Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Well.. it looks like my newer thread was deleted. This forum has become really strict, like a communist dictatorship. Anyway, last night my wife and I were sitting on the couch, the following things all happened, weird that they all involve feet. NO we don't have foot fetishes, haha. 1. My wife was tickling me with her feet while laying on the couch 2. My wife kissed my foot twice while laying on the couch 3. She has a wood splinter/sliver in her foot and asked me to take it out for her, but she knows I am squeamish and could not do it - She said, you aren't going to be able to do this for our kids, I will have to do it! ___ WTF?! Kind of flirting behavior and now mentioning something about kids. I am so confused. Should I think something of any of this? Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Please tell me she kissed the top of your foot and not the bottom. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 wgw: Yes, haha top of my foot... in kind of a cute way. Weird, I don't know what to think now and I don't know what to think about this forum. Upsetting that they would lock one of my threads and just delete the other. I am trying to get help here, heal myself, stay sane. Please don't take this away from me moderators! Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Why did the other one get deleted? Curse words? Maybe there's some arbitrary threshold and it automatically gets doinked. Also maybe the other one got locked because it reached some sort of maximum point. Heck if I know! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 Nah, there was no cursing. I thought that could be the case for the first thread but looked around and saw other threads that were much longer! If you go to on of the sections of the forums by the admins.. they state spring cleaning, or something like that - they are locking, deleting and changing titles of certain threads. Stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 It's no big deal, just do what you're doing and start a new thread. It will probably work out better that way anyhow. Most threads that get beyond about a dozen pages have gotten so far off topic they bear no resemblance to the OP anyway, and some much quicker than that. Quite frankly, this new subject matter you introduced (IMO) deserved a thread of its own anyway. I don't know if I've ever commented in your other threads, but I've been following them, and trust me it's not at all confusing to move to another thread for those of us paying attention. Just go with the flow. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Just ask the moderators why they deleted your other thread. Who knows why they did it. The moderation on this forum is interesting to say the least. Honestly, I am not sure why you seem to spin off over every little thing this woman does. Why does she have such control over your life? My friend you need to learn to NOT follow her around like a lost puppy. 1. Has she gotten that job yet? 2. Is she cleaning the house/cooking for you while you are working? 3. You do know that in order to have kids you need to have sex right.... See if it were me I'd have taken her head off saying just that, "kids are you kidding me?? We would need to ____ first to actually reproduce". I might have also suggested that kids costs money and if she wants to stay up all night playing video games and clubbing with her friends then kids might be tough. My friend I have come to care about you, but unless you deal with your own insecurities and issues ANY relationship you will be involved in will be out of balance. Send this woman packing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 reboot: Thanks for checking out my threads. I figured most people here, could follow. Plus, you are right - this makes it easier for every one. Tech_E: I have emailed the moderators before with no response, oh well. The reason I am reading into all of the foot stuff yesterday is because she has treated me for the past 2-3 months in such a cold, pulled back way. I am seeing these as kind of flirting and the mention of kids is just crazy. She had a second interview with the company she interviewed with last week and is putting more resumes out today as we speak. She has been cleaning the house, not cooking so much - occasionally we have cooked together. And yes, I am familiar with the mechanics of procreating, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 You need to search within yourself and make sure you really want to be with this woman and not just starving for sex and too lazy to look elsewhere..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 reboot: Sex is not the issue, nor laziness. 10 years invested in this woman, more good times than bad times. We have been through a lot and I am not quite at the point where I want to thrown in the towel, but it is not far away. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 wgw: Yes, haha top of my foot... in kind of a cute way. Weird, I don't know what to think now and I don't know what to think about this forum. Upsetting that they would lock one of my threads and just delete the other. I am trying to get help here, heal myself, stay sane. Please don't take this away from me moderators! Check you PM's Surfer. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 *clip* Quite frankly, this new subject matter you introduced (IMO) deserved a thread of its own anyway. Yup! It's good to start new threads every so often. When they get to 100 replies it's hard enough for ppl to keep up. But over 1k WOW! It's hard for ppl to follow along unless they are diehard Surfer fans! LMAO JK on the last comment Surfer. Hope to bring a laugh to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 Ms. Red, haha I don't know how many fans I have here these days. Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 The reason I am reading into all of the foot stuff yesterday is because she has treated me for the past 2-3 months in such a cold, pulled back way. I am seeing these as kind of flirting and the mention of kids is just crazy. . you're getting some scraps thrown your way... a little foot play and that gets your hopes up, she knows it, it's just buying her more time... she just reset the clock and now for a few weeks you can keep saying "but she was just flirting with me a few weeks ago" as you continue to go around in circles.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 andy: That is all I will take it as for now. Unless it continues or goes further. For now, it's just meaningless crap. