without Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Ive dated only 2 guys one when i was 16 the other when 20.the first one told me after a few weeks that he just wanted sex and broke up wth me.(i didnt alow him to have sex with me i thought i wasnt ready)the other one after 19 months that he sweared he loved me and i thought everything was perfect ,suddenly broke up with me ,i told him the last week that i dont wanna have sex anymore .i didnt really felt like it ..i wanted more to give more..so im sure it was the sex that he left (he didnt memtion it was the reason,but if he loved me he wouldnt leave me heartbroken like this)..i have given up on love i think every man is like this..cuz i really thought he loved me.
Nohbody Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Were these guys the same age as you? In that case, you haven't experienced a relationship with any men, just boys. Look around, there are plenty of guys on this site alone that are crying their eyes out over some woman who left them. People don't tend to cry for lack of sex.
69ways Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Jesus Christ , just read the threads and you will find many heart broken guys that wanted much more than sex....what a question......
smudge21 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 It goes both ways - lost a few girls over my time due to the fact I didn't want to jump straight into bed with them. I liked them more than what was on the outside and wanted more than they were prepared to give - a serious relationship. So it all depends on the person. Their age can be a factor, but so can their upbringing, previous relationships, problems in their past, work, other friends, ex's... the list goes on. Just cos you met 2 bad eggs doesn't mean the whole farm is ruined, if you get my meaning.
Author without Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Im 20.one of them was 22 the other 26. So maybe i havent just seen ...
Sebstian Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 No, of course it is not all they're after, but it's a pivotal part of a relationship. No guy with any self respect would stay with a girl who didn't enjoy having sex with him. How can he see as anything but a rejection?
Author without Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 It was not like what you think,i really enjoyed having sex with him.
Sebstian Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Then why all of a sudden don't you feel like it anymore? If I was with girl who stopped wanting to have sex with me, I could only translate that as she was trying to get out of the relationship, unless she had been abused or gave some other reasonable explanation.
Author without Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Because he wasnt coming to see me more often i dont know the reason(mostly he was sad).and i told him i dont come to ur house either(we could have sex there).
Author without Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 here you can find the details,maybe you can help me more. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3519272&posted=1#post3519272 btw i dated him 10 months .I mistyped 19.
Bito Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Wait so he was sad and you guys stoped seeing eachother often. Then you say im done with sex cause I don't feel like it. Look at that situation from his perspective....
Author without Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Nooo from the first he was like this.he didn't come much.but as we started to love more i expected more.
Sebstian Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Ah ok read that post now, so it all makes more sense. It has nothing to do with just have sex. It seems he was just not that into you. Maybe along the way he was, but the feelings sort of died out. Of course he didn't say no thanks to sex, and when you tried to use it as a lever, because you felt used, he showed his cards. You did right in stopping having sex with him, because you'd only have felt more used. It doesn't sound as he is coming back tbh, so start working on focusing on getting your own life back right now. You'll only hurt yourself more and for longer obsessing over this. Don't delay your healing more than necessary. Start exercising (it really does wonders), meet new people, go partying, devote time to your hobbies etc. You WILL get out on top, trust that even though it seems impossible right now! I know it's hard, but try and to see it from the bright side. He's depressed, and haven't got the energy to give to anybody. You're better off with someone who's fun to be around and that really fancies you. Try a rebound, it usually helps. Go kiss some other guys:) I know it sounds cliché as hell, but you'll see it for yourself soon enough, there are loads of other fish in the sea. Fun, loving, good looking and sexy fish. Good luck hon... // Seb
sally4sara Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Ive dated only 2 guys one when i was 16 the other when 20.the first one told me after a few weeks that he just wanted sex and broke up wth me.(i didnt alow him to have sex with me i thought i wasnt ready)the other one after 19 months that he sweared he loved me and i thought everything was perfect ,suddenly broke up with me ,i told him the last week that i dont wanna have sex anymore .i didnt really felt like it ..i wanted more to give more..so im sure it was the sex that he left (he didnt memtion it was the reason,but if he loved me he wouldnt leave me heartbroken like this)..i have given up on love i think every man is like this..cuz i really thought he loved me. So because of these two guys you believe all men everywhere want nothing more than sex? Do you know how many men inhabit this planet. Sheer odds alone make this a dumb question. Not to mention how no one seems to be content with any one thing after a while - sex is not the only thing anyone wants.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Jesus Christ , just read the threads and you will find many heart broken guys that wanted much more than sex....what a question...... Please don't take my name in vain. To the OPer: All guys want sex, some want "just sex", but most want the comfort of loving and being loved along with the sex.
