right" ages, committed, even was engaged and now I'm left wondering WTF I even bothered for. So I fall quite squarely into the "hunting young hot T&A" camp right along with those guys.

 

I cant speak for all men in my age range, but from my perspective it's like why the hell not. After spending thousands of dollars, thousands of days, and countless amounts of emotional energy and compromise on "serious" relationships I may as well jump in the pants of some hot young fun girl even if she is young enough to be my daughter. Trying to do things the "right" way didn't really net me any results so why not be "bad"... at least if I'm going to shell out the money and deal with the drama the girl may as well be smoking hot. I'm not getting any younger - and my chances with a 25 year old at 37 are going to fade pretty quick as I head into my 40s.

 

Plus theres the whole marriage/committment/kids thing. A girl in her early 20s doesnt want me putting a ring on her finger, it would scare her and she would just run and not stop. A girl in her 30s might talk marriage within the first few dates. I do not really want to be an old dad, so getting married, having kids I wouldnt be able to acheive that until I'm 40 if I met the right girl like tomorrow. Getting married at this age seems like a waste, given the experiences I've had over the past 17 years I would be very wary of a woman's staying power.

 

I dont know much about the older woman/ younger man dynamic but given what I know about women and how they find experience attractive I dont think it would last very long. The younger guy could easily link up with cuter younger chicks and this would always be a threat to the cougar involved.

 

 

You sound pretty jaded, lol. Just the kind of guy I try to warn younger women about here.

 

 

I guess there is no shortage of people (men and women) who want to take advantage of the youthful exhuberance and naivete of those who are much younger than them...

 

 

... and about the last comment. Not sure how that is a threat. The woman could always replace him with a cuter and younger version, or an older one too.

[isisisweeping]

I am 29 now, and have always entertained men who were somewhat older. My ex (husband) was 11 years older when I was 19, my most recent ex (we were engaged) was 18 years older when I was 26. The guy I wish I could date now because I'm ridiculously interested in him is 13 years older - though he looks my age. Though I've actually dated more guys who are my age recently.. say 27 to 34 (I'm 30 and look about that too.)

 

 

Some guys I know are older than me or my age but prefer women who are younger. This does not bother me because I know I have a lot more to offer and am a lot more sane and have achieved a better view of myself and the world than I had then, and if someone wants to date a 19 year old, they probably value different things than I offer. Everyone can do what's right for them (as long as it's not predatory.) I don't find it a threat at all. I doubt I ever will.

 

 

Though using younger girls for sex or whatever by tricking them with your superior experience - and generally taking advantage... That's disgusting!

Edited September 16, 2014 by isisisweeping

[FitChick]

Yeah, I can see there is something older men have that might attract young women.

 

Read the comments. Some are hilarious!

[PinkInTheLimo]

Yeah, I can see there is something older men have that might attract young women.

 

Read the comments. Some are hilarious!

 

OMG!

 

The comments look indeed hilarious. Someone said that they both looked as if they has just been dug up .

[RedRobin]

I am not sure why people automatically assume that, just because a younger person is seen with a much older person... That they are romantically involved or sleeping together.

 

My biker friend is old enough to be my dad. Married to my female friend. I rode with him to go look at some sports bikes yesterday. No doubt, some idiot is going to think we are a couple (shakes head).

 

It's not that hard to dig up some desperate starlet for a date... Or a string of dates. The other poster has a point. He is seen hanging out with a guy a lot. Why not assume he is effing him too?