Consolidated Discussion - Older/younger woman/man and age gap dating

[RedRobin]

If RR's boyfriends makes 2/3 less than she does, he can't afford the luxuries that she can acquire.

 

That makes a big difference as to whether or not he can do anything significant with his looks/aging. After all, surgeries of any kind is very draining on the wallet.

 

Unless I make 6 figures a year (and I doubt I care enough to bother), I wouldn't be able to afford it either. Of course, I would look older than those other people that can pay for it.

 

They can wear friggin sunscreen. Especially if they can't afford to do anything about sun damage after the fact. It's never too late to start.

 

My BF can afford laser or IPL. It's not that expensive. I had it done to take care of some mild rosacea. (Gotta love that Scandinavian skin!).

 

Edited: I am not shallow. People know very well that my first criteria is character. good health is important to me, yes. If you are aging prematurely, it's because you aren't healthy. So shoot me. I've already lost one partner prematurely. Besides looking good (to me), there are some very practical reasons I am not into old guys or guys who look old before their time.

Edited February 1, 2016 by RedRobin

[123321]

And yet is able to keep up with RR's looks standards?

 

In a word, yes. It doesn't take money to take care of oneself, in fact the currency most required is TIME, which we often exchange for money.

[Rejected Rosebud]

I agree. Any man that is a success wouldn't want a burnout. Trump being prime example. Who wants a burnout that could potentially drag you down and ruin the look of success

You are saying that a woman who is not in her prime of youth and beauty is a "burnout"?? Wow. Those successful guys must have to trade in about every 3-4 years or so.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Men are success objects, women are sex objects.

That only holds true for people who view other people as objects. That's not universal.

[joystickd]

You are saying that a woman who is not in her prime of youth and beauty is a "burnout"?? Wow. Those successful guys must have to trade in about every 3-4 years or so.

 

Those type of guys think that. It's their metric of success not mine. Honestly any gender can be a burnout. Is the level of burnout tolerable? Anyone out here has to answer that question for themselves. Plus the thinking is if as a man you have to be the aggressor and approach then its their choice and preference to do whatever they want. If its so much of a problem then women shouldn't even focus on the issue.

 

In my case it doesn't matter I've dated women way older than me. It's a matter of mindset. How do you handle yourself in regards to dealing with me? It's something I don't worry about now. Preferences aren't a bad thing until you are excluded because of it.

[Aniela]

It's not personal for me. I'm happy for people to enjoy parenthood at any age they choose

 

The assertion was that men's fertility is not affected by age. Medical research has revealed that to be a myth, and men as well as women can benefit from that knowledge when planning their families.

 

I've noticed more articles about this, as well.

 

I also haven't known many older man/younger woman pairings, where the man actually wanted children. My sister's husband doesn't (so she has no children, even though she loves babies), a friend of mine whose husband is eighteen years older than her, also doesn't want kids. I could name more, but I'll leave it at that.

[Buddhist]

I don't drink and I definitely don't smoke but I do eat fast food on an average of 1.5 times every 2 days and, as a result, I do have some stomach fat on me. I could be clean for the next 4-5 years and STILL not be completely fit because it will not fix the health damage I did to my body for the past 10 years.

 

Sorry but this belief is a steaming pile. I was fat (well about 10kgs overweight) during my 20's. Lost it in 3 months in my early 30's and have never seen it back since. I'm in my 40's now. Fat is fat, if you stop doing the things that create it you will not have it. It's that simple. It doesn't take 5yrs to shift some stomach fat. It takes about 3 months. You're making excuses for yourself and that's all you are doing.

 

My face got so badly sunburnt as a kid it was a constant scab every summer. No joke, but I have porcelain skin today, few wrinkles and practically no freckles or pigmentation. I did the damage before I was 10, I it healed because I looked after myself as soon as I knew better (around age 18). Sorry but your assertion is BS, I know because I'm living proof of it. $10 in sunscreen and $15 worth of rosehip oil cures sun damage.

Edited February 5, 2016 by Buddhist

[fireflywy]

READ THIS!

 

Why is it such a struggle for single women over 45 to meet a soulmate? | Daily Mail Online

 

There IS hope if you just change your perspective and dating settings.

[road]

READ THIS!

 

Why is it such a struggle for single women over 45 to meet a soulmate? | Daily Mail Online

 

There IS hope if you just change your perspective and dating settings.

 

 

The woman that dated a man briefly and wanted to see him more. Then he drifted off and tried other woman. He decided to come back to her. She gets bent and tells him to bug off. Then she complains she can't get a man.

 

 

How about she gets a reality check. Do to many reasons she is not getting men to chase her. Yet she lets her ego tell that man to get lost.

