Consolidated Discussion - Older/younger woman/man and age gap dating

[thefooloftheyear]

I just go by people's actions. Not that difficult. I wish I had a dollar for every time a guy told me I was 'different'. Oldest line in the book.

 

Can you, or any other woman for that matter, explain why older women get so bent out of shape and call names when these relationships take place, but a younger guy with an older woman(which seems to be getting more common) doesn't raise any eyebrows and no bottle throwing or name calling takes place?

 

In fact, while men get slammed(mostly by women) for going that route...When a woman does it, there is corks popping, high fives and the classic "you go girl" nonsense...

 

Hmmm....very interesting indeed...

 

TFY

Edited October 16, 2015 by thefooloftheyear

[Woggle]

Can you, or any other woman for that matter, explain why older women get so bent out of shape and call names when these relationships take place, but a younger guy with an older woman(which seems to be getting more common) doesn't raise any eyebrows and no bottle throwing or name calling takes place?

 

In fact, while men get slammed(mostly by women) for going that route...When a woman does it, there is corks popping, high fives and the classic "you go girl" nonsense...

 

Hmmm....very interesting indeed...

 

TFY

 

Some even got mad at George Clooney even though he married an intelligent and accomplished woman but because she is younger there is something wrong with that.

[xxoo]

Can you, or any other woman for that matter, explain why older women get so bent out of shape and call names when these relationships take place, but a younger guy with an older woman(which seems to be getting more common) doesn't raise any eyebrows and no bottle throwing or name calling takes place?

 

In fact, while men get slammed(mostly by women) for going that route...When a woman does it, there is corks popping, high fives and the classic "you go girl" nonsense...

 

Hmmm....very interesting indeed...

 

TFY

 

If a woman my age rejects men our age and claims to only be compatible with men 15-20 years younger, I'm raising some eyebrows. I'd wonder what's wrong with her, for sure!

[kilgore]

If a woman my age rejects men our age and claims to only be compatible with men 15-20 years younger, I'm raising some eyebrows. I'd wonder what's wrong with her, for sure!

 

But would you say that it genders were reversed?

[xxoo]

But would you say that it genders were reversed?

 

Same! I wonder what's wrong with him.

[Woggle]

If a woman my age rejects men our age and claims to only be compatible with men 15-20 years younger, I'm raising some eyebrows. I'd wonder what's wrong with her, for sure!

 

Maybe but I have heard a lot of you go girl kind of comments about J Lo and Madonna and women who date younger. I couldn't care less.

[kilgore]

Same! I wonder what's wrong with him.

 

Fair enough. I think I would too

[RedRobin]

Can you, or any other woman for that matter, explain why older women get so bent out of shape and call names when these relationships take place, but a younger guy with an older woman(which seems to be getting more common) doesn't raise any eyebrows and no bottle throwing or name calling takes place?

 

In fact, while men get slammed(mostly by women) for going that route...When a woman does it, there is corks popping, high fives and the classic "you go girl" nonsense...

 

Hmmm....very interesting indeed...

 

TFY

 

Are you talking about me? I don't think so.

 

Wanna know why there aren't any bottles thrown by men? I can't think of any threads started by a geriatric woman buying a 21 year old 'man'... Can't think of any threads from men where their much older female boss, co worker, professor or doctor was hitting on them and they were afraid of losing their job, failing a class, or ashamed that the doctor saw them naked.

 

Very interesting indeed that you insist the so called bottle throwing comes from a place of jealousy. I don't see any you go girl stuff going on to the above behavior in reverse... But I'll be damned if lots of you guys don't keep insisting on your male prerogative to keep the status quo, and keep things going on the older man younger woman dynamic. Wonder why that is? Entitlement? Habit? Embarrassment? Fear of change? Fear of aging?

[RedRobin]

Some even got mad at George Clooney even though he married an intelligent and accomplished woman but because she is younger there is something wrong with that.

 

Yea, I thought she could do a lot better. I don't know why she settled for him. Maybe she doesn't really have it together after all. Or she was desperate and her clock was ticking.

 

Notice that Prince William married a similar age woman, when he could have had just about any woman he wanted. Maybe his parents example taught him a lesson.

[buck3200]

Are you talking about me? I don't think so.

 

Wanna know why there aren't any bottles thrown by men? I can't think of any threads started by a geriatric woman buying a 21 year old 'man'... Can't think of any threads from men where their much older female boss, co worker, professor or doctor was hitting on them and they were afraid of losing their job, failing a class, or ashamed that the doctor saw them naked.

 

Very interesting indeed that you insist the so called bottle throwing comes from a place of jealousy. I don't see any you go girl stuff going on to the above behavior in reverse... But I'll be damned if lots of you guys don't keep insisting on your male prerogative to keep the status quo, and keep things going on the older man younger woman dynamic. Wonder why that is? Entitlement? Habit? Embarrassment? Fear of change? Fear of aging?

