Consolidated Discussion - Older/younger woman/man and age gap dating

[sillyanswer]

What say you?

 

Older. They have some experience and know what they like.

[MidwestUSA]

We had a funny moment the other day. I commented that she is gaining a maturity in her face that I hadn't seen before. [When I started seeing her she was 21]. She totally freaked out! In an almost frantic tone she objected: What do you mean?

 

 

Well, I said, don't feel too badly. 23 is almost 25, which is as good as 30, at which point you might as well be 50. Nooooooooooo!!!! she screamed.

 

 

Okay. So next do this. 'Honey, I see one gray one up here, right on top. Want me to pull it for you?'.

 

Report back.

[Kamille]

Obviously, regardless of age, they can all be beautiful.

 

Which one do you prefer?

 

And any reason why?

 

 

Right now, I'm leaning older

 

 

What say you?

 

 

Oh Nate! Stop hitting me .

[BetrayedH]

I would put my 23 year old up against any woman. But she really is exceptional. Two young women about the same age moved in next door and they seem like kids compared to her.

 

Sure. There's plenty of exceptions both ways.

[sillyanswer]

Mr Nate, I forgot to ask... what do you mean by "older"? Do you just mean older than you (or me) or older than some specific age?

[gaius]

The women I'm drawn to almost always end up being older than me.

[Robert Z]

Okay. So next do this. 'Honey, I see one gray one up here, right on top. Want me to pull it for you?'.

 

Report back.

 

 

Oh my, you and I are kindred spirits! That is CLASSIC. I can hardly wait.

[MrNate 2.0]

Mr Nate, I forgot to ask... what do you mean by "older"? Do you just mean older than you (or me) or older than some specific age?

 

Generally just older than me if that helps.

[sillyanswer]

Generally just older than me if that helps.

 

Ahh. I guess it does, but older than you might be younger than me (I think). So confusing!

[iiiii]

I got a feeling this thread is going to make plenty of women over 30 feel pretty bad.

 

Not here.

 

I only care if my partner finds me attractive - whether a bunch of random internet dudes think they would find me attractive really doesn't matter a jot.

[Candy_Pants]

The women I'm drawn to almost always end up being older than me.

 

That's because some men like to be talked down to like they're fu cking children.

[Robert Z]

That's because some men like to be talked down to like they're fu cking children.

 

 

:lmao::lmao: Oh god, you crack me up!!!

[123321]

Nah. There are plenty of women in their 30s who are world class hotties and do not have a lot of "baggage".

 

With over 3 billion women in the world there are bound to be a lot, but as a percentage of the population, women who look their best at 30 are pretty rare., couple that with "and haven't collected kids or emotional issues from relationship trauma" and it narrows them even more.

 

A lot of people die from lightning strikes. Hundreds. It's still not a major national health issue.

[serial muse]

We had a funny moment the other day. I commented that she is gaining a maturity in her face that I hadn't seen before. [When I started seeing her she was 21]. She totally freaked out! In an almost frantic tone she objected: What do you mean?

 

 

Well, I said, don't feel too badly. 23 is almost 25, which is as good as 30, at which point you might as well be 50. Nooooooooooo!!!! she screamed.

 

This actually struck me as kind of sad. I mean, no one's 23 forever...why does it always have to be downhill? I hope it isn't really nightmarish for her. The one thing I'd hope a younger person dating an older one would gain is perspective on one's own aging. I mean, you find an older person sexy, so why not turn that perspective on yourself??

 

Ubiquitous (and boring) comments on older women and baggage notwithstanding, as presumably that works both ways. Older people, men and women, have had experiences. I'm sure that's what was meant.

Edited May 9, 2014 by serial muse

[gaius]

:lmao::lmao: Oh god, you crack me up!!!

Hey look they caught you on camera!

 

 

I don't think any younger women are tough enough to handle me Candy.

[Robert Z]

Hey look they caught you on camera!

 

 

I don't think any younger women are tough enough to handle me Candy.

 

 

Oh golly gee whiz. You got me. Now back off to play with your toys little boy.

[EasyHeart]

What matters is how easily people can carry their baggage.

[Anela]

The women I'm drawn to almost always end up being older than me.

 

I think that's nice. I get tired of the comments demonizing women over a certain age.

[123321]

Depends on the guy in my experience. The stats I saw were for age different marriages, which is surely related, but it could simply be that there are only enough attractive older guys out there seeking to wed to marry 1 in 30 of the younger women.

[Keenly]

Yes, prostitution will do that to a young woman. Take away their youth, their innocence, their carefree existence that many 20 somethings have. Take away their hope for the future. Their trust/faith in people. It ages a person, and not in a good way. It jades a person.

Of course. Its prostitution because you don't agree with it.

[Anela]

Of course. Its prostitution because you don't agree with it.

 

It's prostitution, because she takes money in exchange for sex.

[Keenly]

It's prostitution, because she takes money in exchange for sex.

 

That's actually not the setup that they have. But if it makes you guys feel good to say it.

[iiiii]

As a guess, Kathy's probably getting it from the USA statistics on marriages, which I would think is a fairly reliable source.

 

Here are the stats via Wikipedia:

Age disparity in sexual relationships - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

According to this survey, only 8.4 % (4.8 + 1.6 + 1.0 + 1.0) of American marriages are between spouses 10 or more years apart in age, and only 2.9% of American marriages are between spouses 15 or more years apart.

 

Obviously, 2.9% of all married couples in America is a small proportion of marriages, but still a HUGE number of couples - I have no idea how many.

 

Interesting, only 7.6% of marriages have the wife 4 or more years older than the husband. So one could conclude that having the husband 4 or more years younger than the wife (7.6%) is approximately as unusual in America as having the husband 10 or more years older (7.4%).

 

Of course, extrapolating from the fact that something is unusual, to the conclusion that it is therefore wrong or sick, would be a rather big logical leap to make. I hope no one here would be doing that.

Edited May 9, 2014 by iiiii

[Anela]

That's actually not the setup that they have. But if it makes you guys feel good to say it.

 

He pays her bills. Why would it make me feel better? I'm not interested in dating Robert Z, and she's a sugar baby, not a girlfriend. It actually creeps me out that the word "baby" is a part of it, along with his being a sugar "daddy".

[Anela]

This actually struck me as kind of sad. I mean, no one's 23 forever...why does it always have to be downhill? I hope it isn't really nightmarish for her. The one thing I'd hope a younger person dating an older one would gain is perspective on one's own aging. I mean, you find an older person sexy, so why not turn that perspective on yourself??

 

Ubiquitous (and boring) comments on older women and baggage notwithstanding, as presumably that works both ways. Older people, men and women, have had experiences. I'm sure that's what was meant.

 

If she's as smart as he says she is, then hopefully she will enjoy her coming years. I hope so, because that makes me sad, as well - I actually looked forward to my thirties.

 

This is part of what made me sad about the remarks regarding women over a certain age: those girls are going to be there eventually, and it will happen faster than they expect. So the same things that have been said about some of us in this thread, apply to those girls as well: this girl knows she's beautiful, and that her youth is her bread-and-butter when it comes to her earning potential with this sugar baby thing.