 

 

As to the other women in that article yes they are having a hard time getting a man. Though without pictures, not seeing them in a video, not directly hearing from them, we will never know why they are un-datable.

 

 

Yes one woman had a child, yet lots of other single mom's get taken off the market.

 

 

Yes some where married before. That to does not prove their value as a potential GF/wife. After all if they were that good why are they still not married?

 

 

It is not rocket science to know that youth and looks are key attractors for both men and women.

 

 

Then wealth, social status, fame, career, can compensate for youth and looks.

 

 

The people that I know that are alone is because they have/do things that are deal breakers and refuse to change.

 

 

Yes a face that is not good looking can't be changed. Though going around with a big mega watt smile really helps.

 

 

You can't get taller though you can get rid of the fat and toned.

 

 

No game. Get books on social skills.

 

 

Or sit home with ones cats/dog.

[fireflywy]

The woman that dated a man briefly and wanted to see him more. Then he drifted off and tried other woman. He decided to come back to her. She gets bent and tells him to bug off. Then she complains she can't get a man.

 

 

How about she gets a reality check. Do to many reasons she is not getting men to chase her. Yet she lets her ego tell that man to get lost.

 

 

As to the other women in that article yes they are having a hard time getting a man. Though without pictures, not seeing them in a video, not directly hearing from them, we will never know why they are un-datable.

 

 

Yes one woman had a child, yet lots of other single mom's get taken off the market.

 

 

Yes some where married before. That to does not prove their value as a potential GF/wife. After all if they were that good why are they still not married?

 

 

It is not rocket science to know that youth and looks are key attractors for both men and women.

 

 

Then wealth, social status, fame, career, can compensate for youth and looks.

 

 

The people that I know that are alone is because they have/do things that are deal breakers and refuse to change.

 

 

Yes a face that is not good looking can't be changed. Though going around with a big mega watt smile really helps.

 

 

You can't get taller though you can get rid of the fat and toned.

 

 

No game. Get books on social skills.

 

 

Or sit home with ones cats/dog.

 

Point of the article is that there are many more women on the market after 45 then men amd if the poster changes his parameters a bit I'm sure he can meet a very nice woman that many men overlook due to age.

[road]

Point of the article is that there are many more women on the market after 45 then men amd if the poster changes his parameters a bit I'm sure he can meet a very nice woman that many men overlook due to age.

 

 

The percentage of men to women is pretty close. That means that there are not enough young women to go around for all of the men.

 

 

That means there has to be reasons why these 40+ women are left sitting along the wall.

[AMJ]

The percentage of men to women is pretty close. That means that there are not enough young women to go around for all of the men.

 

 

That means there has to be reasons why these 40+ women are left sitting along the wall.

 

Um, yeah...it's because 40+ men are dating women in their 30s instead of women their own age. And women in our 30's are settling for men in their 40s because so many men nowadays want to either wait until they're 40 to settle down, or don't want to settle at all.

[road]

Um, yeah...it's because 40+ men are dating women in their 30s instead of women their own age. And women in our 30's are settling for men in their 40s because so many men nowadays want to either wait until they're 40 to settle down, or don't want to settle at all.

 

 

You stated the obvious:

 

 

Men want younger women

There has always been a small group of men that do not want to marry

 

 

You have not addressed why when there is a shortage of younger women, so there is not enough of them to go around, why the age appropriate women are being left to sit along the wall and not asked to dance.

[AMJ]

You stated the obvious:

 

 

Men want younger women

There has always been a small group of men that do not want to marry

 

 

You have not addressed why when there is a shortage of younger women, so there is not enough of them to go around, why the age appropriate women are being left to sit along the wall and not asked to dance.

 

How is there a shortage of younger women? There will never be a shortage of younger women.

[halfarock]

I'm a better than average looking guy and have never had problems getting women to like me. There is something however that I've always wondered about.

 

Ever so often I'll run into a woman who, in the course of our conversation will make comments about me being attractive to other women. There is nothing wrong in this but some will add - especially the younger ones. It is why a younger woman would find me attractive that puzzles me.

 

I've always dated younger women, usually five to ten years younger than me or more. I'll soon be 57 and am still finding myself getting involved with women in their 20's. Lately I've been becoming entangled with a twenty year old woman.

 

Our social circles overlap and that is how I've come to know her. Initially, although I found myself highly attracted to her, I didn't act on that attraction because I thought of her as way too young. She doesn't see it that way and comes onto me.

 

My question is, what is it that some younger women see in older men, especially when the age gap is more than 30 years? I'd think that they'd prefer a younger man.

[soleilesquire]

I'm a better than average looking guy and have never had problems getting women to like me. There is something however that I've always wondered about.

