Wesker Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 Here's a couple links to get my back story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t284031/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t286359/ So I'm 7 weeks out now. I really thought I was doing pretty good. Even after sending my letter, I felt I've turned a corner to move on. But for some reason, this whole week just has dragged me down. Maybe because it's the middle of summer, and we would do all these fun things together outside. Or maybe our would be 8 year anniversary is coming up in a couple weeks, and I keep thinking of that. I don't know. It sucks because it feels like I've moved 2 steps back. Being a co-worker, I usually see her at least once a day, and if we make eye contact, I'll just kinda smile and move on. Aside from my letter, and seeing her at work, I've been pretty much been No Contact since the breakup. Would maybe going to Limited Contact, and just saying hi if we run into each other be ok? I just feel like it would at least take some of the awkwardness we get when seeing each other. Interested in opinions too on how to deal with an ex, and being a co-worker. (I know, don't date them in the first place for one) Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 I think that feeling of awkwardness and constant fear of seeing her is only adding to all those other feelings you're going through whilst trying to stay NC. In essence you're focusing on trying to force out these emotions for her whilst at the same time building up feelings everytime you know you're going to see her. Does that make sense? I would suggest just being polite with her - accepting that you will always see her so just deal with it, say hi and move on. Other than that there's no really easy way to help you heal. Seeing the person every day is torture and there's quite a few here who know exactly what you're going through, myself included. Stay strong, it will get better. Link to post Share on other sites
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