You never were and never will be mine...

[LilThalie]

I think we all experienced these moments where you meet someone, it's somehow special. Let's just say it's memorable. You talk, you flirt, maybe go out a couple of times. You are both interested and it develops into NOTHING. One of the million things that could go wrong, did go wrong. Maybe it was wrong timing, you were on different pages, you had major changes ahead in your life, distance got in the way, you just miscommunicated or some other reason... Yet you know there was something, a glimpse of something beautiful. But it never developed into anything, you never got to know how it feels to wake up next to this person..

 

Your experiences? Good memories? Regrets? Share your stories!

[Professor X]

Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

 

But, not sure if this is what you mean considering you've added "maybe go out a couple of times".

[oaks]

Your experiences? Good memories? Regrets? Share your stories!

 

You first.

[LilThalie]

You first.

 

Alright, here we go: Of course, there was one person on my mind when posting this. Him. The guy, a player I heard people say. Maybe I'm better off that nothing ever happened between us.

 

But let's start at the beginning. My second year of college, his third. It was right before christmas at a party. He approached me and wanted me to dance with his friend, my friends rescued me. Half an hour later he came over and introduced himself. I said, nice to meet you and turned away. After christmas break, he suddenly ran into me every other day, just smiled and said hi. 4 weeks later, he stops and askes me to have breakfast with him. It was exam time, everyone spent the entire day at the library. Him and I spent our coffee breaks together, everyday at 4 pm for about three weeks, some heavy flirting. Then after-exam parties roll around. We always meet each other "accidentally". There was a lot of attraction there. At that time I heard all kind of bad stories about him and the way he treats girls, he uses them for sex, can't keep his attention on one girl for more than one night, the perfect player. At every party, he overloads me with attention, then all of sudden he pulls the "I want you, I want to kiss you, I want to take you back to my place, but I can't, I just can't. You're wonderful and I won't hurt you." Wow. I was so confused. He had worked his way towards getting this close to me and then decided he didn't want me anymore. Rejection, that's what it felt like. I was sure he didn't want me and opted for the easy way out. Next party, he comes up to me, we talk, we flirt, everything all over again. He asks me to kiss him, I ask him why, he says, just do it. I don't do anything. We just stand there and look into each others eyes for two hours. I leave.

 

Semester break. I don't hear from him.

 

First week back at college, I run into him. We talk, have dinner together. The entire semester, we see each other every other week, no dates, just accidental encounters. He flirts with me big time. I react to it. It's playful, fun. My friends roll their eyes at us, so do his. It continues like this for all of April, May and June. He completes his bachelor thesis, I know he will leave, there are two last parties. I'm there with friends, he drops by where I am every 20 minutes, he grabs me dances with me.

Next day, next party. He's upset because I didn't say goodbye the other night. He acts on it, like a little child. I'm annoyed. His best friend comes up to me and says: "I know you like him, he likes you too. Why can't you guys make this work already?" They play "Time of my life", we dance together. The party is over, I leave immediately to catch my bus.

 

Never saw him or heard of him since.

[tigressA]

This happened to me three separate times in my life! The first time, I wasn't sure if the guy was actually interested, and instead of making a move like I usually did then so I could find out once and for all, I left it alone. Some other girl landed him and we lost touch. Last I heard, he was engaged--but that was 4 years ago.

 

The second time, we were both multi-dating. I was looking for a relationship, he wasn't at the time, so I reluctantly, yet wisely, parted from him. Again, he was eventually snapped up by someone--most likely the other girl he was seeing at the same time as me.

 

The third time, it was distance and his work that got in the way. He just didn't have the time to invest in a relationship and with our circumstances, things just fizzled out. We are friends and talk once in awhile. He's still single--I tease him about his 'bachelor' fridge. If we had been in the same vicinity it likely would've turned into something, though the fact that he intended to return to his home country after he finished his PhD. probably would've split us up in the end.

 

I feel lucky having experienced these almost-but-not-quite scenarios. They were each quite lovely in their own way, and make for good memories. And I do have a great relationship now, so I don't look back and say "What if...?" longingly.