 

Ever so often I'll run into a woman who, in the course of our conversation will make comments about me being attractive to other women. There is nothing wrong in this but some will add - especially the younger ones. It is why a younger woman would find me attractive that puzzles me.

 

I've always dated younger women, usually five to ten years younger than me or more. I'll soon be 57 and am still finding myself getting involved with women in their 20's. Lately I've been becoming entangled with a twenty year old woman.

 

Our social circles overlap and that is how I've come to know her. Initially, although I found myself highly attracted to her, I didn't act on that attraction because I thought of her as way too young. She doesn't see it that way and comes onto me.

 

My question is, what is it that some younger women see in older men, especially when the age gap is more than 30 years? I'd think that they'd prefer a younger man.

 

Pop psychologists and people with unaddressed past issues will tell you it is because they are/were damaged, preyed upon, have daddy issues, etc.

 

That may be the case with some. Some want a free ride. Some are sick of what they perceive as immaturity in their own age group. And some just like what they like.

 

There is no universal answer to this.

[road]

How is there a shortage of younger women? There will never be a shortage of younger women.

 

 

 

 

All the 20 year old men want 20 YO women

 

 

All the 30 year old men want 20 YO women

 

 

All the 30 year old men want 20 - 30 YO women

 

 

All the 40 year old men want 20 - 30 YO women

 

 

All the 50 year old men want 20 - 40 YO women

 

 

If every 20 YO man gets a 20 YO woman there will not be any young women to go around for the 30 - 50 YO men.

 

 

Again even if not all the 20 YO women get taken by the 20 YO men there still will not be enough to go around to provide a 20 YO woman for all of the 30 - 50 YO men.

 

 

So again with all those men not getting a young one they are having to settle for an age appropriate woman. So there has to be a reason these older women are not getting dates/relationships.

Edited February 16, 2016 by road

[AMJ]

All the 20 year old men want 20 YO women

 

 

All the 30 year old men want 20 YO women

 

 

All the 30 year old men want 20 - 30 YO women

 

 

All the 40 year old men want 20 - 30 YO women

 

 

All the 50 year old men want 20 - 40 YO women

 

 

If every 20 YO man gets a 20 YO woman there will not be any young women to go around for the 30 - 50 YO men.

 

 

Again even if not all the 20 YO women get taken by the 20 YO men there still will not be enough to go around to provide a 20 YO woman for all of the 30 - 50 YO men.

 

 

So again with all those men not getting a young one they are having to settle for an age appropriate woman. So there has to be a reason these older women are not getting dates/relationships.

 

 

Well there are simply less single women as they get older, right? Let's say 80% of all 20 year old women are single (just in theory), while only 40% of all 30 year old women are single, and only 30% of all 40 year old women are single.

 

If you look at it that way, there will always be more younger single women than older single women. And I'd argue that the rates of men at those ages who are single and looking for a relationship don't match up. As in, probably 30% of 20 year old men who are single want a relationship, as compared to 50% of 30 year old men, and probably 20% of 40 year old men.

 

Anyway, I will say that the majority of men in their 40s I meet in OLD are your stereotypical eternal bachelors. They are successful, in great shape, love their independence, and are really only searching for a beautiful young trophy to carry around until she gets boring. Then, on to the next.

 

Rarely do you come across a man who is in his 40s who is actually looking for a relationship with someone his own age.

Edited February 16, 2016 by AMJ

[daisyandroses]

I'm 18 for starters, and I've only been in a serious relationship with a 23 year old (at 16/17) and had a fling thing with a 26/27 year old at 17/18. Is it weird I'm always attracted to men who are 6-9 years older than me? What do guys think about dating women who are younger than them?

[123321]

We likes them, precious.

[daisyandroses]

We likes them, precious.

Mind me asking how old you are?

[Rydo]

Age is just a number, as long as you are 16+ obviously.

[123321]

Mind me asking how old you are?

 

I'm in my 40s, one of those boom-echo people.

[truth_seeker]

I'm 18 for starters, and I've only been in a serious relationship with a 23 year old (at 16/17) and had a fling thing with a 26/27 year old at 17/18. Is it weird I'm always attracted to men who are 6-9 years older than me? What do guys think about dating women who are younger than them?

 

What do I think? It's f'n great! :bunny::bunny::bunny:

 

Just be hot!

[daisyandroses]

Age is just a number, as long as you are 16+ obviously.

haha, how old are you? I never other than twice but its been 50/50 in trying to get a 20 something year old to date an 18 year old. My ex told me (to his friend, but I found out) "her maturity rivals a 21 year old intellect" - at the time that was 5 years older than me, but I digress.

 

It's usual the "you're too young for me" conversation that doesn't get it passed casual dating