 

YOU TALKING TO ME.....calm down Travis....LMAO

[RedRobin]

YOU TALKING TO ME.....calm down Travis....LMAO

Typical...Hit a nerve? Should your neighbors make sure their daughters don't go trick or treating past your house this Halloween?

[buck3200]

Typical...Hit a nerve? Should your neighbors make sure their daughters don't go trick or treating past your house this Halloween?

 

I just think you need to calm down....

[RedRobin]

I just think you need to calm down....

 

Why? If you had a daughter, would you want her treated that way? Or are you another one who thinks it is women's job to put up with that?

 

So that older men can feel good about themselves...

[buck3200]

Why? If you had a daughter, would you want her treated that way? Or are you another one who thinks it is women's job to put up with that?

 

So that older men can feel good about themselves...

 

My oldest daughter is with someone nearly my age. They met when she was 26. He treats her better than any previous man has and she is quite happy.

 

Just as I did with the 32 yr. old I met when I was 45. That only ended because she was crazy jealous of me. But we had many good times in our 5+ yrs. together.

[RedRobin]

My oldest daughter is with someone nearly my age. They met when she was 26. He treats her better than any previous man has and she is quite happy.

 

Just as I did with the 32 yr. old I met when I was 45. That only ended because she was crazy jealous of me. But we had many good times in our 5+ yrs. together.

 

I guess the answer to my question is yes...

 

Maybe your daughter's boyfriend has a daughter you can date, lol...

Edited October 16, 2015 by RedRobin

[buck3200]

I guess the answer to my question is yes...

 

Maybe your daughter's boyfriend has a daughter you can date, lol...

 

As a matter of fact I have.

[Woggle]

Yea, I thought she could do a lot better. I don't know why she settled for him. Maybe she doesn't really have it together after all. Or she was desperate and her clock was ticking.

 

Notice that Prince William married a similar age woman, when he could have had just about any woman he wanted. Maybe his parents example taught him a lesson.

 

Prince William married a stepford wife while Clooney married a successful lawyer who has argued cases in front of the UN. I think he made the better choice actually. I would bet you Amal has much more freedom to be herself tha Kate who has to keep up appearances for the royals does.

[readynow]

I hold my hands up! I'm one of those who chose to date only people of a certain age range outside my own. There's nothing 'wrong' with me either. I'm just too logical for my own good.

 

My reasons: ALL my 'mates' were older. I was a child genius (I don't know what happened to my grown up brain ) so I was removed from main stream school and placed in a 'gifted' school in the middle of nowhere. My same age mates were 3 full years younger than me educationally and in normal life. So at my undergraduate degree, my classmates were now 3-5 yrs older in age. Those that were my real age were in class with my younger brothers so, I didn't find them attractive at all. I didn't find it pleasant when they'd say they wanted to date their (my kid bros) sister Also, my background taught me men should be older than women in relationships so, I unconsciously got with guys several years my senior educationally (age gap increased even more).

 

I somehow managed to marry a man only a few years older than me but in my eyes, he was a child, he liked partying, clubbing, didn't want kids, didn't want to buy a house early etc

 

In my post divorce life, men my own age are still married or just newly divorced, so would want to experience freedom again and go partying all the time, don't want to be locked in a relationship, dealing with new ex-wife drama, young kids who still want mom and dad back together etc. This is just how I saw it, though I could be wrong.

 

I, on the other hand wanted a man who has been married previously and had good long-term experience as well as life experience that age brings, properly finished with ex wife, kids that are happy with their parents situation, a man that's finished with partying but wants to enjoy his life in a calmer way, now works because it makes him happy not because they are paying bills, mortgages, child support etc

 

My bf is one of those guys that happen to just fall in love with me. His dating age range was just around 5yrs older and younger than himself : I saw his OLD profile, and I just waltzed into his life and all that went out of the window. I on the other hand was more particular about dating someone older because of the things listed above.

 

Maybe if I were 50 and single, I would be able to date someone my own age because finally, I would meet a man at the same stage as my mind is in. I'm happy with what I have now though, not looking to change that at all. Even now, I don't have any real friends that are less than 7yrs older than me. My friends range from 7-23yrs older.

 

So, I just thought I'd put a face to the name

[readynow]

Prince William married a stepford wife while Clooney married a successful lawyer who has argued cases in front of the UN. I think he made the better choice actually. I would bet you Amal has much more freedom to be herself tha Kate who has to keep up appearances for the royals does.

 

I love our Royal Family but I would not want to be Kate. She had her own career, doing things she enjoyed and life which she has had to give up to give us heirs and smile whenever we want.

