little_hummingbird Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Any suggestions? Here's the scoop - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now. He has completely opposite political views compared to my parents (specifically my Mom) and is strong willed. In the few times he's been around my folks, it's been very uncomfortable with political banter, etc. My Mom doesn't ask me about him anymore. When she talks about other women who have boyfriends, she's clear to highlight the fact that they have college degrees (my boyfriend does not). I have chosen so far not to react to my Mom or ask her straight out why she dislikes my boyfriend. She's made it clear though with her slight remarks that he's not high on her list. Should I tell my Mom to "shove it, I'm almost 30 years old? You don't pay my bills".....(It's hard because I'm an only child now and my sister commited suicide 6 years ago --- so my Mom's super clingy) My boyfriend has made it clear to me that he doesn't agree with my folks all the time but he respects them. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
average guy Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 Rule #1: Never let your date discuss politics or religeon with your parents But seriuosly, are you thinking or marrying this guy? If so, it's him you will be spending everyday of the rest of your life with, not your mother, so make a choice for YOU, not him or your mother. Good luck A.G. Link to post Share on other sites
sprightlee Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 I agree with A.G., politics are not a great topic for discussion with your significant other's parents. If that is the only problem that they have with him, then I wouldn't worry about it. However, I would ask him to bite his tongue a bit, perhaps that would help ease the unrest. Link to post Share on other sites
AngelicDevl Posted April 30, 2004 Share Posted April 30, 2004 I would advise your bf to avoid the subjects of: sex, politics, & religion with your parents. As for you rmother making comments about his not having a college degree, I think thats none of her business. My bf doesnt have one either, but owns his own successful business. I am college educated and he makes more than I do! Having a college degree or not is NOT good indicator of how a person is. If he is good to you, loves you, you love him, and your relationship is healthy, THOSE should be better indicators of knowing if what you have will last forever. He should try to get along with your parents better and just ignore what your parents say, even if they are blatantly ignorant to him. My father has been like that to every guy I've ever dated, including my bf now. It has taken time, but he has warmed up to him over time mainly because he sees that he is a good man, regardless of the amount of education he has. Although, when my dad never warmed up to my ex husband, I SHOULD have paidmore attention and ran screaming in the other direction rather than married the SOB. It's going to take effort on your man's part, but he has to be the bigger person to make it work. Thats just how it goes with parents. Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Hey, I used to be in a relationship with this guy whose parents had racist problems. And I was discriminated for something I can't change.... the race I was born into. I lived! Haha! From where I stand, you boy didn't do anything wrong... everyone has a right of opinion. If you are serious about this guy, go for it. You will be the one waking up next to him for the rest of your life. Your parents should know that. A man who speaks his mind..... I wouldn't mind one myself.... Link to post Share on other sites
abbyroadme Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 As long as you love the guy, that's all that matters. I don't agree politically with my boyfriend, but who cares. Everyone is allowed to their opinion. Maybe you should have a talk with your parents....show them how happy you are with him. Link to post Share on other sites
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