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 andy: That is what I will take for now. If it continues or doesn't goes further, I will keep hanging on in the meantime. For now, it's just meaningful for me. I re-wrote your post for your Sufer! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 Very funny.. I get your point though Ms. Red. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 reboot: Sex is not the issue, nor laziness. 10 years invested in this woman, more good times than bad times. We have been through a lot and I am not quite at the point where I want to thrown in the towel, but it is not far away. make up your mind! you talk out of both sides of your mouth. most likely why your threads get shut down... you're in - you're out... huh? yet you post in the separation and divorce forum, hmmm always the same... not sure if i'm in the M or on the way out... make a decision - for YOURSELF! not one based on what someone else is or isn't doing... then feed energy into the decision you make = staying or leaving. you sitting on the fence is getting old for all. and her kissing your foot? hell - tell her to kiss you higher up than that! seriously! you are married! she should be doing YOU every day! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 2sunny: I could not agree with you more. I guess for now I am still trying to make it work, I am still in it. As I have mentioned before, I am getting to a point where I can hang on no longer. That's where I am at now. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 2sunny: I could not agree with you more. I guess for now I am still trying to make it work, I am still in it. As I have mentioned before, I am getting to a point where I can hang on no longer. That's where I am at now. which is it? still fence sitting... hmmmmm you have your evidence. she'd be having mad sex with you every night IF she intended to do this thing you call marriage. it wouldn't be limited to pathetically kissing your foot. look at the title - you are still TRYING... no such thing! problem is = there seems to be no DOING! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Share Posted July 22, 2011 2sunny: She is not a very affectionate person, especially lately. That is why these actions have made me wonder what the hell is going on. And, it's both of those.. I am still trying, eventually I will stop trying - not sure when or what it will take but I feel that I don't have much more in me. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 2sunny: She is not a very affectionate person, especially lately. That is why these actions have made me wonder what the hell is going on. And, it's both of those.. I am still trying, eventually I will stop trying - not sure when or what it will take but I feel that I don't have much more in me. stop trying and start DOING. action! if your wife was also into action - she'd be all over you showering you with love and affection... IF she intended to make this work. her inaction tells you everything you won't admit to yourself. she's making no effort for you, for the M - it's only designed to serve herself... and that's not loving behavior. she's not giving of herself because she's not interested. face the facts man, it's been over a long time ago - but you continue to deny the reality of what she ISN'T DOING! she's making NO effort to repair the damage SHE caused. it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 Loud and clear 2sunny. I am thinking about this deeply. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 I hate to hurt you with this Surfer so I say this with all love and affection. That whole not into affection thing is such bullcrap. Many people use that as an excuse for "Just not that into you". Sure, many people are not into PDA=I get that. But here she is in the house with her husband that she wants to reconcile with and she has not ONCE that I know of, not once, initated sex with you. NOT ONCE. In months. I guarantee you that she was affectionate with OM. And ouch I know that hurt. She should have kissed the top of your foot and trailed a line of kisses up your leg and gave you a great bout of oral sex before bed. Geeze. How is she scratching this itch?? I don't get it. You're married. If I am married to someone that I suposedly love and I want to work it out with them and I know that lovemaking would make them feel more connected to them. And I am attracted to them- at some point- even if I am pissed- I am going to want to have sex. Because I love it. Have you considered that she is just not attracted to you anymore? I mean really???? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 I hate to hurt you with this Surfer so I say this with all love and affection. That whole not into affection thing is such bullcrap. Many people use that as an excuse for "Just not that into you". Sure, many people are not into PDA=I get that. But here she is in the house with her husband that she wants to reconcile with and she has not ONCE that I know of, not once, initated sex with you. NOT ONCE. In months. I guarantee you that she was affectionate with OM. And ouch I know that hurt. She should have kissed the top of your foot and trailed a line of kisses up your leg and gave you a great bout of oral sex before bed. Geeze. How is she scratching this itch?? I don't get it. You're married. If I am married to someone that I suposedly love and I want to work it out with them and I know that lovemaking would make them feel more connected to them. And I am attracted to them- at some point- even if I am pissed- I am going to want to have sex. Because I love it. Have you considered that she is just not attracted to you anymore? I mean really???? exactly! this is a bigger problem than he's willing to admit. any wife who is looking to repair the damage they've done would be jumping your bones 24/7 if they intended to stay in the marriage with good intentions. she's acting completely selfish and self serving. she shouldn't be going "out" even once a week, she hasn't earned any trust. what's that bs all about? she's out searching for your replacement while she's out. have you checked her phone everyday? phone bill? do you have her email passwords? she sure looks like she's still got her agenda at the forefront of her mind. and not thinking of you at all. kissed your feet - give me a break! Link to post Share on other sites
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