 

Charles and Diana didn't work because he wasn't in love with her - he was in love with an older married woman instead. I'm happy for him and Camila but I wish we still had Diana:( It had nothing to do with age though.

 

However long the Clooneys are married, I'd much rather be Amal than Kate. William and Harry have so much more freedom, at least they were allowed to keep their dangerous jobs! Kate? Can't even stroll down the road for a cheeky KFC.

 

God save the Queen!

[thefooloftheyear]

Are you talking about me? I don't think so.

 

Wanna know why there aren't any bottles thrown by men? I can't think of any threads started by a geriatric woman buying a 21 year old 'man'... Can't think of any threads from men where their much older female boss, co worker, professor or doctor was hitting on them and they were afraid of losing their job, failing a class, or ashamed that the doctor saw them naked.

 

Very interesting indeed that you insist the so called bottle throwing comes from a place of jealousy. I don't see any you go girl stuff going on to the above behavior in reverse... But I'll be damned if lots of you guys don't keep insisting on your male prerogative to keep the status quo, and keep things going on the older man younger woman dynamic. Wonder why that is? Entitlement? Habit? Embarrassment? Fear of change? Fear of aging?

 

 

WTH are you talking about?

 

Lets leave the sugar Baby/prostitution issue aside...Apples vs oranges...

 

Look...its real simple...I know you aren't dumb, sometimes I think you are just trolling here,...

 

The dynamic is different....

 

Men, (and the younger women), take shyt when an older guy is with a younger woman...But they take it from primarily women...Why is that? Shouldn't guy's care as well?...But they don't ...

 

And yes...

 

When some old lady winds up with a young guy she is the greatest thing since sliced bread..."Woohoo..."..."got my boy toy"....!!

 

As a matter of fact, even yourself mentioned several times in several threads that you were looking for a younger guy.....Is it ok for you and not them...Or are you "just trying to get even"?

 

TFY

[thefooloftheyear]

If a woman my age rejects men our age and claims to only be compatible with men 15-20 years younger, I'm raising some eyebrows. I'd wonder what's wrong with her, for sure!

 

Key terms here...

 

And I think you are the only one using them...

 

No one is saying anything about rejecting the entire group....

 

SO lets say if a woman your age(45 ish?) met a 29 year old guy and they hit it off...how do you feel about it?

 

TFY

[thefooloftheyear]

So I guess what some of you are saying, is that a person, be it a man or a woman, that may have interests or desires that may not be aligned with the vast majority of similarly aged peers, is basically stuck trying to find a needle in a haystack?

 

I've mentioned it before, and thankfully I don't have this problem, but there is almost no chance that a typical 50 year old woman would have much interest in most of the activities I enjoy..So would I then be stuck?

 

I just don't find that attitude really appealing or fair minded...

 

TFY

[xxoo]

Key terms here...

 

And I think you are the only one using them...

 

No one is saying anything about rejecting the entire group....

 

SO lets say if a woman your age(45 ish?) met a 29 year old guy and they hit it off...how do you feel about it?

 

TFY

 

I'm fine with meeting organically and hitting it off with age differences in either direction.

 

It's the people who say, "I date older/younger because I don't have anything in common with men/women my age" that make me wonder. And I read that all the time around here, from both men and women (but more often men).

[joseb]

Yea, yea... I started dancing en pointe in ballet when I was double the age of the other young ladies there.

 

I ran a marathon last year. I bike to work. Am training for a triathlon... And you know what? I wouldn't touch a same age or older guy with a 10 foot pole if he claimed that he can only find his peer amongst those much younger than himself. It is a form of arrogance.

 

Where exactly did I say that?

 

You alluded to the fact that older guys that say they feel younger are kiding themselves.

I gave you my case for why I don't feel my age.

 

You sound very bitter and angry for no reason.

 

Regardless of what anyone posts here, you refuse to llisten and keep drumming on with your narrow minded views.

 

You remind me of those catholic priests I had to avoid growing up. The same ones thate told us how wrong sex was outside of marriage, while trying to molest small children.

 

I can only assume that the real reason for your anger is jealousy. Jealousy that older guys have no problem dating younger attractive women.

Edited October 16, 2015 by joseb

[RedRobin]

Prince William married a stepford wife while Clooney married a successful lawyer who has argued cases in front of the UN. I think he made the better choice actually. I would bet you Amal has much more freedom to be herself tha Kate who has to keep up appearances for the royals does.

 

Both William and Kate have to make sacrifices for their position. Has nothing to do with gender. The fact remains, he didn't marry a relative child. When he could have. I respect him 10x more than clooney.

 

Clooney is an ass. I could care less what his wife's job title is. If she has to marry someone that much older than him, something is wrong upstairs. He is no prize.