antinko Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I'm a guy and I really enjoy sex: it's important for relationships in my opinion, but I know I loved my ex for so much more than that. I can't explain why I loved them actually - I just know that I would have done practically anything to ensure their well-being.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Ive dated only 2 guys one when i was 16 the other when 20.the first one told me after a few weeks that he just wanted sex and broke up wth me.(i didnt alow him to have sex with me i thought i wasnt ready)the other one after 19 months that he sweared he loved me and i thought everything was perfect ,suddenly broke up with me ,i told him the last week that i dont wanna have sex anymore .i didnt really felt like it ..i wanted more to give more..so im sure it was the sex that he left (he didnt memtion it was the reason,but if he loved me he wouldnt leave me heartbroken like this)..i have given up on love i think every man is like this..cuz i really thought he loved me. if sex is all you got, thats all men will want. All men want sex, but you have to do better filtering the guys that really like you from the ones that just want sex. You wont get enough practice from dating 2 guys. You dont have to have sex with everyone, but you should be able to figure out in one month if they only want you for sex. You wont figure this out until you start learning how to read between the lines in different personalities. BTW if you only go for "hot" guys, many of them will only want sex, because they have choices of hot girls.
BraNNdon Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 This is wrong. I dont know if you guys would consider me a man, since I'm only 16, but I really cared about the girl that broke up with me.She broke up cause of religion, something she really didn't wanna do but her parents forced her. I loved her for her personality, her everything. There's a difference when u only think of a girl as a "sexy" kind of attraction and a "she's a keeper" kind of attraction. I admit I get some urges sometimes, but they're just fun to say with her, but never really serious. I love her for who she really is, that I really care, so no, not all guys just want sex.
RodG Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Ive dated only 2 guys one when i was 16 the other when 20.the first one told me after a few weeks that he just wanted sex and broke up wth me.(i didnt alow him to have sex with me i thought i wasnt ready)the other one after 19 months that he sweared he loved me and i thought everything was perfect ,suddenly broke up with me ,i told him the last week that i dont wanna have sex anymore .i didnt really felt like it ..i wanted more to give more..so im sure it was the sex that he left (he didnt memtion it was the reason,but if he loved me he wouldnt leave me heartbroken like this)..i have given up on love i think every man is like this..cuz i really thought he loved me. Hey, I really loved my girlfriend and she was as frigid as they come. She never wanted to have sex...and when we did it was pretty boring. I always thought it would change but I stayed with her. I wouldn't leave a girl because they're frigid...and guess what? she dumped me. We went months sometimes without sex...not my fault. I never pressured her and I didn't only want sex, ever. I could be with her and never have sex...I just plain loved her even though she had many shortcomings. So she is the one who dumped me because of my shortcomings... it makes no sense. I obviously was way more into making it work and putting forth an effort than her. Now she's out a lot and probably met someone and has sex all the time! Figure that one out.
t_i Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Hey lovely, I completely know how you feel. I'm 21 and my ex would sleep with me then still wouldn't know what he wanted anymore. Well done to saying no to sex it wouldn't have felt better. Not all guys will treat you like this though. I believe all girls should make the effort in bed but without the emotions it won't mean much. There will be someone out there who would think of himself as lucky to have you and you'll just be shocked that you dated people who treated you any less !
Author without Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 (edited) Thanks everyone for the comments ,esp Sebstian . and t_i. I really feel depressed because i tried my best for this to work out.I feel better now after hearing you guys. Edited July 22, 2011 by without
Conscience Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 (edited) PLZ!!!! Guys! Stop the BS, we all know that in any couple when the female doesn't want to give it up anymore it starts to generate problems in a couple regardless of the age. Why well simple men express deep emotions when making love to women and by all means women need as much sex as men then only difference is that they loose interest in us men quite easily! That being said men need to stay competitive and keep their women interested. But ultimately this post is a prime example this girl doesn't seem to be that interested in sex is it her fault? Probably not it’s probably the guys she was with that didn't know how to make is women want it! Anyhow there are great books and info online about the topic I would invite you to get the info Edited July 22, 2011 by Conscience
just_scott Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 hey my past relationship where i was recently dumpped i didn't just want sex it was way more to it than that.. BUT now i aint lookin for a relationship BUT just sex every so often ya know i go out to the bars / clubs hang out talk try n get the girl to leave with me [sometimes it works ] and just have sex and she can go on her merry way that's cool with me as for my ex i don't think about her , i don't care what she's up too ,sometimes she'll call and it's just fun hearing her try to get answers from me and getting frustrated
Desert Rose Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 For me, sex should be based on love, otherwise...there'd be no difference between us and animals (sorry!)
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